Moving away from your parents
By coffeeshot
@coffeeshot (3783)
Australia
March 11, 2009 11:56pm CST
...or your parents moving away from you which is what is happenieng to me right now. For as long as I can remember my father has always been a country boy. He grew up on farms with his brothers and has alwas hated living in the city. Well the other nightmum called me and told me some 'exciting news'.
"We're moving to Conondale!"Conondale is in Australia, out in whoop whoop. Well, only a couple of hours away but it's a long way from suburbia where we live now.
When mum told me, I was actually quite sad, even a bit angry. I'm so used to having my parents here whenever I need them, there's food int he fridge whenever I run out at my house and my little brothers and sisters and dog are only 10minutes down the road if I ever miss them and want to hang out with them. Now they'll be a whole road trip away!It is kind of cool that I will have a country escape to go to whenever I want, but I will miss them.
Have your parents moved away from you or you away from your parents? How did it affect you?
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18 responses
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Yes mine moved back to a small town that they moved me out of at 8 years old. I was mad at the time as that would be 152 miles to drive to see them. And it was like how dare you move now. When I wanted to stay there I couldn't as I was a child. Now you move back. But I got over it. It was better for my Dads health so have to look at the big pic. which sometimes is no fun. My parents moved me every two to three years. Never made any true friends as wasn't there long enough to keep them. So now as a adult don't make friends as don't really know how. Scared they will leave and they do. But life goes on. You have a great day and you will be OK. Your friend onlydia
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Well, I'm the one who moved from home for almost a year already.. After I graduated my college, my older sister wants me to find a job soon in the big city in our country since she knows that if I'll just stay and find job in our places I won't earn very big and I can't save money.. My parents were also agree with her so I don't have a choice but to try living in the big city together with my older sister even though i hate it.. Luckily, after my arrived here for 3 weeks I had already found a job.. Honestly, I'm not happy living here and even my job.. Its too bored here because I don't have friends to hang out and no pets to play with.. My life in here are very boring.. I always stay at home every weekend or holidays.. Actually, I can't still save money right now since my earnings isn't big.. As of now, I want to find a job which can give a good salary.. I just hope that I won't stay here for so long because if that's will happen then maybe I'll be crazy already.. 
@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
13 Mar 09
My parents live close so I have never been far away from them but when I moved out when I was 18 and moved in with my then boyfriend, now husband, I cried when I hugged them goodbye and all the way to the new house. I had never been apart from them and it was one of the hardest days of my life but also a very happy one.
I especially cried when my dad hugged me really tight because he has never been very good at sowing his love but that day I knew my dad loved me and would miss me even though I was only going to be 20 minutes away.
So sorry your mom and dad are going father away but you will still be able to see them and talk to them. Sometimes people just need to get away and need a change of scenery.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I moved away from my parents as soon as I was able to under the law. They were never supportive and getting away from them was the best action to take. They probably should never have had kids, but I made the best of it. What else can one do?
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
13 Mar 09
I moved three hours away from my parents when I got married - but I was happy to be with my husband and to have an independent life. My parents have since moved and are only about 20 minutes away, but we don't visit them often, as we all enjoy our privacy and we're pretty quiet people. My Mum and I email frequently during the day, but we only really get together occasionally.
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@CrushThisCharade (159)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I went to boarding school and then to college, so technically I've been living away from home for 8 years now. I recently moved into my own apartment, and it's a strange adjustment! Learning self-reliance is really tough - there's so many day-to-day activities that you have to do yourself now. Buying groceries, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry - you can't just toss your clothes into the hamper and wait for mom to come and do the laundry anymore! All these little things can add up and make you really stressed or sad. The best best way to deal with it, I think, is to make your place as "homey" as possible. Decorate away! Set up a schedule when you do "house things" like grocery shop or clean. Like everything else, it takes some time to get used to, but have fun with the fact that you're no longer living with them! Make your place your own. :)
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
14 Mar 09
I had no choice but to move out of home when my parents decided to sell our home and move overseas to be with my grandfather who was very ill. They were also promised many other things from my mothers family, but that never worked out. I think I was in my early 20s then. I moved in with a cousin and have been away from my parents ever since.
I have also moved two countries and even though I do miss them from time to time, we keep in touch often. My mum visited us last summer for two weeks and that was nice. I hope to see them again at Christmas time, if not this year, definitely next year in New Zealand.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
14 Mar 09
i moved out,and to the other coast,but mom asked me to come back because my dad was dying,and then when he did,she asked me to stay (she really isn't well enough to be alone).i kind of liked having the freedom of my own house,but sometimes you just got to.the long distance phone calls were killing me anyway
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I am so sorry to hear you parents are moving away from you. I am glad you have a good relationship with them. Yes my parents moved away from me and that was fine because we did not get along.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
9 Jun 09
Hello coffeeshot. When I graduated from college at the age of nineteen, I moved away from my parents because I was assigned to work in another place, which was far. But during the summer and winter vacations and some other holidays I always came back to live with them in the same house till I got married with my own house. Now my parents are living happily in their own house in the city while mine is in a small town close to the city where I was born.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
12 Mar 09
Hello coffeeshot. I used to live together with my parents till I got my own apartment. Now my parents live in their own house and my own family live in my own house. But I still miss my days when I lived together with my parents. It is nice to be together with my parents and we can take good care of each other when living together, but it is hard as we live far away from each other in a different city. I miss my parents and wish them to always take good care of themselves without me and my wife next to them. Take care, friend.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
here in the Philippines that rarely happens..sometimes parents wont allow their children to move out unless they got married..even sometimes married they still live with them in one roof..me? i can go by my own and can live with the whole family..i experience being away.. i worked from different city and i had to live on my own for 5 years..i already got used being alone anyway, i guess that's because that's what i wanted best--to be alone...
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@Braveheartok103 (380)
• China
12 Mar 09
Now I am moving away from my parents. When I was graduated from college, I have to find a job for myself, so I have to leave my home and my parents to live a whole new life. I think this is what they expected although they do not want to live away from me. But I have a great idea that when they are retired, I want them to live with me.
Happy mylotting!
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
14 Mar 09
i moved out of my mother's house when I was 20. I'm now 27, and am still living in my first apartment. When my husband came to Canada he moved in here with me. We are going to stay here for as long as possible. The apartment is a nice size for two people, and the location is absolutely fantastic. We love it in here. As for how it affected me, it was nice to have more freedom
@amanda333 (739)
• France
12 Mar 09
Hi Coffeeshot, Yes I moved away from my parents, to another country. My family/parents all live in England, and me, my husband and children moved to France about seven years again. I do feel sad sometimes and I do miss them like crazy. My two brothers also live in England and nieces and nephews, but hey life is about seeing new things in the world and finding new experiences. Having a computer is good, so I can talk with them, and also I ring my mum everyday. 
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Hi coffee,
I'm sure they have good reason for moving. Did they tell you why they are moving? I doubt that they would just pick up and move 2 hrs. away to get away from you.
Yes, when I got married the first time, I was 20. We got married on sat. and left for California on Sunday. I was born and raised in Florida. Talk about being scared and excited all at once!!! I made that decision to leave my Family, 2 sisters one of which is my twin, and six brothers. Not to mention all my cousins and the rest of the family. But I chose to do this. Talk about growing up fast. Actually, my first hubby and I grew up together. We were married 15 years and it for the most part wasn't good. That's another story. I am now back in Florida near my siblings again and often feel an urge to go back to Ca. It will be ok coffee. We're here for you.
leenie
