I'm 17, Can I Move Out?

Ok, I'm going to answer this as a father and it may not be what you want to hear. 17 is very young to be striking out on your own and you may actually have trouble fiding a place that will rent to you as you are not legally an adult. Have you, or do you itend to finish school and or go to college? The prospect of finding a job that will pay enough, especially in todays economy, to pay for rent, utilities, food etc is not good. I understand the need for independence at that age, butyou would be better served to finish school, find a part time job and dave for the day when you can actually afford to go out on your own......just my 2 cents.

well there are alot of unknowns. who will own the new place, what sort of parents you have etc. As open minded as i am ( i moved out with my gf who eventually became my wife around the age of 20) i can t help to think that in case it doesnt work out it s can get quite messy. Plus beeing so young (how old your bf is ?) you don t know how your relationship will develop once you get to actually live with your bf, from his part too. I guess you think now that there is nothing more beautifull than waking up next to him each morning etc but in time living togheter could bring to your attention alot of things about your bf that you did not notice living with your parents, things that you could not like. Same goes for him. Plus i think you re a little too young to start acting like a merried couple :) But sometimes it works and it can become a beautiful love story. You never know :)

I wouldn't move out if I Were you.. I moved out when I was 18, last year, and I wasn't even working. I mean I'm working now but it's so hard. I only moved in with my boyfriend's family and I still think it's incredibly hard. I only pay my cell phone bill, and as long as I'm trying to do something with myself I don't need to pay rent. I'm hoping to be moved out on my own with my boyfriend by the summer but saving up is going to take a lot longer than 2/3 months and I work full-time. You can't just expect to move out the second you have a job. Most places ask for references when you're renting an apartment. Just to make sure you won't misbehave. You also need to ensure that you have first & last months rent saved up, not to mention a lot of money to fall back on. (for rent/groceries/bills) It's a lot to think about. If you really want to move out, my suggestion would be to sit and talk to your parents about it, WITH your boyfriend..and if your boyfriend still lives at home, then you guys should talk to his parents together. It's a tough decision to make. Really think about this.

well, since i m 23 right now..bit elder to u..I WIL ADVISE YOU TO STAY WITH UR PARENTS AND NOT MOVE OUT TILL U ARE MARRIED OR OLD ENOUGH TO TAKE UR DECISION AND HAVE A CAREER IN HAND .. it may sound rude but most guys take girls for a ride..also this moving out system makes one more and more vunerable to the world..U may think that since i m from india so i m saying so but its true..!! GROW MORE STRONGER MENTALLY BEFORE MOVING OUT FROM UR PARENTS NEST..!!!

In my opinion 17 is to young to move in with your boyfriend if I were you i'd wait till i was outta school..Can you goto school full time work manage bills,rent what if your boyfriend loses his job or gets laid off how will you manage then.I dont wanna see you drop outta school to work full time Just wait till your out of school.education is the best gift that is giving to you

When I was young I was excited to move out too. I waited until I finished college so I was 21 when I moved out. I liked living alone. Now things have gotten hard on me financially...and now at 26 I'm dying to move back in! I am married btw. It's hard not having money, I had such a great life living with my parents, I am an only child and I am still spoiled. I am pregnant now and I live overseas in Egypt. I want to have the baby in America...so that means moving back in with Mommy & Daddy! I am so glad my parents are there for me and can support me. So basically what I am trying to say is think about this long and hard, and usually Mom and Dad know best. At 17 I would not have said that! But its true!

I am 19. I have been through your EXACT situation. Having gone through it. I suggest you sit down and right out a budget based off of his work alone to see if you can make it just on what he makes. Make sure you can pay for everything and don't forget the little stuff - groceries and all that jazz. The reason I say just his money, is because if you can't get a good job or it isn't a steady job or he loses his job and you keep yours - you will not have both of your money to live off of. If you have at least $100 left a month just off of his money alone then I'd say weigh the pros and cons and if the pros beat the cons then talk to your dad. Don't fight him over it, he's just trying to help you and staying at home really is the best way to go. It really won't be as bad as you think to stay until you turn 18. Good luck with your decision and remember - don't fight your dad over it.

wow this is definetly a big step. and i think that no matter what we say here, you will still do what you think. and actually i recommend that you do what you think it`s best for you... in case things turn bad, i`m sure your parents would take you back. so you have a place to land if it doesn`t work out. good luck !

Moving out from your parents' place is a huge step. I moved out last year, in order to college. I was 19 years old. i am almost 21. So, 17 wasn't too long ago, and I didn't always want to be living at home. But I have to tell you that there are a lot of things that could happen you don't always plan to happen. It seems that you have thought of it, but I think that you should probably think about it a little more. Talk about it with your parents. Although I know this is probably not something that you want to hear, but I think that next year you should concentrate on your school work and getting your high school diploma. Having to worry about bills won't really help you.

Well I think that you shouldn't rush in to such a big decision, your still very young and you have plenty of time to get your own place, and if your father thinks its to soon then maybe hes right, because having your own place and paying your own bills is a big responsibility, and can be stressful, your only young once and I think you should enjoy those teen years, and don't try to grow up to fast. but thats just my opinion, and everyone has to do whats right for them, just make sure you think about your decision completely before you make your choice final.

