Can you fall in love with an Ugly person?
By ana3173
@ana3173 (420)
Philippines
March 15, 2009 2:15pm CST
most of the people says Love is blind. I would be lying if i say that looks does not matter. but according to somebody who consider look first, that if a person is ugly prepare to live alone, hahaha funny but its true, my cousin who is a joker tells this to my helper that " do not get married, i just wish you're the last ugly person in your clan". the only person who can possibly love you is someone equally ugly also. though hes ugly but hes kind to us. but falling in love to a non-good looker is not a big question of blinded love. beauty lies on the eyes of the beholder. everyone has a standard of beauty, you fall in love its not because of the outside beauty but its the personality of a person. for example heidi klum and seal, its her personal choice,loving someone who is not attractive is not a sin, we could not condemn somebody for falling in love for unattractive person. he may have weird hair, crooked teeth or whatever looks you may have considered ugly but when you are in love those imperfections turns out to be beautiful to your eyes. yes its hard to explain, but the meaning of true love that i believe in is not based in beauty alone. how long will a handsome face last? and how long the good character traits last? yes we are really attracted to super handsome guy but what the kind of love this man could offer us? so can you fall in love with an ugly person?
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39 responses
@neaj_miz (21)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
It is not possible to fall in love with someone who is ugly.Because no one is ugly in the eyes of god and we made perfect.But its really depend on the eyes of the person.But if we are only refering to a physical aspect of a person it depend on his/her discription .As we all know love is so unconditional, no matter how ugly she/he is.
@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
yes we are created equal in the eyes of the Lord our God, we are all beautiful in the eyes of God, whether you are rich or poor, whether your ugly or beautiful we are still his son/daughter, although in the eyes of a human we can see the outer/physical appearance but the Lord sees the inner beauty of a man. and Gods love to human being is unconditional.
@flashwitt (3)
• United States
30 May 12
I disagree. You cannot fall in love with an ugly person because no one is ugly in the eyes of LOVE. Eyes in love see beauty in the object of their affection. If they don't, then they should probably question whether what they feel is love. I have often dated men that I know were not physically attractive to others, and even years later, after messy break-ups, I find them physically attractive in old photographs, remembering the love I once felt.
@sid_aries_92 (46)
• India
15 Mar 09
its true we can fall in love with ugly people in fact my girlfriend is ugly looking but i don't care cause its the heart and mind that i really care about if the other person love you as u love him/her love is really blind then
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah it can happen my wife fell in love with me. lol. but for real sometime a person inside is better then the outside.
to me i have dated some who wasn't like that good looking but their personaly was so great.
to me its better to date someone who not so good looking then a good looking person whos inside is ugly
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@xhaimacoy (115)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
yea, I can fall in love with an ugly person.. it doesn't matter how was his face.. but i think when it comes in finding a great man i would rather choose a responsible one.
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@titobuot009 (16)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
yes,if you fall in love to person that you have been seen ever in your life you could love him like the love of your mother and it takes you to recover your loneliness if you fall inlove with an ugly person you could make him happy and you could never forget him!!!!thats all i can say!!!hehehe take care!!^_^
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@Rosmari (21)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
O course yes. I would say if you really love someone honestly, you will accept him/her who they really are?Each one of us is especial and unique in the eyes of God.
and in the eyes of our parents. If we talking about relationship here. I think I will choice the guy that I can talk to, understanding and responsible in many ways. True love is very difficult to express even you cannot understand and cannot noticed it.You don't need to find it will come to you if you really deserved it. Just feel it!
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@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
17 Sep 12
I think you fall in love not by deciding first you have to fall in love. it just happens unknowingly. if we are trying to do it intentional, then its not love.Most of the times, we meet a person, we like their character and then we fall in love. if you ask me, I dont believe in love at first sight, its only infatuation. If it would turn into love or not, that has to be seen.
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
15 Mar 09
People who consider looks before character are shallow. Of course we all have ideals about what kind of person is good looking and what is 'plain' but they don't have a great deal to do with whether real love can blossom or not. Many people who are really good-looking say that their looks are just as much a disadvantage to them in finding a real mate as those who are really plain.
All people with any sense know to look first at someone's eyes in order to decide whether a person is beautiful inside. The other test (which takes longer) is to listen to what a person says, how they laugh and how they respond to others.
Love is only blind once love exists. Anyone can love and anyone can be loved. Plain people are, perhaps, at an advantage because the people that fall in love with them fall in love with the real person and not with their 'filmstar potential'.
