what if a married man seeks a relationship with you.

@Dorrdavy (275)
Jamaica
March 16, 2009 11:52am CST
when i was about 15yrs old a married man tried to have a relationship with me; he told me how pretty i was and that he would love to experience me in bed. i asked him what is it that i have that his wife does not have and why did he marry her if he knew he was not able to love and be faithful to her, then i reminded him that he was old enough to be my father. that sure made him leave me alone. what would you have done?
10 responses
@liza369 (103)
• United States
17 Mar 09
What you did was right in my opinion. I haven never experienced a situation like that but I def. would of reacted the same way as you.
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@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
17 Mar 09
glad you haven't it's not a very comfortable one. happy mylotting!
@HelloMickey (1655)
• Hong Kong
16 Mar 09
You are a very mature girl. You did the right job! Good for you. I knew many married men trying to have relationship with teenagers, the married man, who may financially support a younger girl, and a teenager who may be tempted by their sweet words and lots of materials, many teenagers just can't resist temptation. So you really did a good job. I would have done the same as you.
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
16 Mar 09
i never had a lot of money myself, infact i struggled to go to school at least 3 days for the week and i did not accept any proposal from any married man. i think some of these girls need councelling; dont you think? thanks for responding.
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@parvezjs (422)
• India
17 Mar 09
There are such many sick people around everyone. Many control their tongues and many vomit it out. Just stay away form such people. How could a married man cheat his wife,what if his wife gets to know about this. He will loose all the respect he has in her eyes. But it hardly matters for such persons as they don't even have self respect.
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
17 Mar 09
i totally agree with you. thanks for responding.
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Mar 09
I think that you did was a really good way of handling the situation. I think that you did the right thing. I can certainly say that I would have rejected him as well. You made the right decision, in my opinion.
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@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
16 Mar 09
thanks, i just wish more young girls would do the same thing when girls get into relationships with married men they usually have a hard time trying to stop. thanks for responding
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
What you did is right. Turn away from those indecent proposals and anything that would violate God's word. A married man has nothing to do with an underage girl like you even if you are not underage, it is still not appropriate to be in a relationship with such, this is adultery. IF anyone would be telling you lies about how good you look, stroking your ego and such, just for the intention of having you is the work of the devil. We should be alarmed not to entertain such, nor even to think of it because it is how the enemy would work on you. I'm a married woman and i do join such socializing site as Mylot to earn money aside from adding friends, but i see to it that if any man offers me something indecent, i would turn him down immediately and say to him straight that this is not appropriate for you to say because i am already married, and the guy would turn away and not bother me. Be frank, be straight but be gentle and not to offend people when you say that but be sure to make a stand and be firm on your decision to refuse.
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
16 Mar 09
thanks and thanks for responding
17 Mar 09
I'd have done the same. Such kind of married men want to have their cake and eat it too, and can never be faithful in any relationshp. Good that you saved yourself a lot of heartache.
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
17 Mar 09
do you know what i always tell people who cheat? "the person you cheat for will soon cheat on you" thanks for responding.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I must say good for you for sticking up for yourself and the woman he was going to cheat on. He probably didn't expect you to be so smart when you answered him back, I would have loved to seen his face lol. I've had a few men want to be with me while they where married and I just didn't feel right about it so I have never done it, I would feel too guilty about it and I certainly wouldn't want it done to me. Good for you for giving him a what for.
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
17 Mar 09
can i tell you that he has not spoken to me since. he cant look in my face up till now.
@mkchaves (530)
• Canada
17 Mar 09
WOW. That was the right thing to do. If I were in your position, I would have done the same thing. OMG! The nerves that man have. I mean, experience you in bed? Thats statutory ra**ppee! You were 15 years old and HE WAS MARRIED. I would have reported him to the police or something for making such an offensive "proposal" A married man who seeks a relationship to anyone other than his wife. Its considered MURDER. I once had a friend who was in a relationship with a married man, everyday we would remind her that she is an accessory to MURDER because that married man has children and she's killing the family everyday if she continues to be with the married man. And maybe Months and Months of reminder; she finally got into her senses and broken up with the married man.
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
17 Mar 09
statutory r*pe indeed, i should have called the police. i just thank God he didn't try to do anything more.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I would tell him the same thing, and he should leave me alone. Never come near me again, or I would inform the authority to have him arrest. That is not right, a grown up man to molest a teenage girl, what a pedophile. You might as well tell your parents too.
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
17 Mar 09
i know, i should have called the police, i just wasn't thinking like that, guess i thought i could handle it on my own. i dont know why i felt like such a grown up, i was too independent. thanks for your response.
• India
16 Mar 09
no never i cant think of all this , would like to stay loyal with my partner.either would start avoiding that person if still not convinced then seek help of my husband
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
16 Mar 09
you are or will make a good wife all the best for your marriage. thanks for responding