I am finding it very difficult to manage my teenage son

I had alot of problems with my son when he was a teenager aslo. Fortunatley he is slightly more responsible as a young adult. I had to send him away temporarily to a residential school because I was worried about him. He was easy as a child. Teenage years are difficult. There are only so many things you can do unfortunately.

At his age its very difficult to mould him.Better would be to leave him a residential school so that there he will learn good things while doing his own chores like washing the clothes , utensils , reading , writing & obeying the elders. I think you left him till now the way he wanted to be when he was young & now you are suffering.dont shout at him.Talk to him very gently & tell him the good & the bad.Be friendly with him & even take him along with you cinema or some parks or to some other destination where only you three are there & treat him as your friend.Hope he will be good by the time he moves from teenage.

I've raised four children and I can tell you from experience that teenagers go nuts for a couple of years but you have to set boundaries and stick with them. Your son is testing you and his father. He's testing his boundaries and you have to push back as hard as he pushes to go past them. Don't stop being a parent just because he's bigger. What would you do with a three year old who shouts and has temper tantrums? Send him to his bedroom until he can speak to you in a civil tone. Restrict him from activities that he enjoys if he disrespects you. Take away things that he likes for a period of time if he's disrespectful. Kids need to feel secure and enforcing the limitations of how your son can behave at home will help him as he transitions from child to adult. You and his father need to sit him down during a non-confrontational time and have a talk with him about his behavior and how the two of you plan to deal with it starting now. Lay out what is expected of him and the consequences of disobeying or disrespecting you by shouting and having a tantrum. He's not going to be happy with the conversation and, at first it's going to be very difficult but, if you and your husband stand firm, your son should settle down. Good luck.

If I were you I would try controlling your son's attitudes. Don't get intimidated by him. You're his parent and while he still under your roof, you got all the rights to tell him the right thing to do. Obviously, shouting your parent is not a very nice thing to do. Let him know who is the boss and mold him in the best you could.

In this situation, like everyone suggests, he might need to see a psychiatrist? Or a therapist who can find out what he was so angry about. Maybe he should be disciplined to learn to respect his parents a little, instead of shouting at them. That is irrepsectful to your parents. Don't you think so?