How do you feel about home schooling?

@JenInTN (27514)
United States
March 15, 2009 8:42pm CST
There are some aspects of home schooling that are attractive but then I know some that homeschool their children. The only requirements is a GED or a highschool diploma. That's all well and fine too but these children I know are by no means at the level they should be and seems to be just an easy way to keep from having to deal with social issues. I do however know a family in which their children are very well taught and even advanced in their knowledge. What is your opinion about homeschooling? Is it beneficial for the child?
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@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I believe it is very beneficial for children. The way schools are nowadays it would seem a lot safer for kids anyway! Also, it seems to me that the majority of children who are homeschooled are far more advanced than those in reguler schools. I think the one on one is far more beneficial. As far as socializing goes.........There are so many outlets available for kids nowadays such as church activities, community centers, the YWCA, the YMCA and let's not forget about other kids in the neighborhood. The net is another great way kids can find local places to get together with others. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Thanks for the input! There are a lot of ways to make up for the social interastion a child gets at school. It's up to the parents to use them though. I think homeschooling can be great if it is attended to in the right manner. Children can learn more under certain situations.
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@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I am a homeschooled graduate and proud of it! Haha. My brother after me, he is too. He works with computers for a living. I was in the USAF. My grandma homeschooled her 2 youngest, but I don't think it was as great of a thing for them, because it was more of just an excuse to be off school all the time. I really had a pile of books higher than your average college student and I would work for hours on end! I actually finished all my highschool credits at age 13, but I continued to more schoolwork because it's not legal to graduate that young in my state! LoL. I took my GED at age 16 because my parents didn't keep records of my schooling. Haha. I think that there is a right way and a wrong way to go about homeschooling and you have to be in it for the best interests of the child. Religion is no reason to homeschool, wanting more free time is no reason to homeschool. It's got to be about the child really.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Hi there may I ask you a question, did you go to public school at all during your childhood years or did you do home school your whole life?
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
That's a shame you had to settle for a GED after all that work and obvious intelligence. There is a wrong way and a right way to go about everything..I agree. There are a lot of people that take advantage of home schooling to keep from dealing with the rules of regular school. I think it is great if someone is as educated as you are from homebut for those that aren't..it really hurts them in the longrun. Thank you very much for responding.
• United States
16 Mar 09
Oh, I ened up getting my Diploma too! I just had to wait a year before I could get that! Haha. I guess you could say I double graduated! Haha.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I find most of the kids I've met that are home schooled are well ahead of their peers in public school in knowlege, but some are perhaps a bit socially deprived. Not all, by any means, but some. At one point the roomie's youngest nephew was wanting to move in with us and I had just retired. I told her that I would stay home and make sure I was there when he got home, did his home work, and he'd probably HATE it here.... instead he moved in with his grandparents and they are home all the time, make sure he does his homework and he loves it - well, except when her dad gets going on his nagging.
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I was at the doctor's office with the roomie a while back and there was a woman in there with her 3 kids and 2 had workbooks working on studies while the 3rd was reading a book. Granted they were not little children, but some of the best behaved I've seen for a while. And mom was there helping them stay on track with the studing. The oldest (reading the book) was the best, needless to say, but it seemed they were there for allergy shots.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
That must have been a nice sight.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Heyya ElicBxn! I know a couple in which their children have been homeschooled and the children have been well taught and are ahead of most publicly schooled children. Then I know a few others that really have gotten themselves in over their head.
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@arthi_88 (1516)
• India
16 Mar 09
Somehow I too feel that home schooling can never prepare a child for the competitive world outside if they don't get to tackle crowd from younger ages in school. Moreover at school we also learn to deal with different kind of stressful situations an all kinds of people from different social culture or backgrounds. getting surprised at all these as a grown up may seriously hinder a person'd growth in career and social life.But then there are examples which contradicts this believe of mine.Like Rabindranath Tagore- a literary genius had been home schooled!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Hi arthi! There is a lot to be learned by peers. There are a lot of life situationss that being schooled in public can prepare us for. I think that parents are trying to shelter children sometimes by home schooling. I would love to do it myself if there was a social program.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I agree with you arthi_88 because home school can sometimes leave a child feeling isolated and lonely and there just some things that cant be taught at home in my opinion, dont get me wrong home school dose have some positive benefits but its still not the same as actually going to school.
