Do you rsvp to a birthday party?
By snoopy04
@snoopy04 (718)
United States
March 12, 2009 10:08am CST
This may seem like a odd discussion but I wanted to get everyones opinion on it. Do you rsvp to a birthday party when your child brings home a invitation. My sons are having a birthday party on March 21 and I sent out invitations to all their classmates. I put my name and number and email and asked to please rvsvp whether your coming or not. I sent them out last Friday and I havent recieved any rsvps yet. I know some of the parents not all but my sons still wanted to hand out invitations. His best friend will probably show up but she probably wont rsvp but just show up instead. I gave out thirty invitations and I am so afraid that kids will show up without rsvp.
So my question is do you respond to a birthday invitation even if you dont really know the parent or would you just show up to the party. Next week is my sons spring break so I figure alot of people will be out of town buit I would still like to know who is coming and who isnt.
Even if you cant make it I would still like to know. I am the type of person that I always rsvp no matter what.
So what about you guys, do you rsvp or do you just show up for the party.
I really would like some input on this discussion, this is my first party with their friends from school and I want everything to go smoothly but I dont want any suprises.
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5 responses
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I work six nights per week, so I rarely get to go to anything like that.
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
12 Mar 09
yeah I would...It is just courtesy to do so...
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@tpinto (66)
• United States
12 Mar 09
Anytime my son goes to a birthday party, I always RSVP. This way the parents will know to count him in or not if he can't attend. Most people now a days dont RSVP because they are to busy and might not know if their child will be able to go to the party until that day. It is better to plan for everyone to attend that way you will be prepared. You can also ask you son to ask his friends if they are coming. Good luck.
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@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I figure I will just plan on having thirty even if they dont come. I have been asking my son and he says none of his friends know. But it is just so frustrating when no one answers my invite but I will be prepared, Thanks for your response.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
12 Mar 09
my daughters are older so birthday parties are not a big thing, but my younger daughter just had her birthday and while none of the parents told me their child was coming, she was responsible to make sure to tell me how many were coming (she turned 12)
but, when they were little, i always took the time to rsvp to let parents know my daughter was coming.
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@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I am the same way. When your talking about five and six yeat olds the parents should rsvp for their kids. I always rsvp whether I can come or not. It doesnt matter how well I know the child out of courtsey to the parent I let them know. I even put my email address and specified if they cant come to please let me know. I put a date to rsvp by hoping the parents would answer but nothing. But I have explained to my sons so there wont be alot of tears if no one shows. Thanks for your response.
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
12 Mar 09
So Long as people "get" the whole point of an rsvp event is that you DO reply to the invite (or not,as you requested 
) then there shouldn't be a problem.but of course,you're dealing with people here,so the entire bunch may turn up without having responded..But After near a full week without so much as ONE response,maybe you should have linked "Miss Manners" as your email signature in the invite?
) then there shouldn't be a problem.but of course,you're dealing with people here,so the entire bunch may turn up without having responded..But After near a full week without so much as ONE response,maybe you should have linked "Miss Manners" as your email signature in the invite?@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I love it. That one put a smile on my face. My husband says if no one has responded by now then probably no one is coming. But I am afraid they may not know until the actually day of the party. Even a I am not sure is better than nothing. On my daughter invitations I will remember the Miss Manners link. Thanks for responding.
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@doglover2005 (1)
• United States
25 Mar 09
We are going throught the SAME thing with our son's party, the only RSVPs we have gotten are from parents we've ran into, it is stressful, we are having it at a facility and will be charged if the minimum(10) don't show up or not. I always RSVP when it's younger kids, it only takes a minute and I think it's terrible that we have to go and try to follow up, who has time when you are trying to finalize everything for the party:(
I hope your kids had a wonderful party!
