critical mind or criticising......is it the same?????????

@riyasam (16556)
India
March 20, 2009 9:17am CST
my hubby tells me that i view things with a critical mind...is it because i think alot???then why women are said to be more critical than men???
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@balasri (26537)
• India
21 Mar 09
Ladies do have a critical mind because they are always very careful and wary of things than the impulsive men who think that they are strong and infallible.The are the most responsible person in any house and naturally they have to have a critical mind.
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Mar 09
thanks for your response.i think men are more happy go lucky,that is one of the reasons why stress levels are so low in men.
@balasri (26537)
• India
22 Mar 09
May be you are right.Personally I think that getting stressed won't be productive in any way.Seeking a solution to any situation in a calm methodical and practical way is always good for the mind and the body.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
21 Mar 09
Riya! It is difficult for me to answer this question. God has made a man and woman different and their minds work on different wavelengths and frequencies. I understand that a woman and a man will view a situation from different angle and their thoughts on the same issue will differ. You can compare it with half water in a glass. One can say - that the glass is half full and the other fellow may say, the glass is half empty. It is a matter of our perceptions and we view a certain situation based on our own notions, experiences and outlook. Nothing is good or bad, thinking made it so, one great author has said. So please do not take seriously the comments of your husband, when he says that you are critical, you have your own style and way of thinking.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Mar 09
theres no doubt,they are different both physically as well as mentally....i didnot take to heart whatever he says(he knew how i was before marraige,i think i have not changed,maybe i have become more responsible now)
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
This shows that how mature and 'broad-minded' you are and this quality of yours will help you a lot in your future life, I am sure. My best wishes are with you.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
Most men doesn't share our brains. Women compared to men think and do things differently. They cannot be the same anywhere. I think we women think far better then the men and can reason out things better. Like you I am a very vocal and critical person. I speak my mind out and that often land me in trouble. But at the end it is always sweet results.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Mar 09
well zandi,i do echo your sentiments,its better to be truthful on the front than giving others a false of security which often lands then in problems.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
21 Mar 09
Zandi, I did not read your response, before writing mine, however, I feel we both have stated the same things.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Hi, riyasam! I guess men think that we are too critical and we are always trying to figure things out. They feel that we should just leave issues alone and act as if it is no big deal. Men can be critical too. Just be around them long enough, and they will start to show the same signs as women. If you think a lot that does not really mean that you view things with a critical mind. I think a lot because I want answers to something and I am trying to figure out what is what. Don't let what your husband say to you get you down. If you know that you are not critical, then don't mind what he says to you. As long as you are human you will always have questions to many things in this world.
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
20 Mar 09
thanks for your encouraging words.i am not sure whether i have a critical mind but i donot accept things blindly and tend to ask questions unlike him.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Hi, riyasam! I don't think that you have a critical mind either. You just have questions that you want answers to. There is so much that you want to know about. I am like this to. To be honest with you, I am always analyzing the what and the ifs. I want to know why something happened and what triggered it. My husband tells me from time to time that I worry and think too much. So, I understnd where you are coming from. I guess that is something that we women do. It is not done on purposely it is just done by an reaction to our feelings. You are a great person, I can tell. And you are just curious to know many things about life, which is normal. I can relate to you! Thank you for this discussion!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
21 Mar 09
women like to have things done right, men just want them done. lolo
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Mar 09
you hit the nail on the head.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
21 Mar 09
i have been around for awhile. lol. have a happy weekend.
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• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Based on articles I've read about the difference between thinking of men and women, women tend to get to analytical and critical. Aside from the left brain working, women also tends to get some kind of opinion from the right hemisphere of our brain where our emotions are stored. Before you knew it, they had already thought of the emotional impact on what they'll do, if it had caused them previous pain and if it will cause them future emotional stress, if it will be beneficial for everyone and things like that. It's more of a critical mind and not really criticizing. Further reading had led me to believe that women tend to believe not just in the present day but they also think of what it will bring to their future.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
24 Mar 09
seems your reading was right,we think about the future too,not just thr present.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
21 Mar 09
well I don't think it makes a difference, there are as many that do both, critical thinkers are the scientists of the world, or government, or the doctors, lawyers, computer programs emotional people are the writers, the poets, social workers, community workers, etc, there is a need for both kinds of people
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Mar 09
its feels good to see that i belong to the former category but you have provided useful information..
