how to get on well with my mother

we share the same sentiments. good for oyu because your mom is just temporarily with you. as of now, my family and i lived with my mother. i chose to have it that way to save bucks from renting a house because my husband is jobless as of now. but i regret my decision for living in with my parents. i felt like i am being cursed and have been roped in the neck.

Erm... I guess ur mother is that kind of older time ppl, thinking also like so negative. But there's no choice, she is ur mother, anyway u have to take care of her. May be you can show more care to her. But the old folk, normally hard to change their mind. Good luck to u!

I understand you. I live with my parents who here to care my little son. There are aways different opions on something. I know some are the generation gap. Of course the special age (menopause) is a problem. I believe when they pass this old special phase they'll be all right. So give them more understand and be deaf at something may let you feel better.

My situation is different with yours. My mom came to look after me because i just have an abortion.I've no desire to eat anything at that period and there was something wrong with my hubby's job. Mom is not good at cooking and always talks on and on. I believe i was crazy at that time. I often lost temper and quarreled with my mom!But i'm really regreted after that and i want to get the forgive of her.The most important thing you need to do now maybe communicate with your mom effectively and find out what's the matter she cares indeed.

hi,lucy.i can not understand why your mother did those things.Maybe she is just the person who doubts about everything.If so,there is no need for you to worry about.whatever she said,just do not care.you did everything that you can,and you tried your best to meet her need,so there is no regret to you.Just let it go.Good wishes for you.

Maybe this is normal when people are getting older. They become more sensitive than ever. I think you shoudl treat her as a child, be more and more patient. Wish you and your mother happy~

hi lucy888! Don't worry. It is test, examination try your best to get through this examination. Your mom is an aged lady. She has much more expectations from you and your hubby. She is aged. She is weak. She requires your attention and she feels that you are not giving her proper attention. She is behaving like a child. She is in trouble and she can not explain that all, thus she doubt that you and your husband are not fulfilling her demand. Remember she is a guest and she is on the turn where people leave this temporary world. I lost my mother on 25th February. yes on 25th February 2009. I and my all lost their shelter. Mother is a great personality. I am tearing and could not explain what I want to tell. Don't worry lucy888. It is your test and please get through. God may bless you, your family and your greatest mom. Your got a chance to serve her. Prove yourself great daughter of your greatest mom.you would never get such chance again and again. believe me these sentences are appearing out of the fresh wounds of departure of my mom.

If you did all you could, there is no more you could do. Your Mom will probably look back on it one day and be grateful for all you did. Try not to let it bother you too much. Life is too short to stay upset about things. She may be hard to please, but she is your mother, and you know that no matter what she says or does, you are always going to love her. You may never feel that you are able to please her, and that's a shame, but really, the only person you have to please is yourself.

Lucy, life isn't all ways fair to us. You have to be happy with what you have. I'm sure your mother will soon realize that whatever you were, you were doing it for her, to help. My advice would be to leave her alone sometime, she will realize her mistake herself, doing anything else will only make it worse. If you still want to clear it up, then you should take her out, only you and her, to her favorite place and have chat with her, clear things up. I'm sure it will help you

If there is one thing that we can not choose in life, that will be our parents. Mothers can be like that specially if they are living by themselves now. What matters most is that you are still there for your mother even if she does not show too much appreciation for what you do for her. She may not show much affection but it does not mean she does not notice your kind acts.

when things are given to people, they will see faults in it. it is a way to make them fell better about themselves. even though it is your mother, she still thinks she can do it better. it's a way to make her feel that she is still part of the equation. if she was to say in her mind that you took care of her properly, then there would be no complaint, therefore no reason for her to say she could "FIX" it. when people get older, they still want to be needed, this is your mother's way of feeling needed. maybe one day, she will see how it hurts you. but it is going to take her to see it, not you pointing it out to her. very tricky, huh?

I totally can relate. Don't get me wrong I love my mother, but she always knew how to get to me, and be negative, but she could be really nice when she wanted to. Why should you have to give your mother money when she comes to visit you? I have never had to do that. That should not be expected, when one goes somewhere to visit, they take their own money along. She should have been greatful that you fed her and also let her stay with her. Maybe next time she should get a motel room, so you 2 can keep your space. Be yourself when she is around, I stopped trying to get my mother's approval a long time ago, it just hurt to much. And I was much happier after that.

Hi Lucy, your shouldn't let your Mother upset you! I know it is easier said than done and I can totally relate to you. I don't get on with my mother at all, we always argue and she really upsets me. Now I have realised that I can't change the way she is and I'm an adult so I can choose not to be upset by her anymore so I distance myself from her. It is a shame but I don't want to get upset anymore. We do stay in touch because of my children, they love their Grandmother.

If you are true and honest in your endevour, your mother will certainly understand you. May be she is upset about something or she is expecting more from you. So just let her be herself..You stay in touch with her and also tell your husband to talk to her as much as possible.. Next time she visits you spend more time with her, take her for an outing with you, make her favourite dishes, gift her something which she likes, chat with her, share your problems with her, try to find out if she is having any problem or not!! I am sure all these things will definitely bring you guys closer... Best of luck.Happy mylotting!!