Are you sure your friends are real?
By Cellyne
@Cellyne (41)
Philippines
March 19, 2009 3:53am CST
it's natural for us to have lot of friends but how you'll know if they are real and true friends to you?.
All my friends are good to me,we're happy when together and we help each other in times of need. actually, i don't go with them everytime since we're in different class department, their schedules are different with mine well we have 1 common subject.
We have planned to wait each other every lunch break. i'm happy to be with them but i feel out of place when their talking of something or someone which i dont know, when i ask, they'l tell "it's a secret".
They'll text me but they'll text a lot when they need something to me or they will remember me if they want me to them a favor.
They graduated this last saturday but i dont received any invitation or information about the event. i just know it from a friend also who care to text me about the graduation. i greet them through e-mail., now, i heard that they're looking for me coz they want me to give them a mini celebration for the said graduation.
now, i dont know if they're still my real friends. are they consider me as friend? or i'm only their friend when in need!?
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7 responses
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
10 Mar 13
for sure we need to gauge and acknowledge them before we proceed any further because friends are for life
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
10 Mar 13
Hi friend, in this modern days it is really hard to find a true friend. Most of the friends are in the sort mentioned by you. Reciprocate the same to them, if they ask treat from you, ask the same from them when they are happy. Don't think they will contact you only in their needs, try to find that they will help you in your needs and necessities, if they help you in your needs, then continue your friendship and they are real to you.
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
1 May 09
You are true, not all friends are real to us especially we dont know their plans in their mind. Some friends are trying to be close to us because they think that they can get a benefits. Which sometimes we are trusting them for we also think they are good to us because they are a real and trusted friend, until we have known the real intention which they leave us when we needed them.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
1 May 09
Friends always like that...they never serve us like we serve them.Yes,your friends are really like my friends,only need us when they want and when they dont,they will throw and forget us.....
@satan88 (584)
• United States Minor Outlying Islands
14 Sep 09
my friends are okay. they're not the best but they respect me for the most part and that's what matters to me the most. I think your friends can be interpreted in two ways 1) they're just trying to be funny or playful or 2) they are a**'s and they are just using you. I'm not sure only you will know which one. but don't worry i can be your friend lol :)
@sashakiddo (1102)
• United States
13 Apr 11
you know what they say, whoever we are, we attract the same type of friends.
Maybe you are looking for these kinds of friends for a reason.
Would you be happy with friends who really care about you?
Maybe you just need some time to find out what you really like in a friend.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
20 Mar 09
I think that true friends are rare. I have a few friends but there is only one that I would trust completely and consider to be a true friend.
It sounds like the friends you are describing are acting a little shallow and not showing you enough consideration.
To purposefully make someone feel left out by not letting them in the conversation and keeping 'secrets' is childish.
You said yourself that they only get in touch when they need something.
You could talk to them about it I suppose, otherwise I wouldn't bother with them; it sounds like you are all ready to move in different directions now anyway.
I would pursue some new interests join activities and meet new people who may eventually make much better friends. Good luck to you! 
