ever had a "mini-you"?

Philippines
March 13, 2009 9:40am CST
Hi everyone. I'm talking about someone who tries to be you, a copycat as most would put it..maybe a classmate, an officemate or a colleague who idolizes you so much that he or she ends up doing everything you do, dresses up just like you, buys the same brand of cologne, gets into the same interests and the like. How did you deal with it? Did you,at some point,find it flattering? Or it just simply annoyed you? Did it come to a point when you felt like that person is already stalking you and you had to make some serious measures like reporting the person to the authorities and demand for restraining orders? I hope you can share your experience. Thank you in advance.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 Mar 09
LOL. Yep. My ex husband's current wife! Now she's threatening to divorce him because he keeps calling her by MY name when they make love! ROFL You can't duplicate an original!
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• Philippines
14 Mar 09
You are so right. The original will always be the best. Thanks for your response and have a great weekend.
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• Canada
14 Mar 09
Yes, that is why I refused to go out with any divorced, separated men, because I like to be number 1 and not be second fiddle to some woman. and second isn't my favorite number..
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• Canada
14 Mar 09
you are so right..my x had the same trouble..they are divorced..
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• Canada
13 Mar 09
Also all my life as I grew up..I used to look like famous actresses and many times I would sign autographs for the fun of it I remember one time in particular..I was dining in a chic restaurant and had these men ogling me..my girlfriends said..there it goes again..boy you have all the luck..then one came to me and asked if he could talk to me..I said sure..I have been wondering why you 3 have been oggling me so much.. he took out a picture and showed it to me..I said, "where did you get that picture of me." It was me with the fur coat I had with me at the moment. He said, It isn't you..its my best friend actress Michele Morgan when she was your age!! Wow..that was amazing and they took pics with me to take back to her. In florida..I was called marilyn monroe..I also would be mistaken for a very famous personality here in canada..I used to dress like her without knowing it and people would come and yell..fans..wanting her autograph..so not to disappoint them..I did sign them hahahah.. I still get mistake for people all the time. I went to a Africain political meeting and the Ambassador had someone come and get me to sit with him at the table of honor..he thought I was someone else..hahaha..When I told him..he said..stay with me anyway.. I had a great time. Again on wednesday..I got mistaken for someone else..I smiled and decided to have a little fun..so I let the person think I was until he realized I wasn't and we both laughed.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
Oh my gosh! I'd love to meet you in person! Whew, I'm guessing you're really pretty in your time and looking so elite!
• Canada
14 Mar 09
thanks, u r so sweet. yes I was quite a looker in my time..caused me alot of problems too..being beautiful isn't always a blessing..trust me. Men are mostly after you because they love having a beauty on their arm..I do have an interesting life..still. I have been asked since the age of36 to write a book on my life..imagine now at 65 how much I would have to write.
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
Your life must have been really colorful. I enjoy reading your stories a lot. They are all so interesting and wonderful.
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
If there is one person who tries to be "mini-me", well it's my three year old daughter. When I wear skirt, she also would wear a skirt or when I go for jeans, she would also dress the same. When I put on my lipstick, she would also get her toy lipstick. She is my mini-me. I find it cute.
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
Yes, that is so cute, doris. I could just imagine you and your daughter with matching outfits... Thanks so much for sharing. Have a great evening.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
14 Mar 09
no, i haven't . guess noone admired me that much, lol. i call my grandson a mini me when it comes to his dad, my son. he's just like him.
