where is the fairness in love?

just tell the one you loved, you are hurt because of he/she dont hide your feelings cause one day these little pains will become a big trouble and you cant stand it anymore~ taht's the end of love

Yo! I can really relate... T_T Love, well for me it was never fair. If it was, I am still with my ex now. But, love was never fair to me. I always want to think it is fair because our world should be fair, but as you can see, our world isn't fair. If our world was fair, everybody is rich and all and no one will be poor. So for me, love is never fair because we get to suffer because we love someone but, since we can't control anyone, I guess that it is. Well, some people never appreciates someone. I mean, if you tell someone you like him, that person can only think of two things, leave you out (meaning that person does not talk to you anymore) or be friends and of course if he knows you like him, there will be time where he will learn to love you too (meaning, he can return the feeling). I am suffering because I am trying to show her that I have changed and I want another chance even though she gave me one before, I want to show her that it will be different this time, no promises but the only promise I could fulfill is to love her forever. But, of course, I do not let my love life affect my social life. Although sometimes it affects but I still stay strong so that people would know that I can handle things. Hey, crying is not a weakness, it is a strength. Because you let everything out what you are hiding and show to the people that 'hey! I have feelings too you know'. Screw the people who says crying are for the weak, they don't realize things that it is not easy. Hehehe. So, If you need help, just send me a message and I'll try to help you the best way I can. ^_^ smile always!

I think you are the one doing this to yourself and not love is doing this to you. You have the choice of telling what is in your heart out but you are afraid to do it. It is not love that make you suffer but your fear to go out and say what you feel about things. You have a choice not to bear the pain and move on with what is left with you but you choose to stay there and bear the pain. Why? not because of love but the fear of coming out of your comfort zone. Be brave enough to do what you need to do to be happy.

Hello there Jane, i think you need to speak than just hide your true feelings. Why be a martyr and suffer. This will be a very heavy burden for you and if you don't tell that person about your situation, it will never change the way you want to. I think that everything must be fair, even love. So i guess you must be brave to tell and speak out what you want so that you will not feel sorry for yourself and just bear the load. I don't think that love will do this to you at all, you deserve to be happy and equal. So please take time to be brave and step out of your shell and say it to that person how you feel. Happy Mylotting!

a great wiseman once said in love and war, nothing is fair. so, i think there isn't a man on Earth that can't agree with you. we all passed through what you are going now. myself i cried for nights after a lost love, and in the days i was thinking at him. time heals everthing, this thing it's truth for sure.

How tired you are to do so!Why can't you utter your real feelings?If you always keep the truth from your lover, how can he change something?You said that you pretend to do something or bear the pain,but do try not to do that and do you know the result? I dare not say the love is fair,but i think lovers must respect each other,then the love will be everlasting. Don't make yourself so unhappy and you can't afford everything by yourself.We should be brave enough to strive to what we want. Good luck to you,and happy mylotting:)

I don't know the answer whether the love we experience is fair or not. But I do know that we all suffer from love sometimes. It can be extremely painful, or extremely happy. We all invest our emotion to it, until we expected a full reward. Although it is risky, we still doing it. I hope that we all get what we suppose to get.

Love isn't fair, nor is life, and sometimes for some of us it always seams like we get the bad end of everything. I get it sometimes, where it is really not fair. My loved one set certain rules and boundaries yet they don't apply for her. I try it and it all explodes. Love is not a fair thing, but it may sort its self out with a little help and commitment.

you know that the people around you love you a lot and they would feel sad if they come to know that you are sad. hence you try to hide your feelings and sorrows from them. look jane, i am no expert but through my experience, i must say, try to express your emotions to someone. if not family then speak out to a friend. if you don't feel comfortable with a friend then write. write all your emotions, all your feelings. write each and every thing that bothers you. believe me , you would feel relaxed. if there is something that is bothering you too much and making you shed tears write about it and then tear it. then see how good you feel. why do you have to suffer to show your love to loved ones. you have to show your love, you don't have to tell people that you love them. your actions speak louder than your words. do things that would make others feel that you love them. promise us here, that you would not shed tears anymore. it does not help in living, it just makes a person weak.