how to give an unsolicited advice to a friend
By eabaterina
@eabaterina (501)
Philippines
March 16, 2009 2:25am CST
i have this friend who lost his job recently and feels bad about it but he won't accept other jobs that are offering him lower pay than his pay at his previous work. i told him to accept the highest offer while it is still open but he can still look for other jobs, which he is doing right now, and he will come home to our apartment complaining that the offers are very low. and he doesn't have a lot of remaining money but he will still go out with friends in bars, etc. i don't want to tell him not to do that because that is his life and he can live it the way he chooses but i am just concerned. i hope he won't borrow money or else i will lecture him haha =) so how do you give advice to friends even if they are not asking for it? thanks!
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3 responses
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
i'd just tell it to them straight, just pick the right time and right place. and be prepared for the possibilities like he might get annoyed, mad, or just ignore you...but he almost might actually accept the advice and appreciate it. because it only means i care so much for this friend or else i wouldn't go through all the hassle of giving unsolicited advice and finding the time to talk about it...
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@eabaterina (501)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
okay, i hope he won't get angry or something. we live in the same rented apartment so it will be hard to coexist if there are internal disagreements =( so i am trying to avoid misunderstandings with my flatmates
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
oh i see, then that makes it harder for you then. well if you've known this person long enough, you probably know his traits, character, attitude, and with that, maybe you can predict how he's gonna react over the unsolocited advice. if he gets mad, it's likely he will realize later on that he made a mistake and that he is SUPPOSE to appreciate your advice since it's for his own good anyway! LoL hehe
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@VentFoudre (14)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Just tell him to get or accept that job to continue his/her happenings.
Set a side his pride...coz pride can cause of being a loser..^_^
@eabaterina (501)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
okay, will do that =) a lot of people with no jobs and here he is rejecting offers to him right? =) thanks for the advice =)
@brady2moss (700)
• Singapore
16 Mar 09
Smack him/her in the head and just knock some common sense into his/her thick brain 
. Kidding aside, I suggest you tell your friend straight on, and if you can't do it yourself, why not ask your common friends to come along and talk to this friend of yours. It's for his/her own good anyways.
. Kidding aside, I suggest you tell your friend straight on, and if you can't do it yourself, why not ask your common friends to come along and talk to this friend of yours. It's for his/her own good anyways.1 person likes this
@eabaterina (501)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
maybe i will =) lately he is depressed and constantly complaining. i always try to cheer him up but sometimes when you are around a person a lot, you get to see his bad points =( i am not a patient person, sometimes i really want to smack him in the head