@arthi_88 (1516)
• India
17 Mar 09
Actually some parents are forced to provide home schooling for their children for various unavoidable circumstances. But if there isn't anything such then children should go out to a day to day school as that incorporates so many things in us that can't be taught by any book or at home. After all practical lessons are the best ones.
• Singapore
16 Mar 09
Hi Jenintn. I don't believe I know anyone who has been home schooled, and I don't think it's a good idea to be honest. I say let the kids enjoy life and see the world, they are missing out a lot by not going to school. I mean I can't really imagine myself being home schooled growing up, it just sounds boring.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
LOL..it does doesn't it. I know children of others but not people of my age that have been schooled at home. Thanks.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Heisman trophy winner..yes..I'd say he has done pretty well. Thanks.
• Singapore
16 Mar 09
I just remembered a famous person who was home schooled. Tim Tebow, the Gators' QB. It looks as if he made it good, howell. You're welcome jenintn.
@panmin (90)
• China
16 Mar 09
as u said,children u have seen with a lack of ability. i have never seen children studied at home though internet or something materials. but in my opinion, i don't think that is a good way for child to study at home,because they need a relationship with their ages. and if they accept homeschool,yes they have no need to go outside and it is more safety than usual,but the important thing is,they seldom hang-out may lack of social skill. i think home schooling is better for an adult who is busy but still want to learn other things,then he\she can stay at home.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Hi panmin! Thanks for the input. I think there should be interaction with other children. I do understand the saftey issue that parents fear but they really do need to know how to handle social situations when they get older.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Thanks for the add on. I haven't seen any news reports about it but I wish I had. There is very little regulation as far as I know. I may be wrong but that's what I'm thinking. Thanks again..it should be taken very seriously. These children are our future.
@panmin (90)
• China
17 Mar 09
today i saw a news on home schooling.it was so serious that home schooling indeed cause problems. a kid was trained at home. unfortunately,his mother careless hit his head and killed him just for the reason that the little boy took things to eat without permission. it is said that home schooling is unregulated by the law,so there are eight states in the America that parents are not willing to tell whether their children study at home or not! what is more, a good example of home schooling also failed when faced the society. so, it not that easy to train children at home. we should take it serious.
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
24 Mar 09
I do not really know if homeschooling is the way to go when educating children. But then again, I may be wrong. First of all, home schooling require a lot of patience. And a lot of discipline when it comes to sticking to a schedule of learning. If the parents do not have those qualities mentioned, then it is better not to go with home schooling. Second of all, what is taught at home, it may or may not be more than what schools are already teaching. Unless the parents are constantly keeping up with the syllabus that are taught in school so that they can teach the same to their children, they may lose out in the final exams if the children are taught the right things. Again, it boils down to discipline in keeping updated. But I do see some success stories about home schooled kids who did much better than those that went through the system. Are more people opting for the home schoolfor their kids? Cos it has been on the news alot of late.
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
You have a point there too. Given that schools are no longer as accomodating as before, it may be a better idea to keep the kids at home if one of the parents are not working. And yes, if the kid is a handful to deal with, keeping them at home is a good idea too. Not to mention the safety that one can get away from all those violence that are happening in schools these days. It is just plain scary.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Mar 09
There are more people opting to homeschool. I think it may be the rise in in school violence and the influences children are sujected too. Parents are wanting to protect their kids. I also link it to the ever tightening rules of attendance and parebt responsibility for behavior. Parents spend jailtime here over their children's behavior. They also pay fines. The uncontrollable child can be quite the hand full in more ways than one. Keeping them home can avoid the consequences. I know two families from both sides of this fence.
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@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Hi there Jen! I know a lot of Stay at Home Moms who home school their children and I must say that I'm impressed on how well it works for them. I think that it's good to home school as long as the parent is dedicated enough and is great at home schooling. I myself is doing home schooling but only as a reinforcement since I am not satisfied with the education that my son is getting in school and it's too bad that home schooling isn't really recognized here in our country because if it was, I would choose to home school my son.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I think that homeschooling is great for the dedicated parent. There are a lot of benefits but at the same time I have seen a lot of faults. Here it is recognized but not regulated as it should be. There are guidelines but at the same time there are parents who don't really teach their children and there is no one that I know of that can prove any different. I am also a little concerned with the social impact it has but at times I think this is not such a bad thing either.
