Is it enough in saying I love you to someone you love?
By glaiztisay
@glaiztisay (6)
Philippines
March 20, 2009 5:42am CST
I am know in a situation or shall i say in a relationship which i dont know if its still love that the guy feels towards me. He always say that he loves me but I cant help to think, what if he doesn't meant it? The guy that Im talking about is my bf and he is far away from me, we live in differrent town. One time I caught him communicating with other girl in friendster website that girl is leaving with the same town of my bf, i felt the happiness on what he says to the girl, I felt jealous and i hurt that time, of course because I love him .That's why i told him about what i have read from his Friendster profile and he told that he's nothing to say about that because according to him he is guilty and he ask sorry to me and he was not intentionaly hurt me. and also he says that the girl is only his friend.
Now, would i believe that the guy is telling me the truth? What shall i do to make things clear to me? Is it enough in saying I love you to someone you love?
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15 responses
@gotetet (197)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
for me, i think it isn't enough, if you really love someone make it a point you never dare to hurt her or him, because sometimes its even more painful if you see him with someone else. but being truthful is most worthwhile for me,
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
20 Mar 09
I think sometimes saying I love you is not enough. BUT he is telling you the girl is only a friend. Do you have guy friends that you talk to on sites like friendster? What would he think if he found it? You would want him to think you are just friends with the guy and trust you right, so you need to trust him.
@sophie_dfuss (2365)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
Saying "I love you" is not enough 
It should be done with the right actions and sacrifices to prove the true feelings 
You should ask the girl how is she connected to your bf if she is only a friend or gf, mostly girls don't lie so you should ask her 
It should be done with the right actions and sacrifices to prove the true feelings
You should ask the girl how is she connected to your bf if she is only a friend or gf, mostly girls don't lie so you should ask her 
@mullthisova (176)
• United States
20 Mar 09
the first plate i get some of everything that looks good. second plate i get a smaller plate of just what i liked the best and finish it up with a dessert!
@Archie0 (5652)
•
20 Mar 09
Yes it is very necessary for us to express, because till you dont tell them they wont be able to know how much you love him. and you will always regret whole of your life then. whomever you love just go and tell but find a better time to tell them. know their minds too before you say anything because sometimes its not a good time to express someone and then they might end up messing with our feelings too.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
20 Mar 09
You know the truth within yourself when you say these words. The real question is do you know what love really means? Have you reached a state of maturity to recognise that perhaps your boyfriend is probably not ready to settle for one girl who is far away. Boys will say anything they think their girl wants to hear. They will not always mean what they say. It can be hard to face the truth but it will show you are growing and becoming smarter & wiser.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
while i think saying i love you to your s/o is important, i think that actions speak louder than words and it takes two people who are committed to make a relationship work.
my hubby and i have been married for 21 years and while they have not all been easy, we know we have to work at it.
@torchablazed (3218)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
While it is good to hear and to the heart when a person utters the three magic words would truly give joy to the one your really love however, acting out your words is totally much better. I couldn't necessarily tell that your boyfriend is cheating you over this girl, however, if he really meant what he is saying, he would not show any communication with this girl whatsoever, especially if he knows it does offend or hurt you. However, we can consider the fact that he might have friendship with this lady. But still, you need to open other posibilities, maybe you can ask someone you trusted which also stays from the place where he is if you are into suspection.
@jeneias (608)
• United States
20 Mar 09
I do not believe that saying I love you is enough. I don't believe that saying I love you even means that you really love the person. I've had people say that they love me, yet show otherwise. That saying is so true, actions speak louder than words. If you love someone then you will show it, you won't only say it. I'm not sure if it's just here in the US or if it's all over the world, but the I love you thing is just tradition....Honestly, I would get tired of a guy if he was constantly saying "Oh, I love you, baby!". Maybe it's just the way I was brought up, but like I said, actions speak louder than words. I want to feel the love, not just hear it!
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
Hello Glaiztisay, well about your problem, saying I love you to someone or to the person we love is not enough, but we should formost DO what we say and act to what we claim.
If your bf loves you trully, then he will show you how much he loves you and will put to an end the doubt that you have. I am sure that checking his friendster account about it would be a good way to start, just observe your man if he still sends sweet nothings to this girl or not, i mean just observe for time being, don't show any anger towards your bf, just stay cool as you are and observe.
If by any means he will still send anything beyond which is the limitation of friendship and flirting, then that's the time you confront your bf that this will not help you relationship to grow. Don't worry your still young and i am sure that you two can work things out. Happy Mylotting!
@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
Hey Glaiz,
I've been in the same situation... I haven't lost trust to people or for that matter guys yet but saying "I love you" or being told "I love you" is not enough. If it's accompanied by actions that will show you how much he is seriously keep his commitment to you then that is enough for you to know he loves you and will be faithful to you...
It's not good to ask a guy directly on what he had done because he will just keep on saying it's nothing and don't worry when all the time he might still do the saem things he did and will not let you catch him on the same act again. But I also think that a sincere communication will do good. Let the things out and tell him that you are not going to put up with unfaithfulness in your relationship.
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Actions speak louder than words. I think its very easy to say those 3 little words I love you but To show someone love means alot more to me. I would tell your boyfriend that him talking to other girls makes you upset. Let him know that you love him and ask if he still loves you. GOod Luck
@stella_muse (15)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Well, at list you know the truth and you don't have to guess if you are the only one for him or he is trying to get more friends.
It depends on how much you love him and need him really.
If you really love him you can go on and may be some day you'll be together and your relationship will be so strong that nobody will meen more for him than you.
But if I were you I would start communicating with other guys at the same site.
First he would feel the same pain as you, second - may be you can meet smb better, who knows.
@astakiller (32)
• Malaysia
20 Mar 09
honestly, i like to do that cuz many girls will fall for it but i dont have any intention to hurt their feelings.And for your answer you must make sure that he just not saying that , but he do the thing to what he has said.For the girl, you dont have to be with them every sec, just when you see them together, you be with them and wait for their reaction.well idk what reaction they would make but you'll know .
IM not an expert in this , just my opinion.:D
