Would you take back someone you broke up with for a year ?

Just try to remind yourself WHY you two never ended up together. Would I trust! I am inclined to give second chances but I should have stuck with my first instinct, fool me once shame on you,fool me twice shame on me !

Geeze...well... I normally have a statement that says, "Two strikes and you're out!". Honestly, I never thought I'd take back an ex lover because in my mind, once they've screwed me over, then the chances of them doing it again are greater. But, I did take one boyfriend back...that fell through because I let him go due to his age. Please, he could have done so much better than a woman more than 10 years and who has children. My recent breakup with my boyfriend has left me wondering many things. Would I get back with him? I would in a heartbeat if he asked me to. But, I didn't fight him on his decision because I knew what he was saying was the truth. We broke up not because of infidelity but because he knew he wouldn't be the right man for the children and I. I respect him for that. So, to answer your question, I wouldn't take your ex woman back. There are other fish in the sea and honestly, she sounds like a ditz and a half. *Pleiades

No,I would not. You said yourself that she turned out to be different than what you thought. Did she do a 180 degree change and is now the woman that you want to be with. Plus there is always the chance that when she gets bored that she will leave you again and break your heart. She had her chance and she gave that up. Do not give her the chance to hurt you again. As they say "Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me." Take Care Blessings to All

ronnyb, u know i'd never say anything to hurt your feelings, i hope. i'm sure she made the wrong choice when she let u go. i wouldn't have her back on a ten foot pole. i don't believe i would trust her. if u decide to, good luck.

No, I have never taken a past lover back and never would, especially if they had not contacted me for a year. I believe that people do not change that much and what they were a year ago they are basically the same now. They still have the same characteristics as they did before, as do I, so why on Earth would it work out now if it didn't before? I don't have any idea why she would show interest now after a year but it could be for the reasons you thought and if by chance you were to be the ricochet lover then you definitely don't need those problems!

I have gone back out with people I have previously dated and it never works out. The way I see it now is if it didn't work out the first time then it's not going to work out this time. There were reasons it didn't work or we would still be together. Usually thats what happens when you redate someone you remember why it didn't work in the first place. In this situation it seems like she's just looking for a rebound. Be careful and Good Luck!

I don't think I would take her back. I would at least check out what happened to the guy she left you for and find out from some one other than her. I might ask the guy what happened and maybe take it from there.

How does that saying go? Fool me once , shame on you, Fool me twice, shame on me. Once Anyone drops me for another or lies to me, it is over and it can Never be the sma because I will Never trust him again.

I couldn't take someone back after I broke up with him for a year. There is a reason we broke up and I couldn't imagine getting over that pain. I could never trust someone who left me for someone else. I would wonder would he do it again and if he is coming back to me for another reason or whatever. I would probably ask him those things too.

The short answer is no. Life has a habit of being many shades of grey though! Your situation may have more than meets the eye. It's not something that has happened to me. I could be partial to a hard luck story, but then I would try to keep a distance to prevent the emotional heartstrings from being tugged too much. In the final analysis, it's really difficult to say. Every person and each relationship is unique, how precisely I would feel in another person's shoes is extremely hard to say. Maybe you could also talk to some of your close friends about your dilemma? All the best in resolving your situation, friend.

Why does she want you back becareful she is not going to use you,till someone else comes along.Remember she has hurt you once are you going to set yourself up for another fall,becareful love suzzy3

Hello my friend ronnyb Ji, I think, it is over, till you do not start again as a fresher. You should compare yourself impartially from 'girl's' angel and find out, why at all She kept away from you for him. Any more benifits in terms of finmances. Else, give this job to your parents. They will do better for you. May God bless you and have a great time.

I'm sorry I really can't tell because experience-wise, I have never had an ex because my present boyfriend now is my first ever. Probably, what I would do, if your situation happened to me is to not give in right away. Your ex-gf seems like she has other motives for trying to reconcile with you. Do you still love her? If you do then plan on giving it a second chance. PLAN. Meaning, don't implement it right away. Meanwhile, investigate on the probable reasons why she wants to get back into the relationship. If you think you don't love her anymore, why waste time!?

Do you want to take her back? I wouldn't be able to trust her after she left you once. Is she in need of money or a place to stay? I would wonder about things like that. I've never had a past lover come back and want to get together again. Maybe she's been burnt, and thinks you're a safe bet to recover on? The main question remains, do you WANT her back? If you do, try it. If you're really not interested in her anymore, tell her no thank you.

Nope, once its over...its really over Life goes on... so move on

Well, it depends on you basically if you still love this ex of yours until this time maybe you need time to settle this on your own, weigh your feelings at the same time the do's and dont's of having her back. We made mistakes at some point in our life and maybe she did regret that mistake she made, why not give her a chance then? But if you don't love her anymore maybe the best thing to do is to be just her friend. It's all up to you friend, just make the right move.

I would get back to her and tell all the truth...its better to tell every thing and dont try to hide any thing...

Normally I would say forget it, but if she is hot what have you got to lose. Maybe get in a few months of lovin' before she does it again. I would have my guard up, as soon as someone better looking than you comes along she will probably be leaving you again. I would play this opportunity to see where it goes, but do not bank you whole emotional energy into this relationship.

In some situations, I would say yes. But this one in particular is a definite no! She had her chance! And if you don't heed to her, she will merely find someone else who will. Maybe she's on the rebound which makes it even more of a no brainer! As I said, a yes might be sayyyy....if both of you were young and made some foolish mistakes. People do grow and some even get wiser, not all. Besides all the philosophy, just think...if you take her back now, you'll like a big 'ole sap! haha...good luck and tell her she missed out!

I believe once it's over then it's over. She has not changed. She still is that same girl. Plus it is very hard to get past a hurt like that. It will always be there in the relationship if you give her another chance. Trust is a very vulnerable asset in a relationship. Once it is gone it is very hard to get back. But this is your choice and I wish you luck on whatever you choose to do.