• United States
30 Mar 09
I am a very big believer in home schooling. My children are 1 and 2 and they will be home schooled. We have already started on a lot of things. I think if the parents truly have the heart and intrest in home schooling it is great. If there is a worry or concern that you can not handle it they are better off in public school. I have heard many parents state that they can not handle the home schooling. I am a disabled home maker and my husband and I have talked alot about it and decided to home school our children.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Just like everything else in life, it depends on the circumstances. In this case, it depends on the child and it depends on the parent. I think homeschooling CAN be a very good thing, OR it can be a way for parents to keep their children more controlled etc. I do know our school system is seriously flawed, so I can understand why some parents choose to homeschool. As for the socialization. I've heard people talk about that being a concern. For some people it might not be such a good idea to stay home and avoid socialization. But, for others who are homeschooled, they do their socializing in other ways. Some homeschool families join homeschool groups where they do field trips etc. Other homeschooled children participate in sports and get their socialization that way. I've spent a lot of time at my children's schools and I know first hand that the "socialization" that they get there ain't all that great!
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I know what your saying about the socialization children get from school. I think hoeschooling can be a great alternative to the flawed system provided parents are dedicated and attentive to all areas of need. Thanks for the response.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
25 Mar 09
LOL..homeschooling* missed a key..lol
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
16 Mar 09
Hi Dear i think and believe that if opportunities is there kids must go for proper schooling as its not only Knowledge or Degreee but Extra curriculat activities, Social relations. Confidence, Motivation and other things which are necessary for personal grooming So kids must enjoy it Take care
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
16 Mar 09
Yeah u r right Enivornment effects tooo Hopw and pray that all kids of world get chance to study in school
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Thanks cupid! Those are definately things that home schooled children miss out on. There has to be a certain amount of competiveness taught.
@fasttalker (2796)
• United States
22 Mar 09
My husband has a nephew that was home schooled his whol life excluding 2nd grade. The most negative thing I seen was the lack of siciology skills. He is now enrolled in college and having a terrible time trying to keep up. His mother did the home schooling and she is a well educated lady but I think she now sees that it wasn' what was best for him. She has a daughter that she home schooled until this one started college and had such a hard time and she went and enrolled her daughter in public school. Now she has a mess on her hands because the daughter has never been in public school and now she is in the tenth grade struggling to stay afloat. I worry about her because she is at such a rebelious age anyway and she hasn't had the social skills to deal with the normal teenage problems. I guess there is nothing like experience to teach us a lesson or two!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Your right fasttalker. Experience teaches us lessons. If there were a program or a way to introduce social skills into homeschooling..it would be great. It's a tough situation for those children you speak of..not to mention for the mom who probably thought she was doing a lot of good teaching her children at home. Sometimes it works out well but sometimes it doesn't. Thanks for sharing.
@Hvaniday1 (550)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 09
Good, why not?
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Well..I was thinking it is really good for the dedicated parent but for the ones that aren't it could cause the child an education. It's also kind iffy because of the social thing but there are a lot of people here with good ideas for that too. Thanks hvaniday!
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@rakesh284 (1472)
• India
16 Mar 09
I think homeschooling should be provided only to few children and that too if they have some problem to go to public schools or some illness. Just imagine if everyone would prefer Homeschooling where will you get such a huge number of teachers. What will schools do then?? Bye
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I agree with you I think home school might be ok under special circumstances, but actually going to school is best.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
What would happen to the teachers? That's a good point. We really need them. Thanks for the response.
• China
17 Mar 09
Hi, I don't think homeschool is good to children. School is a place not only provide knowledge but also give students opportunities to learn how to communicate with others and how to make friends. This is necessary for a child to get adapt to the later society.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Thank you Clarissa! I think social intereaction is important too.
