Separation Anxiety -- How Do You Deal With Goodbyes?
By bubbletush
@bubbletush (1332)
Philippines
March 12, 2009 3:41am CST
My husband travels a lot. He usually go out of the country 5-6 times a year, a week long travel to a month long. The longest he's been away was 9 months. I should have get used to the goodbyes by now, but I do really feel sad every time. The moment he step out the house, I miss him already. He just left this afternoon for a month long business trip and I am currently suffering from separation anxiety. I don't feel like going out of the bed. I don't feel like doing anything at all except spend my time here on myLot to keep my mind off from thinking I'll be alone for a month.
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5 responses
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
12 Mar 09
hope better days would follow soon. As long as thing are like this you have to cope up with them for your husband too might not be happy to leave you you alone for such a long period.
How he is off for business purpose and that is the means of your livelihood. May be this plight would soon come to an end and you are more with each other and rnjoy each other's company. Fir thin time being you need an adjustment.
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@bubbletush (1332)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
I truly understand that it's about work and we need it to live a comfortable life. Thanks for responding. Your thoughts about this has ease my sadness.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
12 Mar 09
The separation anxiety was what I experienced in early years, so I understand your feelings. We wrote letters once a week, and meet twice a year during the school vacations. A birthday telegram became a topic for teasing frm my colleagues. That was all for communication.
Technology has come out with more convenient means. Face to face chatting is available to quench a bit the longing. Home sick, distance anxiety, and house chores are still there. Life needs compromise, the hardship will one day paying the rewards, and be kind to each other.
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@bubbletush (1332)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
Yes technology has played a major role in making the separation tolerable. As long as there is internet, communication will not be too much of a problem.
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
That's a normal reaction to a loved one leaving home. I also experience separation anxiety everytime my husband leaves for an out-of-town job. The first 3 nights are usually cold and depressing...however, I bounce back after a few days. I guess my children makes me happy then. Fortunately, my husband does not need to work out of town anymore as my son's on-line income is enough to cover our major expenses, although I'm also working to keep me health, and occupied. My husband and son are coming home tomorrow from a 10 day trip, so I'm excited as my mother in-law, niece and nephew are also coming over. So anxieties are normal, just keep them in check always to live a happy and enjoyable life. Here's wishing you the best...
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
31 Mar 09
Hello bubbletush! Everyday, I am suffering a separation anxiety..hehehe..But actually when I read this discussion, I remember the day when my husband and I are saying goodbye to each other. It's one of the saddest moment of my life especially when he went inside the airport and saw him leaving. I almost felt like crying and I am glad because I was able to stop myself. Until now, I'm still sad because we're away and it's 7 months now.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
12 Mar 09
I can understand your feelings about this separation.I have experienced this with my father when we were kids.He used to go out of station like this for months.Then,there were no cell phones or even phones in our town.The only way to communicate is through letters.Try to imagine the situation.Be thankful for you to live with cell phones and internet where you can communicate at ease.I don't under weigh your emotions.But you can make up your mind.Push all those hard days by engaging yourself in other activities.Hope your husband come soon,ending his journey successfully.Cheer up!
