How do you deal will backstabbers?
By becdmd
@becdmd (704)
Philippines
March 12, 2009 11:32pm CST
In every company, we cannot avoid people who makes gossips with you and who are backstabbers...I have this co-workers who really loves gossipping and also our boss give comments behind our back. And almost everyday let's say they're always on the look out for the latest issue not only to co-workers, patients/clients but also to the boss (her personal life), It's as if it's part of their mundane lives and cannot live without it! Honestly, I hate gossips! I've been there before and became their victim, it really hurts at first that I cannot trust them anymore but I have to learn to forgive and forget.
Do you love gossipping? Or Hate it? Have you been a victim and how did you deal with it?
5 responses
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 09
I hate gossip too! You are such a nice person because you rather forgive and forget than hating the person who gossips you. I can't tolerate a person who gossips because it really hurts my feelings. When somebody talks behind my back I will go straight to him or her and ask him or her did he really say it. I don't care if it was just a misunderstanding because most of the time a person who gossips will never admit he did it.
I never like gossiping and I don't like talking to a person who gossips. As soon as I know the person is gossipy, I will try as hard as I can to avoid her. Usually a person who likes gossiping is a woman but this is based on my experience only. Never in my life I have come across a man who likes gossiping.
Yes, I will avoid her all the time. It is never an advantage to mingle with this type of person. It will make you in a dangerous situation, because other people will mistakenly judge you as one of the gossiper when you mingle with a gossiper.
@beachstarz (1092)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I have had a friend that is getting more and more like this everyday .
It seems that every time I see her anymore all she wants to do is talk about others and it's never good . It is always bad mouthing people . Others see it in her also. I have been distanceing myself more and more from her , because I just don't want to hear it . This person loves having all the attention on her. I think she is bad talking people to make herself look big. Soon people here won't want anything to do with her , and it's sad , but it's her own fault . She won't be able to keep any friends soon.
@lhanie04 (11)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
I don't like gossips at all. I've been a victim already and i hate it.I didn't fight back or even showed that i'm affected.I just go on with my life and avoided talking with those who are making the issue. I told to my self that i believe in god,he knows what to do.They say they will keep in doing it to me bur still i didn't listen to them.
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@nympha687 (940)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Certainly, we can't get rid of such people. For some, gossipping has become their habit. If you could tolerate, just keep quiet and go on with your life. If it affects your work and sanity, walk up to them and ask them about their problem. I just shrug my shoulders whenever I get back stabbed. I know in my heart I havent done anything wrong so why worry?
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@512771751 (1096)
• China
5 Aug 12
Oh, it is so bad to be made gossips. But there is no doubt that such phenomennon is not unavoidable. I have been a victim, I don't know how to deal with it besides try to do the work best.
