My parents want to break their marriage,what should i do?
By xuhuihui
@xuhuihui (70)
China
March 20, 2009 8:16am CST
They quarrel and quarrel for our family,for us children,for some bad habits of themselves,for the money……But I love them ,love our family .I don't want them to go to divorce .I don't Know why they married each other now that they hate each other .What should i do to save my family?
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5 responses
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Hi Xuhuihui! It's so sad to hear that. You know in as much as we want our parents to stay together if they don't agree with each other anymore,it's useless. And trully,we can not stop them for doing so. It's their life. We don't know how they live their life when they are with each other. So we can't judge them or make a conclusion on who's who is wrong. The best you can do I guess is to talk to both of them. Ask them if there's still a chance of reconciliation. They might answer the questions that is left unanswered in your mine. Then the next thing to do is be ready to accept whatever their decision is.Stay cool and ask for God's enlightenment and strenght.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
20 Mar 09
As hard as divorce is, there really isn't anything you can do. It is a hard thing to except that a relationship is over, but if they are fighting all they time that isn't good for anyone. If you want them to be happy then you have to except that them being happy may mean getting a divorce. Not matter what happens you will all still be a family.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
21 Mar 09
I don't think your parents hated each other when they married but it sounds like things are pretty bad for everyone now. Divorce is very hard on everyone but living in an environment of constant quarreling and anger is equally hard. Your parents have the right to do what's best for them and, if the relationship is bad, it's best for everyone if they split up. You would probably have a better relationship with them after they're apart because they will most likely be in better moods.
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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31 Mar 09
As others have said, there's not much you can do. The important things are to remember that they probably still love each other, but life's annoyances have grown enough to make it impossible for them to stay together and - MOST importantly - that it is not your fault.
You are not responsible for the way their lives have changed. Divorce doesn't mean they love you less or that your family is gone: it just means that it lives in two different places. Stay strong, remember they both love you and that you love them. The situation sucks, but you're all still people who care.
Wishing you lots of good luck, and some happy times once the difficult bits pass.
@felisanavidad (79)
• United States
1 Apr 09
Spike gave you some excellent words of wisdom that I hope you will remember. I have a little bit to add to what he said:
Sometimes we get scared and upset because we don't know how we are going to get through a problem. We get so busy worrying that we aren't even able to see that while we spent the time worrying, we also got through it.
Remember that change can be good even if it's not a change that you want.
I wish you and your family the best.