What if I Respond-and-Run...?

I may stay away for those who start too many discussion without discussing what they started. I see people posting 5, 6, 10 discussions per day. As you can see I didn't start any for a long time, because I am busy and I wouldn't be able to keep au with all responds. HUGS

This topic is really interesting that respond and running. This will go on in mylot and that is due to some personal problem or some go for tours or vacation. or some may be busy in office and cant turn to mylot the list go on...... Mostly some come back as they can have discussions with their friend and make the time leisure. All the mylotters are not alike they are very friendly and good advisors sometimes. Have a nice day.

I think is not really an issue at all. Most members just post their comments and all their ideas about the matter are summed up in those posts. Replies would probably just reaffirm the post and need not to be elaborated further. There are also posts that speak for themselves entire. You don't need to reply or, what would you reply for if its already conclusive? Its when the post gets replied with something that really makes it into a discussion, say follow up questions got asked on the replies, if that happens, I guess those who participated in that exchange should or could answer as much as they could but, when that happens and the one who gets asked doesn't even reply, you could consider the possibility that they didn't get notifications in their email. I sometimes encounter new responses in my discussions and yet, have notifications sent to my email so that I would know. That happens often so, I would really be sorry for those who I have not replied to just in case. Then, members don't get to be active that much here in myLot. They also have things to do in their real lives so, not being able to reply or answer back to discussions is always a big possibility after all. To me, I always think like that when some of those who participate don't come back when I give them replies. Then, there are replies that I get when I participate in discussions which makes me agree and instead of just posting that 'I agree' I would might as well leave it like that since their post already conludes the matter.

I dun think it's been an issue, all along.. If so, everybody wont be responding to discussions but only wanna start, for they dun want to be those doing all the hard work.. lol =D As far as i'm concerned, i will only go back to continue in that post if it's interesting.. Or it's someone i feel comfortable in communicatin with ^_^ However if i were to know this fren of mine for quite some time, i will be sure to go back to continue as long as the starter is willing to comment back ^_^ It's a two way thing ^_^

I would say Yes, it is an issue and it would continue to be. I respond to a lot of discussions and I get e mail alerts, whenever my comment has been responded upon. Most of the times it is just a "thank you for responding" type of comment so I do not feel the need to go back there and comment again, saying "Welcome" or things like that. Very few times have I got something interesting as a comment and whenever I do get that, I definitely go back and respond. I know many people would not even care to read the comments that their response has generated. You cannot do anything to them.

It might be. But you have to think about it in the sense that it's hard work responding to everyone who responds to you! Especially if you (unexpectedly) get a million responses to one question! For example, I recently started a dozen or so discussions, and most of them I've been able to manage, but one - I've gotten around 70 responses to! It's incredibly hard to find time to rate and comment on every single response, don't you think? I try to, I think it's more respectful (and makes more sense) to keep up with your own discussions, but it's also a time-consuming thing that doesn't really pay off (I don't think), so I can understand why some would just skip over it. *shrugs*

It is nice when a post becomes a on going conversation . But if the other person doesn't come back, it is their lost. I have a friend where we have been talking for about a year now. you shouldd see the discussion scrool!

The best part of being here is to be able to read and discuss things. THat can't always be accomplished with just one response. Sometimes there is a need to keep the conversation going, clarifying, explaining back and forth. And sometimes it's just so much fun to respond back and forth. But that is me. Some people don't feel the same way, and I guess that's their prerogative.That's why we can choose our friends in here and we tend to choose people that are close to our preferences. I am not sure of how much this is an issue in here. I mean I know that it happens a lot, but I don't see why it will be an issue.

sometimes if i have time and somebody responses my old disccusion sure i will still response them back

I try to comment on a lot of my responders. If nothing else I do that when I rate the responses. May responses just don't need a comment but I do try to rate them all.

Discussion is an extended communication (often interactive) dealing with some particular topic and exchanging of views and involves at least two parties.If the discussion has been responded then it is obvious that one should comment and respond further to make the topic expressive. Personally i like to comment on all my responses and i love to know how people react to my thoughts and expressions.

Drive by responding? I know people do this but I am not one of them i like to actually discuss I come here for the interaction

I am relatively new here and have seen so far that most people do that - respond and never come back. I do not exclude either. But I feel that should not be a case in discussion. If it is a real discussion there should be threadbare one. In my observation I have found that most people even after being commented back do not turn out. I that case you can not go on yourself. This is a group process. Responding and forgetting would not serve the purpose.

well, you can't really ensure that you will have a loyal partner in conversation when it comes to a place where there are tons of topic to disacuss and lots of people to talk too. just nt all the time that the topic you want to talk to would be the same topic that she would want to talk too. but good conversation will always stay in the mind. that's actually the only compensation that we can claim for sharing things. yes lotters care. but actually, mylot is not even a big pieace of our life to get too much involved to.

that is why mylot is a discussion site, you have to come back when you need to comment back. i do come back on discussions that needs to be commented back. we even have a long happy and enjoyable discussion. but if there is nothing to comment back i just do not comment back anymore. sometimes i leave questions for the person but they no longer come back to give me information or to give an answer. but there is nothing i can do with that.

I don't really know if that is still an issue here... as long as we get to keep the discussion active with our responses and comments... then that is a good thing... i would always appreciate it members go back and have a good conversation with me... but if they don't... then that is fine with me too...

It is hard work getting back to everyone, but if we all worked a little harder then it could start back up. I for one would like to see more actual discussion but when I first started here I didnt get the impression that was what it was supposed to be. Also, when people do not make an open ended response, it is hard to comment back and leaves the potential commenter the impression that the responder isn't going to pursue it further anyway so what's the use.