Need ur help..pls read the following..
By drdivu
@drdivu (1011)
India
March 13, 2009 9:29am CST
was heart broken to hear wen past 3yr old relationship broke coz that guy was
part 1
dating another girl for an year while still being with me..had nowhere to go, so opted to remain quiet for sometime till i got better..then bharat came in my life and he helped me pass that state and overcome my suicidal tendencies..soon he started proposing me and after 3months,i agreed to give another try for life..was senior to bharat,but was strong enough to bear the resistance of my batch in which almost everyone stopped talking to me except my friends who knew me completely n knew wat i was going thro then..
i found it difficult but thought that if i cant keep this, then there is flaw in me so i kept going..so i kept going..he accused me of being head over heels about my past n etc..but I WAS THINKING NOT TO GO WRONG THIS TIME..
being in final yr mbbs, i devoted all my time cooking food for him or helping him in his studies but listening to his chapters or remaining awake all night but HE NEVER AKNOWLEDGED THAT..!!
but fights increased with time..he used to fight on everything...he dint used to pick up my calls for 3 to 4days at stretch and use abusive language and tell that since he was junior so i was not respecting him..!! till then i never opened my mouth.. all my friends saw me going thro this and told me to leave this..but my hope kept me going..
wil continue in part 2..
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8 responses
@rsetv234 (1)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
hey.... don't lose hope.... you shouldn't have to think it harder about that abusive relationship.... just grow up and be true to your self just think there are too many answer in your question.... keep that in your mind... be positive... god bless....
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@jackyzbj (21)
• France
14 Mar 09
Actually, I don't quite understand what u talked about.
But I know what you are feeling.
My suggestion is that go hang out more, meet more guys.
You will find your Mr. Right.
You should reserve your respect for yourself. Never belittled especially by a guy.
There are many things important, even more important, other than a relationship.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
14 Mar 09
drdivu,
If you always reckon that you are living a pathetic life, then you always will. It is not the end of the world here and you will be able to recover in time. So, down let yourself down.
However, at the moment, I am wondering what kind of help you need; because to me, only you can help to change yourself - nobody else can because this is a self affliction problem.
What happens is that you prefer to wait for and presume bharat as a solution in a problem when in actual fact is never certain that it is a definitive solution. You want someone to save you from your perceived 'pathetic destiny' - but I can tell you, there isn't such a person. If you don't have initiative to change yourself, nothing will happen and you will just remain dependently in vain.
And I can add and tell you that what likely would happen is that you would log off your computer and resume leading a 'pathetic life', falling into a similar predicament again. Please do not mistake me and take offense at my comments as I am only trying to encourage you to self motivate yourself here, and I tell you, you don't have to live with such a destiny and certainly not live for somebody else other than yourself.
You hold the key to resolve your misery. This key doesn't lies with somebody else.
So, take care and have a nice weekend.
@drdivu (1011)
• India
21 Mar 09
now thats wat is happening..its becoming difficult cos he is telling me that he cant talk to gf for long..i told him to be my friend and he says that he cant talk to friends for long too..!! more so, he has started teling me that i have found someone else..i m a typical delhite and his friends have predicted that too..
i just wanna be sure and strong..thats why i need ur help..thanks alot too..
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
14 Mar 09
aww i get to have fun bushing so call man. let me tell you there should never be any man is worth wanting to kill yourself over. he's a jerk.
and the second dude is a bigger jerk. no man should disrespect any female that way. and just make them feel bad about yourself. if any guy make you feel less about yourself, kick his sorry butt to the curb. i tell females all the time ok cry your tears and i know its hard but move on.
here is a secert about some guys, ok i wont call them guys, but if they see a female whos down on herself they figure they can sweet talk you and tell you everything you want to hear, and figure hey she feel bad about herself so let me make her feel good and then kick her back down.
never hurt yourself over any guy in this world, you should want to be treated with the up most respect from anyone.
kick thier butts to the curb, a hero will come and find you one day and sweep you off your feet and treat you like a queen
good luck, and this is why so call men or guys hate me
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@drdivu (1011)
• India
14 Mar 09
hey.. thanks for ur reply..pls do read part 2 of this..that finishes it all..thanks alot for letting my hopes rise..earlier I thought but now i m feeling better and would surely make myself feel better from this moment onwards..well, must say that u are doing a great job...hats off to u..
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@parthu28 (498)
• India
13 Mar 09
its a touching thing to hear... but let me tell you one thing . you love someone doesn't mean you leave your career aside and keep mad about then and especially when the person is behaving that way you could have told him so.. and even i am in love with a girl who is one year elder to me but i never felt she is not respecting me or so.. no one truely in love with you would feel so.. now coming to your part one problem just keep your life going. forget all this and take care of your studies mbbs is not some thing you can get deviated in and you have a very good future only if you our thoughts and actions in good control .. dont worry you are stock for a big treat youll surely find the person you deserve .. now leave this guy and keep all your energy focused in to your career..
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@drdivu (1011)
• India
14 Mar 09
hey thanks.. wil concentrate from now on...actually he is 4 yrs elder to me but my junior in mbbs..wen i started i thought he was more mature to me and so would understand but dont know anything now..but wil certainly conc more on studies now..thanks for ur reply..
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@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Focus yourself on something else, if you are still studying finish your study first. If you are working ,then i suggest be focus at work and help your parents first and your siblings before indulging into another mess.
I think you get so easy with men whom you don't really know well but then you trust them immediately. I guess what can only make you happy for now is to leave your worries behind and seek God in your life.
There will always be a part in your heart ,in your life that no man can fill, it is only God. And if you do seek God earnestly in your life, i think this will be the solution to all the problems you are encountering. Happy mylotting!
@drdivu (1011)
• India
13 Mar 09
hey thanks..but i seek or rather meditate daily..i m bit psychic and do tarot too but cant get answers for myself..i get answers for everyone around me but never for myself..i had gone to pandit too long back but he said that bharat's mind wil keep changing till one year..dont know now..
how to find god now..?? dont know where to seek GOD..
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@ashwini28 (37)
• India
13 Mar 09
hey i can really understand what you are goin through.see the problem is bharat was there when your present was becoming past.i really dont wnat you to be with bharat.because you always need to give justification to him.you get to see many different people in life just take a break and live for yourself for some time.dont loose your selfrespect.i know how you must be feeling when he doesnt pick your call it is just not right for you to go through all these things.please believe me dont go thrugh the pain wich you dont deserve.....all the best.i wish i could help you.
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