Telling lies not to hurt others feelings

I am sorry to say that,but you make a big mistake.Friends are supposed to care about us and always tell us the truth.Otherwise what's the point?I believe you have to change this and start telling your opinion,no matter if it is not good for a friend of yours.You want your friend's good.Don't you?So when you see something you do not like you should say to her/him ,so he/she can be able to change it!Please take a try to say your opinion,even if it will hurt at first your friend.Otherwise you are not real!!

well, till the time you are giving false statements about their good looks or dresses. it is not harming your friends. but if you don't point out your friend's mistakes then they might fall into trouble. they ask you about themselves because they trust you. if they trust you then you should alos be tru to them. suppose, your friend has to attend a party and s/he does not look up to the mark. then you must polietly tell them about it. just to make your friend happy you can't make your friend a laughing stock. it is agood feeling that you don't wish to hurt your friends but it would be better if you act as the right judge for them and be their help.

well u have to courage to tell to the person the truth and nothing but the truth if ur really concerned to that person. what ur going to do is tell him/her in the right place and the right time. well i dont think ur wrong. ur just showing that ur really a true person not just to other persons but also to ur self. keep up the good work.

Its OK with all these small things like "how they look?" or like "howz the dress?" or like "does the dress suit me well?".But when something important happens it really hurts your friend even when you knew you did not tell her. For example just some time back you would have seen your friends' boyfriend romancing another girl.The next moment your friend comes & tells you that her boyfriend is very honest, trustworthy & loves her very much.She will ask you whether you beleive him or not as you would also have known him.Then what would be your reply? Now just not to get her hurt wont you tell the truth that he was with somebody else?

I dont think what your doing is a sin.. I think you are just trying to protect your friends feelings. I myself never want to hurt my friends feelings. I think most people lie when it comes to telling someone that they look good. I think its kinda rude if someone says no that you dont look good

You are not lying you are just trying to be polite and tactfull. Besides tastes differ and what you thinks is ugly may look beautiful for others. I'm sure they ask you if they look good not to be critisized but encouriged. You are a good friend and a very good person.

Awww Niah, it's not a sin at all. You clearly love, value and respect your friends and you don't want to hurt them. You're obviously a caring person :) If you feel like you're not being truthful, maybe you can try something that I've found helps me in similar situations. If someone asks me if their outfit looks good, for example, and if perhaps it's not the most flattering thing I've seen them wear, I always look for something I DO like and compliment that specifically. Like I might say, "Wow that outfit is a beautiful color!" or "Those are GREAT shoes! Where did you get them?" It's a bit like looking for a silver lining, you know? I'm not lying, because I do mean whatever it is that I say... I'm also trying not to be hurtful by commenting on something that isn't my personal taste.

You should not be dishonest to your friend. They rely on you for your views and telling them half truth opinion will not make you a reliable friend. You can tell the truth and not offend your friend if you put your words in proper. You can say something like, you look nice if you put an accessory here or something to that effect. They are many ways to make your friend feel happy by giving your honest opinion. Sometimes lying seems easier than telling the truth. But when you tell one lie, you almost always have to make up two or three more. Then you have to remember all of them, in the right order, plus the people you told them to....and suddenly you're trapped. Lies may be easy to tell but difficult to erase. When in doubt, tell the truth. Truth does not hurt the feelings. When you're caught lying it will mean disaster.

Telling lies respecting others feelings is not bad nor any sin according to me. I do the same many a times. I do care for others feeling and can't hurt anyone nor can see anyone getting upset because of my words so I always think twice before I speak. I do lie for such things like you said if some one asks if he/she is looking good, even if he/she is not looking good I give them compliment. I don't think its a sin and many must be doing that.

I feel that the subject of pretty or ugly is pretty much subjective, so you can say whatever you want. As for things pertaining to facts (like "Do I look fat"?), you could always refer the friend to a weighing machine.

Hi there...I understand where you are coming from. NOne of us want to hurt our friends. But on the other hand, and depending on the circumstances, sometimes we are a better friend if we know of something that can make them look better and we talk nicely to them about it. I dont see the sense if something can be improved, in telling them they look good and letting them walk around thinking that while everyone else is thinking negatively.... Now I would do it very tactfully. LIke start by telling them that everyone has their own beauty. But that there are things we can all do to improve. That might give you an opening to help. I guess it depends how close the friend is as to how I would go about it. A good friend, Yes I would definately try to help rather than let them walk around getting looks and comments from others.

It's not really bad to tell them that but somehow you can try making suggestions to them that won't hurt their feelings. For example, if they asked you if they look good in an outfit, you can agree but you can also try suggesting letting them try other colors or putting an additional accessory or like scarves that will compliment their skin color or hair or the outfit to make them look better. Or you can even try to suggest them some make ups that would enhance their best features... Giving white lies to boost their self-esteem doesn't always end up to what you are expecting them to be but what you have to do is have a good talk to them and sometimes giving constructive criticisms isn't bad. It'll make them aware of how much they lack and what needs improving and start on that.

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hello friend its good to hear that you don't wanna to hurt your friends,,,actually most of us don't wanna to hurt our Friends..actually this whole depends on situation..if your words is making your friend good in any condition then its good but if it making any kind of fool or like this then its not good...Actually I have the same nature as you but it sometime not good, not to tell our friends the actual truth..

hello niah! telling they look pretty even if there not is a BIG NO NO. Its not quit bad, but its not good also.... why not tell them the truth? after all your just concern of how they looks like. but if your really afraid that they might get the wrong info, why not tell them they look okay but its much better if they wear the other one... or have some technique like: "the dress is okay but try this one, you will look more beautiful and will fit with the occasion we will be going... " Its up to you on how will you deliver the correct message... Whats important is that you want them to look beautiful... REALLY BEAUTIFUL...

I don't think you are making any sin at lying in this sense, i think you are right in this you are not hurting your friends self esteem

its not a sin but its not the proper way of boosting their self confidence... as a teacher, in-order for our students not to get embarass with their mistake, we give positive remarks then correct in a nice way. like for example, if somebody ask yopu if they look god, you can say... yes you do look good but it would be more good it you wear this or wear that or do this or do that.... so, its in a nice way... they wont get hurt and you dont lie to them...

first u have to find what kind of person is he. after that u can decide if he is a immotional guy than whtever u r doing its good other wise if he is a realistic person u can make him understand wht is wrong or right.

Same is here even if my friends ask me whether how they look i always say yes they do look good, but sometimes if feel liek telling them, no please change what you are wearing, just because i dont want them to look bad.but then i fear that if they will feel bad of what i said, they might be low then. so i just end up saying a lie just to see them happy, because when they smile i can see that confidence in them that they also can do better. so i dont say anything that hurts them

I don't think so.You are so kind to tell a lie,otherwise,you might hurt their feelings! Although we all dislike a liar,it depends.If our friends or relatives just don't want to make us unhappy,we shouldn't hate them but appreciate them. Not all ones can accept the truth.If we don't mean to hurt others,i think telling a lie is not a bad thing.