Married or 'attached' people - do you still do things alone??

For starters, I would have a chat with the nosy azz friend. It is NONE of his business!!! If your hubby doesn't care, why should he??? Sounds like he's a jealous, controlling man & I'd feel sorry for his wife!!! I have never had a problem going where I felt like going or doing what I felt like doing no matter whether married or single. Personally, I don't like going to the movies whether alone or with someone. I prefer to watch them on DVD at my own home. For the price of a movie ticket, popcorn & soda I can get 4 movies from Netlix (including as much popcorn & soda I want). I also have all the movie channels on my cable so I can watch movies frequently. When my hubby was alive & I wanted to watch a movie he didn't care to see, I'd wait until he was sleeping to watch it. We usually watched movies together because we enjoyed the same type of movies. He wasn't real big on the Chick-flicks & of course I love those. He didn't sleep well at night so he frequently took naps during the day. That's when I'd watch that Chick-flick that I just couldn't live without seeing. He was always nice enough not to wake up until the final credits were rolling. I sometimes wondered if he stayed in bed until he heard the closing music. Now, back to your friend, if you don't want to tell him to mind his own business, give me his phone number & I will explain it to him for you!!! I just don't understand why people can't mind their own business. So what if you were there to meet someone else. Is that any of his business??? NOOOOOO...That is between you & your hubby!!!

I could understand going alone to a movie that no one else I knew was interested in, and I agree. However, my husband has recently gotten in the habit of going out with our mutual friends without me. I am deeply offended by this as I feel un-wanted and outcast. It's like he's using me as the babysiter! Since he never just comes out and offers to take over and let me have a night to myself either. I'm NOT okay with this but if I say anything he accuses me of not letting him EVER do anything by himself when the truth is he's ALWAYS doing stuff by himself or at least not with me. So obviously I have my reasons, but believe that sometimes it's okay too.

i must admit, i don't get to do to many things like that alone. i really wish i was in that kind of relationship where if i wanted to go to the movies it would not be a fight. i don't get much me time myself. being a mother of three, in a serious relationship, and working, i know there isn't much time for just me time. but i don't see why if i wanted to have some, it has to always be a fight

oh my....I think I would go insane if I didnt have 'me' time, the same goes for my husband, just because you get married doesnt mean that you instantly become joined at the hip!! What kind of friend would question your motives....if any of my friends see me out alone they dont assume im up to no good or meeting someone else! I think its great that you get out and do your own thing.....as for being 'allowed' out....does he not 'allow' his wife to have her own interests?!!! maybe he has insecurities in his own relationship!!!!!! hugs Jessica

Well it depends on what I want to do and if my b/f is available to go with me. I also have been to movies alone. I see no big deal with going to a movie by myself especially If no one else wants to see one I want to see.

I need my alone time. I dont think I get it enough as it is with 6 kids and a husband. There is nothing wrong with going to the movies by yourself. I am looking foward to when my kids are a little bigger and then I can have my own time. My husband is ill with cancer so I cant get much time to myself, He cant take care of all the kids or else I would be at the movies alone. My husband wouldnt have a problem with it either. Now if I was taking off all the time then he might think something lol. Have to have trust in a good relationship. Sounds like your friends husband has some issues.

I do things alone - go shopping, or go for walks, etc. I don't really enjoy movies, etc. My husband will go out for coffee by himself or go for bike rides. If we don't do anything separately, then we can't do anything the other person doesn't like (or else we'd have to do a bunch of stuff that we didn't like) and we'd have nothing to talk about.

Wow! ‘nuts’ I think is a polite way of putting it…some people really take the cake when it comes to stereotyping! Anyways, there are many things which I prefer doing alone…there are many times when I prefer staying alone, when both my husband and son or anybody else is a perfect botheration. I have never been to a movie alone only coz I cant seem to sit thru the entire thing in a dark hall by complete strangers but if I could, I would definitely have gone ahead. I enjoy shopping alone, I enjoy going to restaurants alone, I enjoy staying alone…I mean I just enjoy myself now and then…what’s wrong in that! And why in the world should my husband mind?!! Geez

Yup, we do that all the time. We both have different interests - he's sociable and loves sports; I'm an introvert. I would go off on to bookstores or book sales alone; while he has his weekly games. Sometimes he would go with friends for karaoke singing sessions; most of the time I don't join him. It's fine - as long as we trust each other, and don't have secrets about going out on our own.

