Are you a social person off-line?
By lynnemg
@lynnemg (4529)
United States
March 16, 2009 11:13pm CST
I am to a point. I will talk to people and don't mindmeeting new people, but, I don't go out. If and when I meet new people, it is either because of work or one of my kids' activities or school involvement. Other thanthat, I am not all that social and I prefer to stay to myself.
What about you?
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10 responses
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
17 Mar 09
Yes, I am. I participate almost in all social functions in and around my place. I am invited to address a public meeting too. I am the programme officer of NSS ( National Service Scheme ) in my college. This is to provide social service to the people who are in need.
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
am very much like you which is a surprise because i thought many americans would really plan a night out together with their spouse to have a little time for themselves only.
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
sounds like you're describing my husband and me. nothing beats that way of passing the time. but then again not everyone is the same. :)
@janehwj (13)
• China
17 Mar 09
I am definitely not a social person, especially when I meet with new people. Although I wish I would have many friends, and communicate with them at ease. But I have a problem, that I can't find suitable topic to talk with them. Maybe I am too reserved, and not confidence about when I say.
How can I change the situation?
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I think that it is better to have one or two good, true friends that I can talk to easily than to try to have many friends that I am not comfortable with. If I am not comfortable with a person, then I know that I am not meant to be their friend. Trust your instincts when it comes to people. If you are instantly uncomfortable around them, chances are there is a reason for it. If you are comfortable when you meet someone new, let them lead the conversation and give your input as needed until you become a little more confident to really spak your mind.
@lucky1girl (139)
• Taiwan
17 Mar 09
It depends.I will be talkative with the person i like,but not social with the ones i dislike. I even don't know what kind people i belong to on the earth!
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@onlineraket (189)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
I consider myself as a social person. I am outgoing person. Although I am kinda having problems initiating discusions or even meeting people but once I got comfortable with that people it's easy for me to mingle. Nowadays, I am developing my attitude to be more assertive in terms of meeting people. I just learned that the greatest assets in work is maintaining good relationships with the people around you. So, i guess it follows that if you know a lot of person and maintain good relationships with them, there is a greater chance that helping hands will be lend to you in terms of hardships. But the critical thing here is you do not achieve it.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I do think that being social is good from the employment perspective...to a point. You don't want to come across as someone who is over-eager to meet everyone and be everyone's friend either. That could lead to rumors, gossip, and trouble for you in the long run. I think that you'd do better to simply be aquainted with many but only really socialize with a select few. That way, you are perceived as friendly, but not too eager to please.
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I'm very anti-social offline. I guess it's because there's no screen for me to hide behind, I can't meet people in my night clothes, going to the bathroom isn't something that's smiled upon when with others and...well...I like to lounge around my place and be comfortable.
*Pleiades
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@chemcdow (149)
• United States
17 Mar 09
The fact that my roommate leaves our door open makes me a bit more social that i would like, honestly... I meet a few friends, and am fine with that. I dont really go out much, but that doesn't matter to me, I get enough social-ness. Also, I am not very good at meeting new people without stuttering, or saying something dumb. Thats something I need to work on...
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
18 Mar 09
It sounds like you get nervous or are easily intimidated by others. When you meet someone new, try this, slow down, take a deep breath and remember two things. One, they are just as human as you. Two, nomatter what hey say or do, they can't take your birthday.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I don't go out with anyone to be honest. My good friend moved to Washington state when I moved up here to MN, and I've been involved with raising our children, plus graduate school. I would say I'm kind to people when I go out, but I'm not the social butterfly I was in school.
Namaste-Anora
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