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
yes i agree but let just consider first of physical attraction, if we are attracted to somebody who is a "Hollywood looking star", we are not hypocrite to say this, its natural. but if we are looking for a more serious relationship that will last well just consider a good characteristic of a person. but disadvantages of a good looking man will always be there, like a lot of attractive people complain that expect to much from them. they assumed that a good looking person are unintelligent, arrogant or superficial. in the social world, you're just a pretty boy or girl. you're just given a physical beauty but you're lacking in other areas. they look at you like this beauty without brain. but i know this is not true because i know a lot of good looking person with a good character and intelligent also. but the best to look for a person is a good character traits which is important if you want a longer relationship.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 09
Beauty is something everyone wants in life. I don't care whether that person is not very good looking if I find him attractive and we have some common interest I will make my choice on him. Physical beauty inspires all sorts of feelings of jealousy and attraction. It is better to go for a simple person with spiritual qualities which will improve with the passage of time. The handsome guy belongs to all women and he will not turn down any women that is attracted to him.
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
yes i agree with you to go for a simple person and a God fearing man, because those qualities proves that good character count most than the outside beauty of a man. physical beauty will not remain forever it will eventually fade, but true beauty is timeless.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Why not, especially if that person has a good heart. I believe that physical beauty will deteriorate in time. As we grow older, we can have wrinkles, we will loose our teeth, we could loose our posture - this will makes us ugly. What will not change eventually is our values in life. If we have a kind, generous, forgiving heart we will never go wrong in life. The only person I cannot love is someone who are ugly inside and outside his being. Great post! Happy myloting.
@marguicha (222325)
• Chile
21 Oct 12
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. I don`t know whether the men in my life were considered by others as handsome or beautiful. I did and for me it was enough. But I was more attracted to my husband to be by his generosity than by his looks, even though he was very handsome.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
17 Sep 12
When somebody falls in love not see the face or anything. Love is happen with anytime with anyone and anywhere. No chance to choose the persons ugly, beauty, smart etc. Person is not attractive only from face but some person are attractive with their talking way, working way also.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
21 Oct 12
I felt that that the beauty inside here as well as on her body is quite important and I am very open to tell you that the beauty also plays an role choosing my girl friend but the thing is that I can't find beauty inside and her outside her at some time. Such ones are really rare
@flashwitt (3)
• United States
30 May 12
When you fall in love, you are naturally attracted to the subject of your affection. You see beauty in the tilt of their head, or the shape of their chin, the light in their eyes... you cannot fall in love with someone who is ugly, NOT because, as one reader said, we are all beautiful in the eyes of God- but because we are all beautiful in the eyes of LOVE. Eyes in love see beauty. They can't see anything else.
@eneria (118)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
In my humanities class., my professor told me "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"...
For me, physical looks doesn't really matter.. as long as i love that person.. and as long as he had a good attitude, i am much more for the attitude of the person rather than his physical looks...
Looks can be deceiving.. and good looks will never lasts.. but the good attitude, it can lasts forever.. :)
@Looben (15)
• China
18 Apr 09
I think even an ugly person will also find his/her love.Because love is so beautiful and strange things beyong looks.As for me, to fall in love with whom, depends on heart and mind, much more,those inside.For the first glance, I may be active to a ugly person.But if this person has got attractive character and something special in personality, I'll be interested to talk to her. I think this may be the first step to the following love.
Looking is not the only thing. one Person with beautiful looking but bad personality or charater, and Person with ugly looking but wonderful personality or charater, I would rather chose the latter.
Is it strange?
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
23 Mar 09
Hi,
Well for me, it is really hard to talk to an ugly girl, I just don't know why. I don't really like to talk to ugly girls, it makes me feel really uncomfortable. So my answer is no, I can't fall in love with an ugly person, and I don't think it will ever happen. For me to actually marry someone, they have to be good looking. Of course, they don't have to be a super model or anything, but I can't take the fact that every morning for the rest of my life, I would have to wake up with an ugly girl sleeping right next to me. I might as well look for a really high up cliff that I could jump off instead lol. Other people might not see it this way, but for me I often look at the outer appearance, then the heart.
@taoyao99 (31)
• China
23 Mar 09
um```it's realy difficult to say that ,i admit that i like the handsome man,but in truth,my boyfriend isn't a pretty boy,but the appearence can't to influence our love.well,i was also used to feel bad with his appearence,but at end,i find that i can't leave him ,i can't live without him,he is my MR.right,and it's not others.
@xstar23456yo (1)
• United States
13 May 11
I fell in love with his personality. However, now I am torn. I really love who he is and I am currently dating him). He is almost perfect. The only flaw is that he is not attractive at all. Everyone in my family just asks 'why' and I do not know what to say. Believe it or not, I am considering breaking up with him just because of his appearance even though he is almost the perfect guy for me.
I really do not know what to do.
I love him but I do not love his looks. I would hate to hurt him but I think it must be done.
By the way, I am one of those almost 'perfect' looking girls. He treats me like a queen but I cannot get over the fact that he is not attractive. Yes, call me shallow but I cannot fight this. I wish I could. I wish love was blind.
