My 3 year old daughter and her lack of listening
By JHawkin214
@JHawkin214 (279)
United States
March 14, 2009 9:41am CST
I have a three year old girl. She has always be very independent likes to do her own thing and loves to play with other kids. Things have been a little different though 8 months ago she got a baby brother so the attention now has to be spread between them. Right now my son is a lot more needy since she is able to do a lot more herself like feed herself and get dressed and the basics. Over the last few months she has decided she is not going to listen. When I tell her to do something she tells me know or just stares at me. I've tried spanking and time outs and they don't seem to work. I don't know if it's because she is no longer the center of attention and is trying to get attention or what else could be causing her to be so difiant. Any ideas on how to get her to listen?
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@robie1828 (18)
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16 Mar 09
my little one is also like that. I've tried spanking and raising my voice at him but it didn't work. So I've tried to cool down whenever he does this and tell him how much I love him and say that he's a good boy though sometimes it doesn't work but at least I don't need to spank him coz it breaks my heart whenever I see him cry because of my spank. You should also give her your time. You could read her bedtime stories at night while the lil one is asleep.
@JHawkin214 (279)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Here recently I have been reading her bed time stories, or braiding her hair or panting her nails but she still seems to crave more attention. Thanks!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
15 Mar 09
Oh!She is just three years old.You should treat her as a baby too.Focus on her and shower love to her,whenever your little boy sleeps.Tell her,the little boy is meant to play with her and provide her with some more toys to play with.She will be distracted and grow with her imagination.Don't spank her.That will ruin her and the rivalry towards her sibling will be enhanced.
@JHawkin214 (279)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I do hug her and kiss and tell her I love her but I don't want to start treating her like a baby again she is getting to be a big girl almost four years old and will be starting pre-k this year. I try to show her that she is a big girl and praise her whenshe does something good...Thanks
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
14 Mar 09
My daughter that just turned 2 years old has become the same way, but she does not have the new baby/less attention excuse. She just does not like to listen. It seems like nothing I have tried works on her either. She just starts screaming and hollering when you try to punish her for not listening.
@JHawkin214 (279)
• United States
14 Mar 09
Well good luck! and let me know if you find a solution. I fear that my daughter will be like my little brother he wouldn't listen ever and nothing anyone tried worked. Then they diagonosed him with ADHD and put him on meds he was like a zombie on some of them and eventually they just gave up on that. So who knows hopefully it's just a stage!
@alexajanea (46)
• United States
14 Mar 09
I have 6 kids from 1 to 15 and they are all differnt and use other types of punishement for each. Spanking and timeout dont usually work. I do timeout for one and for another I have to take something they really love away. Timeout works for 1 and doesnt for the other but taking her dressup away works with her. Because I have so many I also try to make sure I have alone time with each one so they each get there 1 on 1 time with me.
@JHawkin214 (279)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Great idea that taking something away might really help. She has so many toys and plays with them all but if I take something that will be what she wants so that might do the trick thanks!
