Do you think People can fall in love in arranged marriage?

Well.Good discussion.In our country most of the marriages are arranged.Majority of them living happily through out their life.Be it is a arranged marriage or love marriage, the couple should understand each other and give respect to each other.I see many of my friends who married their lovers also have to compromise with their husbands in some situations.I think life is a compromise.You should understand and mingle with everyone to have a happy life.

I think it is possible that two people could fall in love in an arranged marriage. they have to be somewhat attracted to one another though, even if it is only by personality.

Hi Subha, Sure, why not? Some people fall heads over heels in love, get married then divorced within a month. What's the catch? Marriage is a lot about accommodating each other. As long as both of them are willing to give and take, it won't take long for them to find out the good points in each other and hopefully fall in love for real.

i honestly think they can.. if they are sincere and try to find the good things to love and appreciate about their partner.. at first it could be a 'forced' arrangement, but if you learn to accept each other as your spouse - the wife willingly accepts the man as her husband, to learn to love and respect as a husband, and vice-versa.. i dont see why it cant work.. it really depends on the couple themselves.. how honest, and how hard they want the marriage to work out..

Yes many couples start loving after they had their engagement. Some couple has started to love after the marriage even so arranged marriage will also lead to love and make a good family.

Dear being an Indian you must be aware of the fact that 95% of the marriages that take place are arranged marriages and these are quite successful and long lasting. The fundamental rule for each and every relationship is acceptance with known and unknown flaws,giving each other time and consideration with positive bent of mind and trust.If all these basic elements are there in a relationship then it will turn out to be a wonderful partnership between the two souls. After marriage the onus of making a relationship successful falls on both the parties and both the partners try to give each other space and freedom of expression to make their relationship healthier and stronger.

I am not at all familiar with arranged marriages. It is not practiced where I come from. but, I would say that I think often the two would fall in love just from working side by side. but, I think it could be the other way around, too.Maybe they would grow to hate eachother. Falling in love is a risky business, too. If the couple marries right away they may be only feeling lust, not love. if they take time to get to know eachother I think they have more time to actually fall in love. Marriage is a difficult thing, because you don't find out lots of things about the other until you have been married several years. No matter how the marriage comes about, the couple must work at it. If they are dedicated to making a good marriage and dedicated to treating their partner well, then they will have a good marriage.

Yes, I do think people in an arranged marriage can fall in love. It may not be instant, but it can happen. My own grandparents (maternal side) marriage was an arranged one. And what's worse was that my grandmother had been in love with someone else not too long before she got married! But she told me herself, when she was still alive, that she eventually fell in love with my grandfather. As for my grandfather, I believe he had already been in love with my grandmother when they wed.

Dear friend, Yes I had seen some arranged marriage people going well with their love life. Also I could see that few of love marriage breaking up. I hope arranged marriage is arranged mostly because of couple's liking each other. Moreover love at first may also occur in arranged marriage.

This question does not have a simple answer. There are of course a number of examples of arranged marriages where true love has developed mainly in the history of royality. However most of the arranged marriages we hear of in the UK are in the asian community. It is I believe a fact that in the UK arranged marriages have much lower incidents of the marriage breaking down than our normal way of boy meets girl they fall in love and marry. I have been at community meetings where it is claimed that this is because the marriage is arranged but I think this is nonsense. I am sure the reason why arranged marriages in the asian community last more is because if the wife leaves not only does her husband's family not speak to her any more nor does her own family so she becomes totally isolated. Also things can become a habit so while there may be no love as such in a marriage it carries on because it is convenient to do so and it just beccomes a habit.

hi subha12, yeah i think people can fall in love in marriage, i have an example of my own sister. She and her husband were married by arrangement. And now they have 2 kids and have a happy familly.

I believe it is possible for people to fall in love in arranged marriages. It starts out as a situation of compromise, but may eventually develop feelings of love over a period of time if they continue to understand, respect, and care for each other. Love always takes time. Also, the agreements between the two families might have a positive impact on the couple. But, not every people in arranged marriages will fall in love.

Yes, people can fall in arrange marriage. The best thing about arrange marriage is that you get a lot of support from both of families and the harmony created by the intermingling of new people because of you created a lot of positives in your mind.

My thoughts on this are from an outsiders view. I was not raised with the idea of arranged marriage. Is it possible to fall in love? I'm sure for some it is possible. I would probably think that in these cases, the individuals would have fallen in love anyway. I think that the type of love that you would feel for your spouse in an arranged marriage would be a companionship type of love. It wouldn't be the passionate romantic love that you see with love marriages. I think that in the end, love marriages end up in the same place as arranged marriages since that type of passionate love comes and goes. A friend once told me that after you have been married a while, you really are just very close friends instead of the love struck people you were when you were married. If that is true, then you can say that yes, arranged marriages do produce love. I would just think that you would miss out on the romantic love that is there in the beginning of love marriages.

i guess people can fall in love in a lot of situation. not to mention that the divorce rate is much lower compared to marriages for 'love'. this is not to say that i'm a supporter of arranged marriage. my parents, and even my paternal grandparents, married after knowing each other and falling in love. however, friends around me who got married for love are not having it easier. so marriage itself is probably the biggest challenge a person might face, arranged or otherwise. cheers

There is a saying that if you live for sometime with your pets, then you can fall in love with them, then your spouse is a human. YOu are bound to fall in love with him/her, provided that you don't love anyone else in your life. Arranged marriage can be said a compromise when one or both the parties don't like each other from begining. Even parents ask these days, their kids that they like the bride/groom or not. So, it is not entirely a compromise, as I can see it.

Ours was sort of arranged marriage because one my friends friend introduced us... we dated for a few months and then decided to get married... his mom spoke to my mom and that is how our marriage was decided... I love my husband very much... and the dating before the wedding part is good.. you get to know the person... but there are some culture that girls marry their husbands without actually seeing their face.... like they see the guy's face only during their wedding night..... but then even if the husband does not treat the wife well... they can do nothing about it....as they depend on their husbands for everything.. and there is no such thing as divorce in their culture...

it's applicable in chinese and here in saudi. . they don't have any choice about that matter,they will definitetly not the happy type marriage life . because even if you don't like the person, you have nothing to do just to follow the rules. that's hurts and it's really bad to hear that. . . why, is that what happen to you?

Yes there are instances that people can fall in love in an arranged marriage... Before the wedding both of them are given time to get to know each other, to know their qualities and interest.. As years pass that they are together their love grows and the bonding goes well..

I think it is notimpossible for the two people fall in love in arranged marriage. Some love needs time to make sure.