Kids
By gvannorman
@gvannorman (438)
United States
March 12, 2009 12:21am CST
I am wondering why some kids act the way they act today. Sometimes they seem to expect and do not think that earning respect is necessary. We as adults have to give our children a good life, that is our job. Their job is to appreciate the life we gave them. But, it seems that kids these days feel that regardless of how good they have it, they still have to be rude and sometimes disrespectful to their parents and other adults in authority positions.
Look at how some kids treat their teachers. Some kids just feel that adults are just out to make their life terrible and will say and do things just to hurt those that love them. Not all kids, just a select bunch.
Just wondering why this is?
8 responses
@callahanb78 (529)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Kids today are pretty disrespectful. I see them everyday. Just about all of them in our apartment complex are smart mouthed and nasty, to each other and to adults. We have always taught our kids to not talk like that with anyone. We try to teach them that all those kids they deal with are bratty and not nice. So far whatever it is we are doing seems to be working. They say thank you and please and sir and maam, all that stuff. They have their moments, who doesnt, but not like alot. I talk with their teachers to make sure that along with education they are learning their manners and respect.
I think people just dont care anymore. Some of the people around here that have children let them do whatever, whenever so they expect it be that way. They start off telling them no and the kid continues and so they say whatever to them. Then they complain about how bad their kids are...Well HELLLLOOO!!!!! Its your fault! They dont see it but they complain about it. Go Figure!
@gvannorman (438)
• United States
12 Mar 09
This is such a true statement. It seems that some parents dont even care what their kids are doing. I just cant seem to understand why it is like that. but it is. One day things will all back fire on these parents who dont teach their kids a little respect.
Thank you
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
that probably is the main reason: we give them a little bit too much when they should be earning the privilege of acquiring things.
there was an article that i read before. it has somethig to do with heirs. one of those in line married an ordinary fellow. the people were concerned since it seems that those in line are marrying only people below them and not from their own level. what would happen? the people ask. no one was trained for the job.
that is always the point we should aim when it comes to our kids. are our kids trained to live life they way it should be lived? or are they only given what we deem should be given?
hope i don't offend anybody. it's just a thought.
happy mylotting!
@gvannorman (438)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Dont think that you offended anyone. This is always a touchy subject. It is open for debate. Always trying to be careful so someone doesnt think that your telling them how to raise their kids.
But, is there a wrong way? I dont think that there is a wrong way. Everyone will have different ideas when it comes to raising children. But, we should all be reaching for the common goal. Raise responsible and respectful children. That is the goal in our roles as parents. If your children are responsible and respectful then your goal is met. Does this mean that if they dont you failed them. Not really. Most of the time regardless what you give your child, and their upbringing can be perfect. They still tend to lean toward trying to find the easy way out of situations. This is more true today than it has ever been.
So, in closing Just raise your kids the way you would have wanted to be raised. This way if you feel your parents made any mistakes with you, your not making them with your children. Hopefully they follow the same system. And then eventually the world will have a perfect generation. LOL
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Probably because their parents didn't insist on being treated with respect while the child was growing up. Kids are constantly testing their parents to see what they can get away with. Pushing the limits is normal and it's up to the parents to set those limits and confront the child when he/she strays too far. If not then the kid grows up with no concept of respecting others or their own boundaries. I always insisted that my children treated me with respect and, when they tested me, their error was discussed and they were punished. This is why they're respectful to this day and they're all grown. A parent's job is not just to provide for a child...a parent's job is to guide and mold a child, too.
@gvannorman (438)
• United States
12 Mar 09
This is a very good response to this. Very worthy answer to my question. Thank you. It is our job as parents to guide and mold our children into responsible and respectful adults.
Thank you!!!
@shalli17here (627)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 09
sometimes it is due to the lack of their parents education for them while they're still very young and how they treated them. a child will follow what they saw in their parents, they learn from their parents. the education is not just about a good life, but also moral and manner education. thats what most parents dont give it to them nowadays. we can not blame it to the kids 100%, coz they're still young n still have to learn more bout this life, how to respect others.
it is not too late if u or other parents, or us maybe, if we wanna fix it. start from ourself as an adults, give the younger a good examples of how to respect others specially the elder and what the necessary of it. they will learn sooner or later.
@snayak11 (154)
• India
12 Mar 09
i think, this is a common nature in kids. thats why they are kids, not adults like us. we are adults because we are matured, they are not. they will grow step by step physically n mentally and will surely think like us when become adults like us. positive attitude towards them will make them more mature in shorter period of time.
@gvannorman (438)
• United States
12 Mar 09
It is common nature in kids to be kids. But, they need to be shown that somethings will not be tolerated and are wrong. If you cross the line, you will be punished for your actions. Simple.
@Reinhardt (66)
• Canada
12 Mar 09
Someone said to me not to long ago "each generation of children are smarter then the last"..
When i was a teenager I had a problem with authority, But I was never a brat like I see today, I sat quetly in the back of class, Never bothered anyone, and Was never rude to my mother. I mostly kept to myself..
Its hard to respect anyone who wont respect there own mother, to me thats very ignorant.
@gvannorman (438)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I have to agree. I feel that in this world there are 2 people in your life that DO NOT have to earn your respect. They would be your Mother and Grandmother's. Make that 3 people.
I have always shown my mother repect, and she is 60 and Im 40. Til this day I cant bring myself to be disrespectful to her. I cant stand it when I see others doing it to their mothers.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I think that kids in every generation are like this to a point, but the older we get, the more we really notice it. I know that I was disrespectful to my parents at times growing up, and my kids are to me too, but, just as my parents did, I teach my kids that respecting adults and authority is just the way it is. They get better all the time.
I think that if a parent teaches a child respect, they will be respectful. No kid is ever completely happy with what they have, that is their nature. Teaching them to appreciate what they have is the parents job.
@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
13 Mar 09
People today spend a considerable portion of their time conferring on the proper way to bring up children,but it seems still not change the status at all.however the child was spoiled by overindulgence,and many books and movies are not healthy reading for a child.we must create a no violence,mental health environment for the growth of children.
