If you can't say anything NICE....

It seems immature, but I suppose it has a cathartic effect. It just FEELS to bash something for some people so they just let their feelings about everything be known instead of bottling it up inside. I think it's a combination of egocentricism, a lack of foresight, and generally poor impulse control.

If I don't like something, or see a discussion I don't like. Then I don't respond to it. It sure gets annoying like you said when someone is watching something they don't like and they are commenting all the time, goodness just change the channel right. Hugs MaryLynn

My philosophy of life exactly! We all have our likes and dislikes, and no two people are alike. There are bound to be clashes from time to time, but I would prefer to resolve it in my own mind, especially if it is something to do with somebody on-line that I am never likely to meet face to face. Pleasant conversations and friendly debates can bring a smile to your face. Animosity, a frown.. No point in that. - Derek

I so agree with you,I like to think I don't say anything that isn't nice about anything or anyone,however that is not realistic we all do to a point.The difference is in is it said to hurt another,too many people find it so easy to talk smack about others without regard to their feelings. Jas

i will comment to your post by continuing the sentence :) I you cant say anything nice better to keep your mouth shut. that is my principle. why because if you will say bad things people will get hurt, yes truth will set us free and truth hurts but i believe that there is a proper time to discuss on those things.

Hi Mommyboo! I also really dislike it when people stat bashing things that they do not like for no reson other than to post and bump up their numbers! I was on the other day and someone had posted a discussion about one of my favorite movies, but it was simply posted as "I hate this movie, don't you?"!! What a waste of time and why be mean??? Can't this person find a movie or something they DO like and post under that heading? I have always been taught that if you don't have something nice to say, you should not say it, and I think people in this crazy world we live in would do good to remember that as well. We are all here on MyLot to have a good time and make a little money, so I say live and let live! Leave your bitterness elsewhere! Thank you for the question and have a great day!

people are going to say what they want to say no matter what you or me think. and that is fine. rather they are bashing or saying something nice. our reaction to their actions is what is most important. when you know people are bashing others or a show or a song, or whatever just to get a raise out of you and you give them one, well then they win. they got just what the wanted, and you or we give it to them. i try my best not to do that. I stay away from people and topics here on mylot with people saying mean things so i can reply being pissed off. i don't let them win, cause i am the winner girl

I'm so with you in this one! :) Some people seem to feel that they have to give some input even if it's negative and the more so when it is. Apparently they are the only right ones on that specific subject and everyone else is wrong thus in need of bashing. I have trouble understanding that concept but I see it more often than I would like to. Like you, I don't say anything as a rule. I don't hold the the rights to all right perspectives, opinions or views in the world. And what is right for me is not necessarily what is right for someone else.

LOL--yes I'm of the opinion that if one can't say something nice then not to say anything at all...although I've been known to fly off the handle in a hissy fit and will say something very harsh...but something like that with me is usually just a once in awhile thing..I DON'T make it a habit. My main problem now is that I'm undergoing though is my "stalker"---this person was on my friends list for a long time and was actually very nice in his remarks to me, but then he found out I was living on SSI disability benefits and all of a sudden he viewed me differently, like I was worthless and a freeloader....he would "haunt" a lot of my discussions and plant nasty, sarcastic, biting, obnoxious things in my discussions--don't ask how many times I was close to throwing my computer out the window since he would tick me off so much. Me and others reported him and he was banned NOT only for the comments he'd leave me, but then he'd start getting nasty to any of my friends defending me. Well..he came back as another user and once again he was obnoxious...banned again...For a few months I was in bliss and left alone...until just recently..yup he's back again and at it again leaving "comments" on my discussions....wouldn't be surprised if he shows up here and makes a comment to my post here--gee maybe I should feel flattered that I have my own stalker, but believe me I'm not--never know where he's going to show up next--if he does show up in anymore of my discussions I'll ignore him...it seems he thrives on the attention given to him and only makes things worse if I try and defend myself from his snide remarks to me

Hi mommyboo, I couldn't agree more, there is no need to make enemies, and although we may not agree with something there are those who do. That old saying is one of the best, if we can't say something nice lets just keep quiet. Blessings.

I hear ya. The sad thing is some of these people suddenly act like the victim whenever someone is nasty right back to them. I've never done that to anyone here, but I've received a few insults from others. If they don't want to have a mature discussion, that's their loss, not mine.

Hi, mommyboo! Thank you for posting this discussion! We all at myLot needs to hear this!!! I feel like if the person does not like something, they don't need to speak no hatefully and nasty to an discussion. It is rude and ignorant. Yes, we all are here to give our opinion, but we are not here to trash another persons discussion or opinion either!@! We should be mindful and considerate in giving our opinion. If, I dislike something, I may say, I dislike it, or don't really care for.. I will say it in a very nice way.. I would not be mean and ugly! And there are times, that I will not say anything.. I usualy try to go by this motto, if you don't have anything to say nice, don't say nothing it at all! We all should learn to follow this motto. If we do, we can all reap the respect of each other. There is no need for others to be mean to another. It is unnecessary! They gain nothing, but Hell in their hearts!

very true, if we don't like something we don't have to show our disgust. there is something which people know but never try to understand. no one os acctualy wrong, it is the perception of every individual that akes things right or wrong. now if, one kills another and says that it was his perception then, killing a living being is universally wrong and any one has the right to speak against it. but genrally speaking, we all need to understand that different individuals think differently, so always listen to them. comprehend what they exactly have to say and then make your point. there is no point in hurting people or starting an argument with people just because you feel they are doing wrong. empathise with them and then if you feel they are wrong, then convey it to them in a polite and easy manner.

Life is short.why should I pay my attention & time to these things? just try to find the good point of one thing. Ignore those u don't like.

I always believe that if a person does not have anything nice to say, just to keep quiet. I always give a smile back or just stare or just walk away rather than saying bad or fighting with a person. Sometimes silence is better than bad words. Most times silence is the best weapon and hurts more than saying bad words or fighting. Most times in my life I have found that a person who is anger or saying bad things when I keep silent or stare or walk away without talking back feels guilty and later apologizes. I always believes silence and avoidance are the best weapons rather than fighting.

There are some people who have a real chip on their shoulder and they go around trying to pick fights. Or, they say things to instigate fights. And, that's sad. We all have to do our part to live in a harmonious environment. And, Mylot is a huge community. I hope we can all hold hands and be friends. Doesn't always work out that way. But it's nice when it does. Have a lovely day. Thanks for your post.

ugh i hate that! i agree if you cant say something nice shut the heck up!! no one wants to hear it and its sad that people get a high off of feeling superior and bashing other things.. so pathetic!

I have my moments of hating and bashing, but, yes, I agree with you. It is not hard to avoid it. I do not like angering people, I stay away from trouble as much as I can. I only complain and bash when someone stepped out of line. I am also frank, honest about my opinions, but I try not to be offensive. When I see that it is pointless, I stay quiet and just smile because I keep in mind that I have to respect other people's opinion. Or personality. Have a nice day

well when you say nothing good to the person then just keep it to yourself.sometimes we need to control our mouth because when we said the things to somebody that could hurt or whatever then the damage has been done ,we cannot change.

It's okay for me if that's the only way I will know what's wrong with me.