do you earn more than your husband does? how does your husband feel about it?

Philippines
March 13, 2009 3:18pm CST
My husband and I both have jobs, and we both receive our salaries weekly. I work at home doing transcriptions and data entry and I earn double the amount that my husband gets from his job. He used to be fine with it but then as time goes on, I noticed that he's been feeling really insecure about the amount of my salary because it's bigger than his. Sad part is, it looked like the responsibility for paying all the bills became mine instead of his because I'm the one with the salary that can pay for all of it. It's not really a problem for me but he's also been using this as a reason to take me for granted. It gets really annoying too because every time my salary comes he'll be pestering me in paying for the bills but never bothers to ask me if I saved up something for me to treat myself for all the hard work that I did.
3 responses
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
13 Mar 09
i did when we first got married, then of course, we decided to have kids and i stayed home with them and have only been working part time ever since. we never minded because money was not an issue with us at all. they say money is the most popular reason why marriages split up.
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• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i agree with you when you said money is the most popular reason why marriages split up. i try not to let it affect us but you know how men think sometimes. do you think i should keep from him the actual amount that i'm earning just so it won't hurt his ego? i don't really want to lie to him, especially when it's about money.
• United States
13 Mar 09
we have gone back and forth competing with our salaries. we have an odd kind of competitive relationship sometimes. when i was making more than he was it was mainly because he has child support taken out of his pay. he was really ok with it me making more. it doesn't really matter. right now he is making more as i get unemployment. when we pay the bills we don't separate into your check pays this or stuff like that. we don't ever have much "extra" but we are considerate about taking care of each other's needs. money is the biggest problem between couples and it is work sometimes to not get crazy over it.
• United States
13 Mar 09
when i first met my hubby i made more than he did but now he makes more than me...well he did until ccity closed now he is lookign for a job and im earning all that i can online since neither of us have a job ...