Hello, if you already made a decision to move in with your b/f why not wait until you are of legal adult age? How many b/f's have you had in your life time? I was 21 when I moved in with my second b/f who ended up My first husband,first b/f and I didn't live together because we were both in college. Because I wanted to live with him didn't change his habits and he had bad habits. But about your father and if he say's NO about you moving out to live with your b/f you can only show him why you think you are ready to move out and play house with your b/f.Will you accept your father's decision if he says no? Does your father like you b/f? First off answers those questions. Well good luck.

First I think you should ask yourself "What is the rush?". If you are truly in love with each other then you have the rest of your lives to spend together. There are different laws everywhere.. but when I left home at 17 my father sent the cops after me. They told me that if I tried to leave again before I was 18 years old I would end up in some sort of a detention center as a runaway. I had problems at home which was my reason. If that is one of the reasons for you then you should definitely talk to someone. If that is the case you could get emancipated and then be able to move out. But if you want to move out just to be with your boyfriend maybe you should think things through alittle more. What if you two broke up? What if something happened to him and you being so dependent on him left you no where to go but back home? You are almost a legal adult so you might as well just wait so there is nothing to get in your way. You may also want to make sure the owner of the apartment is aware that you are underage. Some renters to do not allow tenants underage without their parents or gaurdians. Also, are you prepared to handle paying your own car insurance and health insurance? All these things that you are covered for under your father, is you boyfriend ready to take care of all that and do you really want to depend on him that much? Please ask yourself all these questions before you make your decision. I have been through all this and I hope you realize it is not easy once you get out there. Good luck to you and I hope all goes well no matter what you choose.

Well i say wait you never know whats going to happen. I moved out when i was sixteen it was fun at first. you dont have no one to tell you what to do . you can come and go when you want.but the reality kicks in.you have to get a job then there is the bills .see when you a kid at home you have rules but you can have fun to .and if you move out all the money you make goes to bill and the way things are now after the bills theres nothing left. so if i were you i would stay at home get though school get a good job and save some money.By the way the boyfriend thing you never know whats going to happen there what if you move out and yall get in a fight and its over. then you have to go back home.then you have to hear i told you so..... so trust me im a 26 yr old mom im married and let me tell you im struggling and you dont want that just be happy and injoy your teen years i hope i helped a little

Awww I want to live with my boyfriend to, and i am also 17. However, I know I won't be able to do it as we are both unemployed! As I read you have a boyfriend who has the money, I think you should just wait till you are 18. My dad said to me that he makes all the decisions untill I am 18 because thats when your'e an adult. Even though he said that, I still managed to get away with alot! I'm sure you don't have long till your 18, You've only got less than a year. I don't think your legally aloud to move out. I stayed with my boyfrend for months! and then his parents had a talk with me and they were saying I shouldn't be staying there because i'm only 17. Wait till your 18 hunni, I know how much you want to live with your boyfriend. When your 18, it's your decision and your dad can't force you not to.

The grass is not always greener on the other side. You are rushing to grow up and if you go through with your plans you will be a grown up at a young age and you will wish for younger carefree days. Good luck to you.

i know you are excited you are. you wanted to do things early in life. i can understand that cause when i was young like your age i would wanted to live that kind of life too but i was just not able to cause of course i am not financially capable and also here in my country we have different lives here. job is not easy to find even back then when i was young. so i didn't have the guts to do that thuogh i really wanted to do that. cause i feel like is short that i have to enjoy life as young as possible. but i guess as we get older we get to realize things and change our attitude toward life.

I don't know what to tell you, but i want to tell you one thing, you are smart, you are intelligent and girls are smart as boys, so my advice is to not to move, study and come to a control and have an identity of yourself then you are free to move anywhere, i don't know how is your boyfriend and i don't want to tell you dont trust him, dont believe him, but one thing i most tell you, always stand on your own. thanks, take my advice as a brother.

Hi payout...I completely understand where you are coming from and why you think the way you do. I was the same at your age and in fact, I did move out, half way across the country. The thing is, we think we are mature at that age and know what we want. I thought I did for sure and nothing anybody said was going to change my mind. It wasnt til later in life that I regretted my decision. I had promised myself to continue my education. Well, one thing led to another that I didnt expect, and that didnt happen either. I was left with 4 children and no real education, working at a minimum wage job. It wasnt til I was in my mid 30's that I was able to go back to school, and I did. My advise to you is, even though I know how you feel, you should definately stay home, finish your education beyond high school so you can be self sufficient if need be. You dont know whats going to happen later in life. And its really hard to go back home later and hear, "I told you so"

My suggestion is you do not move out now. You are so young to move out because you have no job. This means you have no way to earn money. If you can not be independent in personal economy, you have to depend on someone. This will make your life unstable. If the one do not support you any more, you have to move back. But firstly I do not think you father will allow you to move out. You need more time to be an adult. Good luck.

Boyfriends come and go when you are that young. What are you going to do if you get pregnant and he is no longer in the picture? I know you will have an answer, such as you won't get pregnant and he won't leave you... but you never know what troubles you can set yourself up for. I know that nothing I say or what anyone else says will change your mind because hormones at this age are such that make you think you are invincible. I've been there and done that .. got pregnant.. got married.. had kids (lost them to prematurity).. and then husband turned out to be a jerk and we divorced. I could have saved myself a lot of heartache if I had listened to my mom. When you start paying rent, utilities and other bills, and when your boyfriend gets tired of money not stretching as far as it did before... you might end up all alone. Why not wait until you become a legal adult. This way you can be solely responsible for your choices.