Do you think its better to look for love or let it find you?

Active or passive.that's a question.

I agree that finding love is not something you can control and to be out there desperately looking for it cannot be healthy. Certainly staying home every night will not encourage love so getting out and about is how you will meet people but having said that you should go out with your friends and not just to meet guys, just go out and have fun and forget about getting a boyfriend and you'll see love will find you probably when you least expect it.

I am sure you are a girl! While if you wait for love,that means your lover finding you. Everything has two sides. I do not think finding love can not maintain love.For me love is a thing to let it be,not find and wait. It is the thing to vibrate in two lovers heart. That love is ever-lasting.

hello manya, love is not a commodity which you can get in a shop so the question of looking or searching for it does not arise at all.Love is a feeling like anger, hatred, envy, pride etc and it happens unexpectedly and in a normal way. You cannot single out a person and say that you are going to fall in love with him. No, you may be with that person for years and not feel anything but friendship.When love hits you then you will certainly know about it. In my country where arranged marriages are the norm the boy and girl meet a few times, find themselves compatible and marry. Love may not bring them together but they soon find love for each other as days go by.I have seen people falling in love and marrying but after a few years the love disappears from their lives completely and is replaced by frustration, quarrels, fights and then seperation. this is happening quite frequently in these stressful modern times.

I agree with you; I think love will find you, although you have to make sure you're open enough to accept it when it shows up. (Does that make any sense? hmm). Looking for love is too tiring, to be honest, and I'd rather go about my business (work, school, friends, family obligations, etc) than put a lot of fruitless effort into finding love!

If you are looking for,maybe you will not find a right man,so do you think it is necessary? For me ,i don't think it is waste of time and still believe that the Mr.Right will be coming soon,however,it is difficulty for girls and shy men to be initiative.

I believe in letting love to happen by itself to anyone.

From my experience I feel that left love find me than we find love. I have tried to find couple of times and find some bad endings. I also experienced some bad endings in the life searching for love. Now a days I am waiting for the love to find me and the right person to come in my life. I always believe that somebody somewhere is made for every person.

I also think it is good to let love come to you. I think that if a person is so busy looking for love, then sometimes they might settle for someone that isn't really the right person, because they might start feeling desperate. If you can remain patient and just let love come to you, then I think finding the right person will happen on its own. I always used to look for love, but I could never find the right person. Eventually, I started to give up because I thought I would never find the right person, and right when I stopped looking was when I ended up meeting the man who became my husband!

if you are looking for love, then you may find something that you think is love, but isn't; far better for it to find you

Personally, I feel it all depends on individuals. If you are the outgoing type, likely love will come to you. If you are an introvert, it might be better to go searching for love, but again, how possible is it for an introvert to be actively looking out for love. Passively look out for it, grab it when it comes, throw it when it goes.

Concerning love,being passive may not the right way.Personally,I think love is mutual.You shouldnt only wait and be loved without giving anything.How nice if the man looks for you is the same one you've been looking for.

If it is true love for you,please catch it and don't be shy.I love my hubby and i will tell him to know.i don't want to miss my true love.Hope you can find your true love.Best wishes..

for me ,maybe just waiting for love to come to me . Love someone is tired ,but be loved is happy .and after you be together with someone who loves you ,you will fall in love with him as time goes by .

this is a tough one..if you keep looking there's a possibility that maybe you wont find it..but if you dont look then how are you going to find love? haha i dunno. just go with the flow i guess.

Hi, manya_pearl! For me, when I get so tired of being in relationships, I will let love find me. I will not go looking for it. I like to be about my own business. I want to be mysterious and allure. I want the guy to find me and lust after me! But, seriously, I will just do my own thing and let him come to me on his own. I don't want to rush love. I always have time for it.

You are right when you said that you should not look for love. It should be finding you no matter what. This was my saying when i got tired for the love i am longing to have. I have been through heartache and pains before i met my husband and all i can say is that be patient and it will come to you. Blessed are those who can wait as they say, so this rule, i apply for myself and it did happen. Sometimes we do hard things in life just to meet the expectations we wanted and the answers that we ask for is already in front, just right your face. But because we are stubborn, heartache happens. So when i learned how to wait for love to come my way, i realize that i don't need to do anything just to make myself happy. In God's perfect time, as always. Happy Mylotting!

I don't know but i happen to have the experience that love finds you whereever you are if it was meant to be. I fall in love with this guy who was also a very dear friend to start with and now we are desperately in love. Ops!! Love is the very best thing in life. You can rate it at the top of all the things that makes you happy in life. Love justs finds you because i know i was not looking for it. In my case i was already in a relationship with someone else when i fall for my prsent boyfriend. So i rest my case Love definitely finds you whether you want it or not. Don't go looking for love because love will find you if it is meant to BE.

yes after a while, u realise its pointless looking for it and wasting ur time, imagining that this is the person, or that cud be the person! let it come to u. wots meant to come will come. que sera sera. good luck, girl

I will make myself prepared and then wait for love. I believe love will appear when it thinks it should.