why is it hard to accept some things sometimes?
By jane9147
@jane9147 (252)
Philippines
March 16, 2009 7:25am CST
my favorite aunt plans to get married ... maybe this year, don't know when exactly. but when i met her boyfriend, i was surprised! he wasn't what i was expecting. and as i know him, i get to hate him for her. but my aunt loves him so much! ugh! i don't know how to deal with people i'm not in good terms with.
i'm still trying to learn how to accept him as my uncle or one of our family members but no matter how much i try, i can't really accept him. and that upsets my aunt cause she wants all of us to like him.
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5 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
16 Mar 09
well we are dealing with the samething our daughter in law dont like our daughter. but like i told them and i will tell you. it dont matter if you like him or not. your aunt loves him, as long he treats her good and not beating on her. or mistreating her in anyway. dont worry about her.
you should still show him a common respect not because of him, but for your aunt. when you are around him be polite to him, show him respect.
i tell my daughter in law and my daughter the samething, you dont have to like him, but you should show him respect same for him to you. because of your aunt. that is what it boils down too.
you don't have to call him uncle, but unless your aunt ask you too. do it for her and out of respect for her as well.
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
16 Mar 09
yeah then it is hard to deal with. but we still need to try to keep the peace within the family.
i am lucky my aunt and uncle are both with nice people and i call them aunt and unlce too. even though my aunt is married to her guy lol
@bluerainhong (400)
• China
16 Mar 09
Hi, jane, it is hard to accept him at some times, specially to be your family member. Maybe we need to think about the things in a different view. Your aunt love him so much, and you also love your aunt, so for your aunt's happiness, it is better to accept him. Hehe...
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@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
16 Mar 09
We all hate to see our family members or friends take up with partners we don't care for, but it is their decision, after all. Why do you hate this person so much? Do you think your aunt will come to some kind of harm, or is it just a personality clash? The least you can do for an aunt whom you love so much is to at least be civil and polite with the guy. Try to get to know him better, and you might decide he's not so bad after all. And if he makes your aunt happy, isn't that what is really important?
@jane9147 (252)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
what you said, that's what i always try to do when she brings him at home. but i feel that in their relationship, my aunt is the only one who loves. i feel like my aunt deserves a better guy for her. but guess you're right, it's her decision. *sighs*
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@ronharold (555)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
It is hard to accept somethings because we have standards and are selfish. We wanted things that will benefit us and when we know that somethings will cause a hindrance in our selfish plans then we cannot accept it.