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
Hi Jo. You are so humble. I'm sure a lot of people admire you. Calling your grandson a mini me is just so cute. Thank you for responding and have a great day.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
18 Mar 09
thanks for the kind words. u just have seen me on my better days. lol
• Canada
13 Mar 09
Sure did..but we had fun! we would go out together in a nite club and if we sat with two guys and we prefered the one each other had, we would go into the bathroom and change clothes..the guys never noticed!! But the downsize is that she was sleeping with guys and I was a virgin therefore not..some guys would come up to me to talk to me and I would say..I don't know you. They would get mad and accuse me of not wanting to recognize them..hahah until I showed them my I.D. then they were amazed that we looked alike so much. I had another one when I was older and this bar I went to, I arrived and people looked at me amazed and I wondered why..well seems someone who looked like me just left about 10 min..then I walked in and all wondered how I had changed so fast. One guy came and asked me if I lived in the hotel hahaha. I never had someone as you mentioned but had girls that we could pass as twins. In florida my best friend and I had a ball..people would mix us up all the time..one time we were working in a store I was in the back she was at the cash..I served a client at the back when he got to the cash he was astonished to see me there..(he thought it was me) he said..how did you get to the cash so fast! Then I arrived and he said..oh my gosh..I thought I was going crazy hahahha.. we had a time of our lives.
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
I'm happy that you and your friend had so much fun. Thank you for sharing your stories, DancingRedFeather. Have a great weekend, my friend.
• Canada
14 Mar 09
Tthanks, I sure will be, I'm invited to a native meeting with my Vice Chief, I'm a chief..and then there will be entertainement, and delicious native food ..today..have a grt wkend too..
• United States
14 Mar 09
Can't say I ever found it flattering though my friends would tell me to take it as a compliment that a person wanted to be just like me. To me, it was like that movie Single White Female. You know, the creepy one with Brigit Fonda. That movie still gives me the shivers. What provoked this? Is someone stalking you? If they are, I'd definately get a restraining order, and do what you needed to do. Identity theft is very real and you should make sure to take the proper precautions. Namaste-Anora
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
Thank you for your concern, Anora...No one is stalking me. What actually triggered me to this topic is my friend's story. Her sister in law has been copying her for years now and she can't seem to find a way to make her stop. She even moved to another city but that didn't help. I've seen Single While Female too...but that one was really way too much. Thanks again, Anora. Happy weekend to you and your family.
• United States
14 Mar 09
Wow, sounds like a tough time for your friend. Hopefully the more she ignores her sisterinlaw it will cause the sisterinlaw to stop. Take care and have a good weekend. Namaste-Anora
@xbrendax (2662)
• United States
14 Mar 09
YES, my own mother! She was her own self through all these years, but now that I am living with her, she is turning into me! I hate it but she is 76 and is getting very forgetful and I guess she lost herself somewhere along the way. She is starting to copy just about everything I say and do and it drives me crazy!
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Just be more patient in dealing with her..she's your mother, after all. I'm sure she doesn't mean any harm, she probably just admires you and is so proud of what you have become. Thanks for sharing, xbrendax.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
I personally don't have one, but a good friend of mine (who constantly confides to me about it) has one. It was actually her sister-in-law. Ever since they met (they weren't married to their husbands that time) she noticed that the girl was quite 'interested' in everything. Information like where she gets her make-up, the brand of perfume, where she buys her things and stuff like that. Of course, being a friend, she would just tell her casually that it's something she has had for a long time and just didn't wear often. Anyhow, she soon noticed that after a week or so (after they talked) she saw that the girl bought that thing exactly the same. One time, the girl ask her where she got the green blouse, after a week, she has the same green blouse bought in the same store. It was shocking for her, and when they met, the girl would just say, 'oh, I forgot to tell you, I also have this'. Well, it was pretty obvious that it was new. At first, my friend would just ignore it, but soon found that it was not just her that the girl kept on copying. It was a lot of people. By the time they married the brothers, she soon found there's more to it. My friend and her husband bought a land at some area in the province, a week later, the sister and the brother-in-law also bought in that same area, across their land! It was hilarious listening to my friend. But the worst part of it all was during that girl's wedding. She copied everything from everyone else, to the DETAIL. The gown she wore, was like the other friend's wedding, the cake was exactly the same cake with another friend. The crowd was really shocked because they went to both those girls wedding! Whew! And the list goes on. I asked my friend how she felt about it. She actually said she felt betrayed. I mean, she could actually just tell my friend right then and there that she liked the color or the blouse or the thing, right? Instead of lying about it a week after saying it was old or was given to her. I mean, how coincidental could it be that most of the things my friend has, she has in the same shade and brand?? I don't this it's ever flattering. It's disturbing actually. I'm actually sad for the person. She doesn't have originality. I guess she doesn't know what she wants that's why she'd rather copy what others have. But I was hoping she'd not copy everything to the detail, it's insulting. She could just change the shade, right?
