What is your feeling about dating web sites?

Yes it is not a good thing for married people. LOL Life can through you a very unexpected curve however and you never really know when you may find you are no longer married. That happened to me two different times and the dating sites really helped me out. Thank you for responding.

Well there are a few sites out there that are free. So it cost's you nothing to go and look. I think most of the time men do the approaching if they like what they see and hear in your profile. Now just because you meet someone on a dating site does not mean that you have to date them. Many carry on conversations for a long time before they actually meet each other. By that time you have a pretty good feeling about that person as to how safe they are. It also gives you some practice in connecting with people without commitment. If you meet someone face to face then there is a certain amount of uneasiness because you have no idea who that person is. On a dating site you get to know each other over time and if there is not something there you can walk away. It's totally up to you how much you let them know about you. I know it sounds like I am trying to sell you on them. No, I am not. I had very good luck with them so know what can happen if you do it right.

There are only a few things that need happen for dating sites to work, and I am only looking at this from the male perspective. If you look at them as a way to meet people with no real expectations of a long term relationship they work wonders. If you are completely honest with where you are and what you are looking for it works well also. If a woman does not like what she hears then covering anything up only postpones the inevitable. I lost two that I really liked because of that but I think it was the right thing to do because I then met my sweetheart who I love dearly. I am sorry to hear you had some bad experiences. Of course that can happen no matter how you meet. Good to hear you have taken the right attitude and moved on.

Thank you for responding shakadoo. Yes you are right it must be approached with the right frame of mind. If you go in expecting to find your one and only you may be very disappointed. If you look at it as a way to meet people then it is fantastic. When I found someone that seemed interesting I ask if they would meet for coffee. That simple first time meeting in a very public place usually tells you all you need to know. I believe it worked for me because I made sure that I was up front and honest with them and that payed off. If they did not like what they heard, or I didn't, we both moved on.

Have you actually used a dating site and then met someone? While it is always possible that some will be lonely that is not the case for everyone. On-line dating just provides one more place to meet people. It also provides people a way to connect without putting themselves in danger.

Sorry I am so slow in getting back with you. Too much to do lately. Thank you for your response. I am afraid I really do not know of any international websites but I would be surprised if there are none. The issues they would have to deal with may not make it worth doing but I am not sure. Every country has differing ideas about this so it may be very hard to control something like that. Of course the sites I used may have been available for you but because I had no need to check that out I am not sure. The one I had the best results with was Match.com. You can search system wide or restrict your search to a certain location. There are many many more of course. Good luck to you.