The love that was never yours..
By subha12
@subha12 (18441)
India
March 19, 2009 3:57am CST
Now what do you think about it? Say you were in love with someone. But from that point you knew it is not the real love as that person was never meant to b yours.The distance may be painful but your heart never stopped to love. What do you think about that love now? Was that a mistake?
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38 responses
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I had this kind of experience once. And yes, it was extremely painful, and you couldn't do anything to improve the situation. Even though you tried your best to love, it still won't be yours anyway. The best thing, keep yourself busy, find another love that appreciate your love.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
19 Mar 09
No love is never a mistake.I treasure the moments i had with her.Yes i knew she would never be mine but why should that stop me from loving her???I have loved her since the day i first saw her and have loved her ever since.She knew about it and tried to make me believe that it was just a crush.After sometime she knew i was telling the truth.She was upset because she loved someone else and they were happy together.I never tried to come between them and ruin it.She loved her boyfriend and i respect that.But to tell you the truth i really miss her.She is the most beautiful and intelligent girl i have ever seen.
@arwind (2)
• Indonesia
20 Mar 09
I have the same situation with you now..... well, almost the same....because at this moment i'm in relation with somenone I love the most. I crushed on him.. i love him with all my heart....even he's miles away from me (he studying abroad), even we fight often, and I hardly try to trust him,believe in him that he'd not playing with other girl, because he has promise me that he'll love me only....at this moment.....
what hurt me more is....
when he told me, again and again, that he has a vision about his future, and there's me..in his future..but only as a good friend, not as a couple.....
It's hurt me much.....because I love him so much..and I want him to be mine forever.but he remain me again and again...that in the future, he only want me as a good friend..a very special, but not as a couple....
I once fought with him about this....
I told him, "rather than wait until future comes, why dont we just end everything now and become a good friend? Because when we break up in the future while my love is getting bigger and bigger, and it will break my hurt badly, into pieces, you can do it now, when I can stand still facing all of this" even i cried when i said that, because I dont want to lose him now or forever.....
and....selfishly..he said that at this moment, he really love me with all of his heart, and even he's far away, in another continent,he still want me, forever...
and ..... because I love him so much, we still continue our relation until now....
I my self confuse with my situation now.... we're inlove.... well, let say like that, because we dare to spent a lot of money just to call 9make international call!!), chat, sms......
but I'm worry with my future...its like a nightmare forme...
is there anyone can help me withmy situation?
all I know now is.. ilove him with all my heart...
lol...it is more a well dramatized mistake but I am well aware of my situation and just dance to the music to keep up the unrealistic love affairs that is burning in my heart.
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I would just say that it was all one-sided affair.. That person was never meant to be mine and destiny must have a Mr. right for me.. So I'll head in search for him...
@Clarissa1247 (55)
• China
20 Mar 09
I think that is a mistake. Everyone has his own choice, when I find out that person never loved me and will not love me, I'll leave.
A friend of mine had similar problem, I saw her in miserable days for so long time. So I know how hurt it could be. Don's say" I just can't stop", I'm sure space and time can make everyone fine at last.
There is an old saying in China, "short pain is better than long pain". Just make a decision and leave forever.
@dinxcarin (595)
• Singapore
20 Mar 09
Same here.. even if I love someone so much but I don't get the same feelings from that person. I'd back off. Because there's really no point trying it all out. It takes two to tango.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
questions are nice but you should answer your own questions too to make it a discussion.
my first love was that way, I fell deeply in love with an older man and he did not love me, he was a playboy and I was too young to know the difference. We parted our ways after only 8 months, and he got married to someone else. I pinned over him for many years thinking he would come back and of course he didn't though he did stay in touch. Now I look back and see what a mistake that whole thing was. If I had left him alone I would have been a different person today meeting different people and my life would have been totally different.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
21 Mar 09
I don't think it is a mistake. It had happened to me a lots of time in the past. Sometimes I feel very sad and depressed when it happened and when the girl leaves, but Most of the time after some time I feel happy that I had it happen. It is always great to fall in love with someone rather than not to fall in love with anyone. Whenever I had fallen in love with a person, I feel a very happy feeling.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
4 Apr 10
I think one has to look at the past and learn from it. It is no use to cry over spilt milk. I think that people might fall for long distance relationships because they are feeling lonely and even if the relationship seems rather unlikely to continue in the future because it lacks stability, the individual is prepared to go all the way forward.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
21 Mar 09
Yeah! When i knew that that person wasn't compatible with me,like there were differences, i would consider it an experience not a mistake.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
20 Mar 09
its normal,we are only human beings and not a saint but its up to us then to carry on in this kind of situation to love someone that it will never be mine.its hurt but we got to accept it
@Chengyueyao (32)
• China
20 Mar 09
I really have such kind of experience not so long ago. It is definitly a painful one. But till mow, I still believe in LOVE, in distant love. The only thing that wrong is not love itself, but ourselves. Love needs patience and good care, that's true! So everyone, let's do our best and expect the best as well.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 09
You see it is a matter of perception and experience would differ from person to person. I normally do not repent on my decisions, I assume that whenever I took any decision to love someone, I did it rightly at that time and I would have considered all the circumstances prevailing at that time.
dpk
P.S. - It appears that you were in love with someone and he did not come out to your expectations?
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
20 Mar 09
yes, it was a mistake but that didn't keep me from loving him. i still do for that matter but wouldn't have him now if he came to me.
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
20 Mar 09
Be in love or not,thats a question.lol Im in a unreal love with a man who I never meet in person.Are we a match?Only time could tell.Im not optimistic about this romance.I learn that if you have no hopes,then you have nothing to lose.So just hope for the best but prepare for the worst.By the way,the feeling of being in love is great.
@snow8515 (169)
• China
20 Mar 09
It does be a pain. I also have such an experience. True love is nice. However,when you realize that person can't go with you forever,it's so painful for you to leave this guy. Fortunately, I also have many good friends who are concerned about me and it is time that cures me.
Any way,I believe that my true lover is waiting for me somewhere. Just the time hasn't come. So don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you.
@jhmabalongag (58)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
there is no such mistakes in love. everybody can feel love in many different ways. you love the person but you knew that her love was never meant to be yours. i think it is normal to love and you feel sad in the end after the happiness you've shared because there is no such thing that will take forever but it will fade and your love now can never be called as crazy love not just because you still love her until now but rather that you love her without love in response that coming out from her.
