Sacrifice to make my family happy or follow my dream?
By kristeng1323
@kristeng1323 (41)
Canada
March 12, 2009 11:23am CST
I have a wonderful son and a fiancee who I love very very much. I am now in a predicament though. I have been accepted to a big university 6 hours away to get my degree for massage therapy, and that's something I've always dreamt of. My problem is I will be 6 hours away from my son and fiancee and he doesn't have the choice to move there because he has a management job where we live now. Should I take the opportunity and follow my dream career, or sacrifice to make my family happy?
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@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I say both....you are probably thinking what?
Well, I say if you and you're fiance agree go for it, but offer to spend every ounce of free time getting back to them and spending time with them. That would be my advice, I mean would you rather spend a little time away, to provide for them in the future, or end up resenting them because you felt held back?
This is only granting that you have the financial means to do this and your family still be secure. And that you and your fiance can come up with an agreement of course.
@kristeng1323 (41)
• Canada
12 Mar 09
I have a full scholarship to the school so finance isn't an issue thank goodness. My husband is more than happy and willing to do this and I think I am, but being away from them is something I've never done before and I would see them every second weekend but I also don't want my son to not remember me ever being there when he was little.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
12 Mar 09
I understand your concern, but If you will still be around on the weekends and such, trying to do better for your family, I think that he or she might understand.
It is your dream, and you should try it, you might end up changing your mind, or you might decide to wait and do it later, or you might keep to your decision, however, I think once you are in the situation, you might be able to make a better decision you know?
@mansha (6298)
• India
12 Mar 09
You know talk to them, how long is the course can they manage without you. In such situations its always better to consult family first and I am sure they will be supportie of you and you can always drive back for weekends. It would be great if you can follow your dream and somehow when we really want something eerything else starts falling in to place for some reason. I am 38 year old now and I wanted to do the course in computer engineering and mid way I got pregnant too but everything worked out somehow and I am now fully qualified Sun Certified Java Programmer and my family is so much proud of me. I still am looking for a job but it has been a great achievement for me.