• United States
20 Mar 09
That's odd -- I've generally found that men are far more critical. Maybe the thing is that women are more outspoken as a rule. Critical thinking doesn't have to have anything to do with criticizing anyone, but analyzing what's going on...
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Mar 09
yup,woman tend to be more outspoken ,hence the tag!!thinking about something with all its pros and cons,shouldnt be labelled as critical
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Well, if you have a critical mindset you are always criticizing.. that is true.. if you are very critical to anything, you will always criticize much more if you are perfectionist and you set a standard to anything. What I observed for critical people is that they are always frustrated when things will not cope with their standard. I don;t want to be critical because it will make me grumpy when things go wrong.. I want to be considerate and not to be critical because it will affect my health ...
@riyasam (16556)
• India
24 Mar 09
maybe what you have said is right but i donot take things at their facevalue.
• United States
25 Mar 09
i think it can be similar but not always the same.. kind of like when people think im negative when im a realist and know that things dont end happy all the time and so i prepare for everything.. people think thats negative because they only want to think positive.. so i would think critical mind would be evaluating the situation and seeing the good and bad where as a criticizing mind would only see the bad and harp on it
@riyasam (16556)
• India
26 Sep 09
i opt for the former,i would consider the situation from all angles...
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
20 Mar 09
huh?....maybe not all women are cretical than men
@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Mar 09
not all bomb......... not all.............btw,not all women are men.........
@savypat (20216)
• United States
20 Mar 09
Well my hubby says the first thing out of my mouth is no, and he's right but it's only because he expects me to commit without all the facts. If I force him to give me more facts then I can back off to well, maybe. Maybe we are more insecure and just require more information to decide what to answer.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Mar 09
my hubby too says that ,sometimes.i donot agree with him.i just want to bsure i do all the tasks are done properly before accepting them.
• India
25 Mar 09
Hello my friend riyasam Ji, My hubby is of the view that women are more powerful, more complex in nature and run deep in their thought. It is because, what women can do, men can never do, God has not provided with this strength to continue human race. May God bless you an dhave a great time.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
26 Sep 09
your hubby is right,men and women are completly different,yet so very same!!!
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• India
27 Sep 09
Hello my friend riyasam Ji, They may be differenet, but at the very same time, they are complementary to each other by Nature. They are to liv ewith each other by nature. One remains in-complete without other. It is absurd to have any thing wrong notion other than this. May god bless You and have a great time.
• United States
20 Mar 09
Personally I think that having a critical mind is a good thing, I know I have one. It lets me find more of my own errors as well as errors others have made. What you DO when you find the "critical errors" is what makes you either helpful or annoying. For example, I read these forums every day now and I see so many spelling and grammar errors. I read posts from people claiming to be adults but have writing skills of 2 year old children. Do I make a comment about them directly, or even indirectly? Other then this statement here, no. I just grin and bear it. The idea is if you can be helpful with your critical mind, nobody will complain about it. I find mistakes in movies all the time, and I might point them out to friends who are also using a "critical mind", but to others I try to keep that to myself. If you have a critical mind, find others who do as well and spend time with them. Try not to expose your critical mind to your husband - sounds like he does not share your talent. :)
@riyasam (16556)
• India
20 Mar 09
thanks for your response.i think i have a cautious mind as they say experience is the best teacher.i donot trust any person whom i come across blindly,it takes some time for me to trust a persom while my hubby is quite vulnerable(,though he doesnt accept it).i am his screening agent.