How would you rate yourself as a parent?

@joram328 (503)
Philippines
March 18, 2009 7:39am CST
On a self-made scale, how would you rate yourself as a parent? From 1 to 10, I would rate myself as a 6 or a 7. I'm a working mom and I know that I'm not that good when it comes to the home domain. Also, I'm not that good when it comes to my kids. I am not that patient when it comes to teaching them school work and it's takes quite some effort for me to be able to devote time to them. I'm more oriented towards work and career development, not domestic life... How about you?
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bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
18 Mar 09
You should probably give yourself some more credit. I am a mother also. I feel that being a parent is not always easy and I feel that I might give myself an 8 if I had to rate myself. I am not sure that it is really a good thing to try to rate ourselves. Everyday is different and we handle things in different ways than others but still in all we try to do our best. It sounds like you are a pretty busy lady. You work outside of the home and don't seem to not be as patient as you would like to be. But it just takes time. Make sure that you make your children a priority though. It would really make them feel special and they will certainly appreciate the time that you take with them. Best wishes.
bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I appreciate that you think I am a person that gives good advice. Experience is the best teacher. That might just be why I know what to say. I don't always like to give advice. Especially if someone doesn't ask for it. Once again I think that you are doing a great job and keep up the good work as a mother. Take care.
joram328
@joram328 (503)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
I really feel that you are a good mom, and am happy with the response you gave. You're right, motherhood, or parenthood for that matter, is not always easy. Different challenges come our way, and each one of us responds to them in a different way. I may also be feeling tired and stressed out because of pressure at work, hence, my getting drained of energy before I can assume my mother role. Thanks for your advice, I'll try to put it into practice. Also, am glad you are now my friend... Thanks and let's continue to enjoy myLot!
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joram328
@joram328 (503)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
You are really good at giving advice. Has anybody told you that? Sometimes I do tend to take things for granted. Thanks again...
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kaplima24
@kaplima24 (111)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I am a new mom, my baby is only 4 months old and I can say I have so much to learn still. For now I can definitely rate myself 4 to 5.
joram328
@joram328 (503)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
Why such a low rate for yourself as a parent? You are a new mom and I'm sure you want to give everything for your newborn baby. At least most new moms do -- because I did too... I gave a lot of sacrifices -- and committed the most mistakes -- in rearing my eldest but I have no regrets. It's just part of the learning process as a parent. Anyway, good luck with your journey to parenthood. This will entail a lot of sacrifices but it will all be worth it, you'll see. Happy MyLotting!
yogeshdhusa
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
18 Mar 09
hi joram, i would rate my self at between 8 to 9, i am also woking but the only thing i am missing is to spend value time with my child. i am not good in cooking food but still i try . homework -we both enjoy doing that, other activity like playing and spending time with children is still open and on going process. enjoy mylotting :)
joram328
@joram328 (503)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
hello! it's good that you can rate yourself very high. am sure you are very good with your kids. I am quite good with cooking since my family enjoys the food i prepare during the weekends. but i cannot say the same thing about my children's performance in school. This I say specially with regards to my youngest son who has been attending summer classes for back subjects twice during his elementary grades, and now, in his first year, looks like the same thing will happen again... I just feel guilty sometimes because i have been an honor student during my high school days, and a college scholar during my college days. I was also able to tutor some elem and high school students during my younger days but now, i just don't seem to have the patience to do so, and this is my son i'm talking about! anyway, thanks a lot for your response, and happy mylotting!
magrylouyu
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I would rate myself at an 7 or 8. I find that everyday life is very stressful, and at times I know I cant handle it. I had my children young so I think that might be a factor but I could be wrong. I spend all the time I can with them whether it be outside or playing a board game together. I havent worked in almost 2 years because I honestly feel quilty leaving my children behind. I feel like I'm doing something wrong even though in my heart I know I'm not. My life fully revolves around my children and being a parent to them.
joram328
@joram328 (503)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
You're lucky you can spend time with your children. Somehow, I feel jealous about you because I cannot enjoy the same luxury... and lots of time too... The separation really broke my heart at first but you get used to it. And the kids too... It's just a good thing myLot is here so we can share our thoughts on these things. Happy MyLotting!