I do things alone. I think this is a warning to your friend from her husband, if she ever wants to do something alone like watch a movie, she already knows what her husband thinks on the subject and that it is him who has to allow her to go or not. Now that's nuts. I never tell my friends what my hubby thinks of them, or if I shared whatever it is that they are doing, and he gives his opinion, I keep it to myself, if he is gutsy to give his opinion to my friends, then more power to him. If not, nothing lost, nothing gained.

most everything I do is alone hubby works long odd hours at night and has to sleep during the day so if I want to do anything i do it by myself even if his schedule was diferent I wouldnt have a problem doing things alone I am my own person and he is his own person occassionally we do things together but we dont always have to, you know?

I think every couple should have their own things to do. It makes the days and evenings spent together more intresting than, your husband coming home to you saying so what did you do? And you give him the same spue day in and day out, why not go out and enjoy some time by yourself. I actually enjoy time by myself, it's not as much as I would like, but it's enough. Who cares what other's think, when you go out and do something you enjoy, would it have of made any difference if you'd went shopping alone, or was it more the fact this friend's husband seen you going to the dark movies that got him having ideas? Who cares, you know what is going, and if they gotta talk about that, then they need to find more to do with themselve than talk about why you were "allowed" to go to the movies alone.

Im married, and I think its great to do things alone..I actually even look foward to grocery shopping days..Just so I "can" be alone..Im home with 3 kids all day and I need breaks! I've even went out to eat at a restaurant by myself, (something I never would have done years ago). As I get older, I really don't care what people think about me. Ive never been to the movies alone, but thats just b/c I prefer to rent..

I know exactly how you feel! My Husband and I do stuff alone all the time, we do things the other isn't interested in. We also have a 3 yr old and people look at me like im a single Mom, it drives me nuts. Or they are constantly asking "What happed with you two?"

Great discussion.. Why do people jump to conclusions and think there has to be a reason??? It's good to have some alone time.. It takes more courage for someone to be alone when they are always attached. I have never gone to the movies alone but would love to if I had the chance.

aside from the fact that my boyfriend live now in far place because of his work, i now do most of the things alone. before, we usually do things together specially going to grocery stores and fetching me from work. but now i walk home alone and do a lot of things on my own. it's pretty hard for me, because i am still in the adjustment period. but at least somehow i realize that it's better now. i learn to do a lot of things now that i thought i can never do. i feel like a stronger woman now. and now there are quite a few things that i do it myself and that i don't think he still needs to know. even though we're attached, and we've been together for many years we still have private lives that we have to live. and not all the time each of us needs to know.

i will/can do things alone but i hate seeing movies or eating out alone due to being lonely so i usually dont do those things but that is just me own issue.. if i wanted to i would and could with no problem.. i do what ever the hell i want anyways and have always been that way and im celebrating 10 years of marriage come april so its obviously working.. lol

Narrow minded, isn't he? Lol! Before we got married, I always wanted my partner to be with me. But when we got married, I suddenly developed this appreciation of moments when I am really alone, doing things that I like. Sometimes, on friday nights, I restrain myself from pushing him out of our door to go out with his friends--which he enjoys, by the way. Instead I encourage him just enough and say I am sorry I am too tired to go with you. Lol! As soon as he leaves, I will dive on the bed and watch television for hours! I get irritated when I someone asks me "did you ask permission from your husband already?" Gad. I do not ask for permission but I "inform" him about what my plans are. I am pretty sure my husband trusts me enough not to do anything silly or something that will harm our relationship. He knows he chose well and did not marry someone silly. Sorry, I ranted Have a nice day!

I am not married but I can imagine doing various stuff on my own if I was. I think that taking time to do things apart once in a while is actually really healthy for the relationship. No way on earth would I want a man to tell me where I can go and who with. It makes no sense to me that a man should have that sort of control over a woman.

I do not think there is anything wrong with going out alone. I have been married for 6 years and 80% of the time i do things alone. Not because we don't love each other or because i am looking for someone else....everyones sintuation is different. We have 5 children, so doing anything usually means i go alone and he watches the kids or he goes alone and i watch the kids or we all go...we never get alone time...Not many people want to watch 5 kids if you know what i mean..not alot...we actually get to do something by ourselves maybe twice a year...and we are okay with that...we had our kids and thats just how it goes, we get plenty of alone time when they go to bed. And your right, the whole allowed thing, is just not right...you should not have to have permission to do anything..sking ones opionion is one thing, permission is obserd. And it can be fun to be apart sometimes, everyone needs that to..