Do you think your parents are to be blame?...
By eztuner
@eztuner (450)
United States
March 19, 2009 10:23pm CST
Paying attention to some of my friends I have come to notice that many of them blame their parents for the lack of something in particular or for the excess of something else. In my opinion there is some truth in the subject, but at the same time I believe that we are Masters of our life so anything we dislike we can change it. What are your thoughts?
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@roxancuacoy (441)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
Its not our parents who put whats lacking in us, its ourself to blame. Parents is always be parents no matter what, they are our first teacher its up to us how we put their words into practice, they're parents to love and protect their children from any harm since conception and up to their last breath on earch.
I just miss my parents, hmmmmm thanks for the discussion it reminds me.
@eztuner (450)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Hi roxan, excuse me for the time I have taken to get back at you, busy days I have had. I appreciate your time and expressiveness. I think that even If our parents fail somehow and as a result we have some issues to deal with in our adult life, as you said "Parents are parents no matter what", Those are the Only ones we will have. And when we look in the mirror of the soul for sure we will find many good things they did that we should take pride for. Where are your parents? I hope you could gave them a call the day you posted your message, or just a thought, you see I believe we are spiritually connected to our parents, and it works like a psychic connection. It's been gratifying sharing with you. Enjoy your Sunday!
@sysdexlicwriter (1619)
• United States
20 Mar 09
I think it is healthy to realize that our parents are or were human. They made mistakes. Every human makes mistakes. Even if they did not correct certain mistakes, it is up to us to live a better way. We must be thankful for the very life our parents have given us and forgive them for where we believe they have fallen short. When it is our turn to be parents, we must move forward and not be stuck in the past. We must take responsibility for our own actions.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
20 Mar 09
When we are kids, we rely on our paents to make many choices for us. When we become adults, I think it is time to stop blaming our parents and everybody else for what we do ro do not have. I get pretty upset when I hear an adult say that they did this or that because their paretns did this or that when they were a kid. To me, it's a cop-out and a way to dodge taking rasponsibility for our own actions.
@eztuner (450)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Yes there are people that will leave their whole life not taking any responsibility for their wrong actions. Because when something comes out right they don't remember that they had parents. Thanks for sharing and sorry for the time it took me to get back at you, Have a great Sunday!
@ktosea (2026)
• China
20 Mar 09
I used to want to blame my parents for what they could not offer,I also wanted to blame the fate,but only once or twice.actually I am appreciated what my parents have done for me,they brought me up and that's really a tough task for them,I am always grateful for what they did to me.As an adults,just like you said,we are our owm musters so we could change the situation and there is no reason to blame the others,especially our parents.they did what they could and that's all
have a nice day
@eztuner (450)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Ktosea, If at 25 you have come to realized this important thought you are on a track of a great "Living experience" because say it or not almost every human regardless of nationality or culture, there is a point in our lives that we are confronted with this kind of thoughts and it is healthy to deal with them in a constructing way for us will be parents some day, and we need to recognized that not all our parents did was wrong. Grow strong in your feelings, I wish you a Happy and prosperous Life! Have a good day your self!
@Malitah (29)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
sometime in my life I felt blaming my parents why things doesn't happen the way I wanted. My parents were over protective. If I want to do samething they must approved of it before I can push through. I cannot decide for myself. I believed that somehow they had contributed why I'm so fearful of responsibility. As I grew up & learned more about life, I became thankful that they had mold us to be more cognizant about everything. They had shown us that life was so precouis that it must be taken care of well. They are also human that commit mistakes & it is our own life to be culpable when we felt something lacking or intemperance in us. It is our own duty to make things happen in our present life.
@eztuner (450)
• United States
22 Mar 09
You see Malitah that's what I think is Living! Taking charge of one's life. Lucky you, your complaint is that they were over protective, is difficult to change the fearful feelings associated with such teachings but trying to understand the reasons that moved them to act that way might help you come out stronger from the experience. As your parenting skills will be influenced by your own experiences, theirs were too. Love should be the main ingredient when we take such responsibilitiy as Parenting. Love helps us overcome any hurtful result.And of course taking on the "duty to make things happen" as you very well said. It's been my pleasure to exchange ideas with you. Have a good day!
