why always the mother?

As you have seen from some of the other responses, it's not always the case. Yes, MOST of the time the mother will become the main nurturer/custodial parent. My sister gave up her daughter to the father because of a work situation. A very good friend of mine had custody of his kids because the mom was way too busy with her "new" life. I got custody of my kids because their father was abusive. I think the tendancy now is more for joint/split custody where the child is shuffled back and forth between the mother's and father's houses. I don't think that's a very good solution either. Maybe people will stop getting divorced and we won't have to worry about it any more???

I understand how you feel, but understand that mother is a very important part of any child's life. My husband's ex-girlfriend literally gave him his daughter. An she is hurting so badly that her mother is not a part of her life an doesn't complete without her. It could be a good thing and a bad thing. Just be encouraged and understand that it may be for the best that the child is where they are.

hello ritchelle.. i'm a mother too and a single mom.. my daughter is with me.. yes, me too also been noticing that when couple will got separate the children will like to go with their mom, it's because little children are more close to the mothers..specially, that mothers are always in the house taking care of their children, so, the children are having that kind of special feeling to thier mom..this special attachment is from the womb until the baby was born..for me, that's the main reason..happy mylotting

Well nobody has any RIGHTS to the child they arent a possesion im not entirely sure why the mother is (unless unfit) automatically given custody i mean if me and my partner split he is just as capable of having custody of them as me but we would do joint custody i couldnt stand to only see them one weekend in 2 so why should their dad! Sadly some parents can not see over their difficulties to realise that a child needs both parents (where possible and when they are not a risk)

I think that a baby needs a mother more than a father. I think its just biologically designed that way. A mother also gives a child nourishment and food at younger stages of the baby. It is also that she spends a lot of time with the baby and also she is emotionally connected to the baby more than a man. A woman is sensitive and understands her baby's requirements and probably this is the reason why a woman is favoured to have the custody too. But this is not the case always and the mom could be worse than the father sometimes and the custody could be handed over to the father. I personally believe that a baby needs boh father and the mother beside it to grow healthy in terms of psychological and physical factors.

I really dont understand that concept. No matter what the mother has done, the father still never wins custody. You see it all the time. I just dont understand it.

i believe it is not always like that. Its really depends on the situation. But i heard mostly it goes with the mother, maybe because the mother is the one who really gives the more unconditional and care to her children. I am not saying that the father doesn't love and care his children coz i believe father did love and care too but mostly the mother gives more love and care compares to father.

Tht is not always the case. When my parents got a divorce my dad got the custody. He kicked her out of the house, and so she had no job (they met in highschool and she did not work the 7 years they were married), no car, no home, my dad did it on purpose and so he got us. Also my brither in law has his kids,the mother didn't want them. Most of the time the mother gets the kids because the father works, or does not want to take his kids from their mother. Other times it is because the father does not want to deal with the kids.

People hate to seperate or take the children from their mother. It's because they feel that the children need the motherly nurtureing and love. Not that the father can't do it, but the mother has an instinct.

The children came from her anyway. So it is right to give her the rights for the children.