Before you married, you will shack up with your boy or girfriends?

the price of house keep soaring up.it can put the date of marrige off until we are rich,but not our determination of living together for love.:) i think it's reasonable,my baby

Shack up means living in? I never heard of that term used before. I don't support living in and I wouldn't. People say that it's a good practice because you get to know your partner before moving in with him/her for good - and you get a chance to back out just in case it turns out that you don't like living with her. However, I think that that's not a good way to judge the situation - living in isn't the same as actually being married - you're not under the same obligations and you're not spiritually attached with each other with the idea of ACTUALLY BEING MARRIED at the back of your heads :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!

maybe yed maybe not!that depends on the situation! china is a traditional counrty!so ```

If you would have asked a year ago, I wouold have said I was against it. However, in the past few months, it has changed. I am pretty much living with my boyfriend now. We were both paying about $800 a month in rent and utilities and with the econonmy the way it is now, we talked about it and came to the conclusion that it was best for us financally to live together and split the bills. We are now using the money we are saving to save to buy a home in a few years.

Yes,there are many things like this in China, I think other countrys also have so appearance. First, that is not legal in law, but many people don't mind it and police don't check it usually, so this appearance has came up. I think that live together before getting married have advantage and disadvantage at the same time. The good side may be save money for renting house, reduce house wasting, increase the communication and understanding of two. But the other side, it will hurt the female more if the two say good-bye rather than get married, and also if they have baby a little earlier, maybe the baby will be hurtted very much. I think live together has more disadvantage than advantage. 'zaihezhenan' mention that the house is expensive so that they can't get married before buying a house. I consider that house just a little element, I have many students went into church before marriage including me. Now, we have a house, my wife is happy since the house subscribed her name. hoho, I still have no house.

I am a single .At around me ,there are many friend live together before getting married. and this phemomenon has been used to . I often think ,I will or will not pre-marital living together ? Because I very much fear in this matter. I have heard that if the girl shack up with her boyfriend before they married ,there will be a lot of harm .For example,girl probably early pregnancy. In china , chinese traditional culture is still very conservative, parents are still think girl should be chaste. if the girl lives together with her boyfriend, she will be under great pressure. It is a harm both body and mind. Of course ,zaihezhibei metioned they can save some money for the house. Actually, they can't save much money . they use up the money at the romantic .a lot of people are living together under the pretext of saving money . Anyway ,I do not agree with shack up before I married.

This is exactly what happened to my fiancee and I. Last year we were both living in the same apartment complex, paying for our own apartments. This was costing each of us almost $500 a month for efficiency apartments! We found out that if we moved in together, for the year before our wedding, that we would be saving a couple hundred dollars EACH MONTH! Our parents agreed to it, since we were engaged and were already starting to plan our wedding. They knew we were in it for the long run, so us moving in together didn't bother either one of our sets of parents. Before being in this situation, I never would've though I'd do this. But it made the most sense financially.