How do you convince a jealous man that he has no reason to be jealous?

United States
March 13, 2009 10:35am CST
How do you convince a man who loves you that you love him just as much and that there is no other man that could take you away? How do you let him know that he doesn't need worry about outsiders interfering with my love for him?
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@tea512 (687)
• United States
13 Mar 09
if i am reading it correctly it has nothing to d owith you, but i would be willing to bet he has been stung in the past.If this is the case it is all you can do to just keep him in the loop on what you are doing and his trust will begin to come out. I could be off base but i am speaking from experience once you love a cheater it can cloud relationships for year that follow. good luck and be honest, upfront and you can not lose.
• United States
13 Mar 09
Thanks, he was stung in the past, but so was I. Dang, I dont take it out on him. I look at each person as separate from another and do not take each man as the same as the last. Whats up with that?
@tea512 (687)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Sorry Indian_Girl boys are just wired different than girls. I know when i was in a lasting relationship again the new girl, would say i do not think that about you we have no history of that. But that this seems to be a guy thing.
@pricelis (86)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Sometimes it takes a while for a man to understand that you have male friends(but no slobbering all over them) or that you can't control what other people say or how they look at you. Make sure he knows you love him and give him all the reasons he needs to feel secure with you, and be sensitive to his insecurities. Hopefully with time his trust will grow and the 2 of you can have a very healthy relationship, but it has to work that way for him too. The woman has to understand that he has friends also.
• United States
16 Mar 09
wow, wish I could tell him i have male friends. He would freak out. I dont really have male friends, i do have associates though. none that i am really close to though.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
20 Mar 09
I think it would be hard to convince a man that he should not be jealous if he is. He may have feelings of insecurity. I would do everything I could to let him know that I love only him, and I would try not to flirt with other men.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Mar 09
i would like to know that myself. i was married 5 times and left the first four because they made life with them miserable. usually i found out they had been cheating theirself and was paraniod that i would. the last one was a gem. he was confident of himself and never cheated his own self and knew i wouldnt. unfortunately when i found the perfect one we were only together 8 yrs and he passed away with cancer. seems some of us are not meant to be happy.
@censae (72)
• United States
30 Mar 09
There is no way for you to do this. Clearly it is something for him to find a solution for. It is probably not your love that he does not trust. It may be his own feelings of worthiness, fear and ego that may be at issue.Gently, explore his past experiences with him, if possible , and see the connections. He may be confused, as many people are, about how to form healthy attachments. There is love, possessiveness, and obsessiveness(the most dangerous one). You can only offer him your pure love, it is up to him to accept.
• United States
13 Mar 09
i dont think you can convience him.. some people are just jealous and that is something they have to change themselves.