are required chores at home right or wrong?
By Ritchelle
@Ritchelle (3790)
Philippines
March 22, 2009 4:08am CST
i just rewrote the title so that the space fits. actually, it's more of yes, it's right to require chores. but, if it is right and we want to teach our kids a simple form of discipline and consideration for others in the house, why do mothers still choose to do the undone chore/s of her kid/s?
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@apoots77 (104)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I'm one of those moms who doesn't do the undone chores of my children. I have 5 children and they are all expected to keep their rooms clean. If the haven't picked up, they don't get to do the things they want to do, like go out to play, watch tv, play video games, etc. My two oldest, who are 10 and 12, do the dishes as well. They are expected to load and unload the dishwasher each day. I tend to remind them of how lucky they are to HAVE a dishwasher, since when I was 7 I started having to wash dishes at home...by hand...blah! If they don't complete the dishes properly, again, they are expected to finish them and then they are allowed to play. At the same time, I'm pretty lenient as far as WHEN they do the dishes. As long as we don't have a massive pile of dishes overflowing the two sinks in the kitchen, I don't make a huge deal out of it because I know they'll be doing them. So, there are some moms, :-), who don't finish the job that the kids are expected to do. :-)
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
lol! you definitely know how to run a tight ship. you're lucky with your kids and so are they to have you.
@apoots77 (104)
• United States
22 Mar 09
LOL I do. But with 5 kids...there's got to be some order at some point. My oldest boys also clean up after the dogs in the yard and take out the trash. The three younger kids have smaller chores that they do as well. I think it teaches them to take care of themselves. Which, we all know is very important once we become adults. I don't want my boys getting married and don't know how to do laundry or wash dishes...those simple chores that they should also help their future wives with. Plus, when they live on their own in college or in their own homes, they are definitely not going to be calling me to ask, "should I wash these clothes in hot water or cold?.....how to I load my dishwasher?" LOL I think it's good preparation for life. :-)
But...like I said, they have the freedom to get the chores done throughout the day. As long as they get done. :-)
@barefoot48066 (58)
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23 Mar 09
I think it's wrong NOT to give kids who are at least school-age chores. Kids need to learn how to work, and the earlier the better. Chores ought to be part of living in the family and ought to be separate from any allowance you may choose to give the kid.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
22 Mar 09
Yes I do think it is right to ask your children to do small chores to help in the house. There is no harm in asking them to giving a helping hand until this does not hinder them from playing or studying or letting them enjoying childhood.
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