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
16 Mar 09
To my way of thinking, no parent should undertake educating their children without having the education required of a certified teacher. Why a person with a GED would feel competent to teach their children boggles my mind. I had one parent in Tennessee who told me she was planning to homeschool even though she had never graduated from high school. This shouldn't be allowed. Teachers know a lot of ways to get the kids to learn things that parents just don't know. There are lots of group activities in schools which are good for socialization purposes as well as for the child to develop teamwork skills that are so necessary in a lot of workplaces these days. I've been a teacher for a lot of years, and I know that it isn't as easy as it looks, especially if you want to do a good job. Everyone seems to think they can be a teacher these days when, in reality, there are a lot of trained teachers who don't have the skills they need to have.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Hi sbeauty! A teacher comment! I do agree there should be educational standerds. There should be training involved if parents are to teach from home. Educational requirements have changed very much since parents have attended school and people tend to try and teach on the level in which they were taught at that age. A child can miss out if one is not careful. Thank you very much for the input.
@jess368 (3368)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Hi Jen, I think if done correctly homeschooling can be a wonderful thing, especially if your children have a certain personality that they would do better being taught by a parent. There are many independent schools (friday school) that coorelate with homeschooling, but children go there on Fridays to take state tests, socialize with others there age, and walk accross a stage fro graduation. This way children who are homeschooled dont miss out on the fun side of public or private school. These Friday schools even have proms. Again, I think it can be great, but I also know there are many parents who are not well enough trained to teach there own children necessary school subjects.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Hi jess! That friday school would be a wonderful add in for home schooling. I wondered if there was something in place for social interaction. Thanks for the response.
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@apples99 (6556)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I think home school is ok it is a lot safer then actually going to school, but there is a downside, because if a child is home schooled they miss out on being able to interact with other children, and I think that interacting with others is a accentual part of growing up, and helps a certain part of a childs over all development, and they miss out on so many things, like prom, and other good things that they just cant get in a home school environment, and its a lot more difficult to make friends, and date when a teen or child is home schooled and I know going to school can be difficult, for some kids these days, but I feel that in a long run actually going to school is a better choice over all, because being home schooled can be very isolating, and in society a person has to be able to handle and deal with more then just there family or siblings, but a wide variety of situations and going to school can prepare them for some of those situations.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Mar 09
Hi apples! Thank you for the input. I really like the way you have stated your response. There is truely so much for a child to learn besides what's in the text books. Granted some of it is not what we want them to be exposed to but it is an introduction to the world. The world can be a tough place and it is important to have our children prepared. I think if there were social events for children who are home schooled I would think it all the more beneficial.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I think that if the parents really pur forth the effort to actually teach their kids, homeschooling can be great. On the other hand, if the parents are Homeschooling only as a way to keep from having to worry about social issues or even keeping a schedule, it can be horrible for the kids.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Thanks lynnemg! It does have a lot to do with intention.
@sassy28 (834)
• United States
17 Mar 09
For me my kids would not benefit. I would not be able to keep them focused on doing their work. I have seen both the good and the bad of home schooled children. I feel if the parent doing the homeschooling is fully commited to it and can keep to the schedule the children do great. But the ones that do not keep to the daily schedule will let them down. I was in line at the store one day behind a teenager that was being homeschooled and she was bragging to her friends that she basically did what she wanted and when she wanted to. All of could think was this poor girl was being cheated of an education and a better way of life.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I know! They think it's great at the time to avoid rules and regulations but the fact is it just hurts them in the long run. Thanks.
• United States
17 Mar 09
i think that it can be but it is a huge commitment on the part of the parent. also the child if they had already attended school would need to understand that they were still expected to live up to certain expectations. i had 4 kids in school at the same time and i never thought about homeschooling even though i know someone with 5 kids who did it. i think a lot of people who choose it do it because of their religious beliefs. that is fine but it is still a big thing to do. helping my kids with their homework is as far as i want to go with it. volunteering at their school is fine also. i think it can benfit the child but only if it is done right.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Mar 09
That's true NuttyMomma! Parents have to be dedicated if they want to benefit their children at home. I think it would be a lot harder if a child had attended public school first then homeschool. It's probably better to start them out that way if your going to do it. Thanks for responding.