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
I agree with you, laydee. It is not flattering at all...and yes, your friend's case is so disturbing...guess there are people who are just not happy being themselves. I really appreciate you taking the time to share this story. Happy weekend. God bless.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
13 Mar 09
If that has ever gone on I was totally unaware of it. Since I haven't faced this I wouldn't know what to do, I look forward to sred other responses to this discussion.
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
I'm also looking forward to it. Have a great weekend, savypat. God bless.
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
this is a very interesting question: me, i can only think of one person.there was this woman who was so obsessed (that is just my term) with my husband.we werent married then,but when it was as clear as water that my husband (then boyfriend) is not interested with her,she left for good.i bumped into her one time with some people i know and when i was close by, i heard her ask them how she can gain weight.she was skinny then and i was more of the plump type (medium-built).I just smiled with the thought that,oh - she wants to have more flesh like me! but a year later,i chanced upon her profile in a socialnetworking site and she did gained weight.she also grew her hair long.she always had them short since before college,but now,it is long!she then tried to befriend me even before i found out that she has a good liking for my bf-but her trying to be caring to me even if we just met for the first time such as giving me food,letting me stay in her room when im in town,etc. became indicators to me that she is up to something bad-haha. she also did everything she can to win his attention by being caring to other people, etc.butno matter what you do if someone is just not into you,will definitely not work. there are just some things about her that is not good that im not,and that is my edge over her,:), and im happily married to my ex-boyfriend because he is now my husband, :)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Hi princessbadge. I think she's not only obsessed with your husband...she's obsessed with becoming you. Some people would really do anything to get attention. I'm happy that things went your way and that you have a successful married life. Cheers!
@lola1991 (45)
• China
14 Mar 09
Do you mean the communicate nonverbally by telepathy in twins?
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Hi lola. What I mean is somebody who's trying to be you...by dressing up like you, changing their hairstyle to look like you, engaging in the same activities and the like.
• United States
13 Mar 09
yeah... back in the days, i mean secondary school days. i was called boy little and a friend wanted the same name too so he had to tell them to call him boy small
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
Your friend must have admired you so much, that's why he wanted to be called the same... Thanks for your response, billgatexp.
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
i have a friend who idolizes me. as i observed her she acts really like me and for me it feels good sometimes. even my bad expressions, she also try to copy it. it is nice that there are people who wishes to be you but it is not good also because they copy you to the extent that even bad attitude you had are also copied. i dont want to report such peson who copy me but if they used my style to do bad things then i have to report also to the authorities.
@saimajo (10)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
At first I would find it flattering but if every detail is copied I thimnk that would be annoying. Every person is unique in every way. I would suggest her to be herself. She should styop copying others because if this get worse she would lose herself and her own identity. Its not bad if she idolizes you but if its too much i think you better talk to her and tell her to stop it because its not good for her. It is still cool to be yourself.
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
The "mini-me" is my little sister which is 16 years old now and in college. She likes the way I dress, Japanese songs... cartoons and language, sketching. I don't get annoyed with her but I tell her that everything should be in moderation
@thraCe (10)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
wow! Kinda flattering on my part, lol.. yet, it could be irritating, someone trying to be you. A person who has no confidence of being his/her own personal brand. Puts all his/her confidence of immitating another,the worst part is, the person imitated isn't even a celebrity.lol If i were to have a copycat, I'd imply to him of me being irritated. in whatever manner fate's gonna take me.lol