Pregnancy: Is There A "Right" Time?

Pregnancy is like a bus service. Sometimes it comes along and a lady isn't ready. Other times it comes along three times in a row. At other times the service has been canceled and it doesn't happen. In an ideal world a lady gets great qualifications, gets married, buys a house and then she gets pregnant. She has a healthy baby and she makes an excellent mother. Life is complicated though and surprises can happen. A baby is meant to be born and so it helps if the mother-to-be can get used to that idea. I don't think there is a "right" time but some circumstances are better than others. There is emotionally ready and there is financially prepared. A young mum might have lots of energy and an older mother might have a very comfortable lifestyle. Good luck with your pregnancy and I think you are a great mum.

If everyone waited until there was a right time no one would be having children. They'd be too old! People want to wait until they are financially ready; trouble is not many people ever get financially ready to have kids.

i think its all down to personal preference whether its a right time to have a baby like in your case your son was an accident but you've obviously coped ans managed which is a good thing. now in my situation i would love to have a baby right now but at the moment my partner is unemployed and were both still living with our parents and were saving very hard for a wedding next year and getting our own place so at the moment it would be a bad time for us to have a baby.happy mylotting

I think the "right" time is when you have enough money and time,and also a steady relationship is provided.Its better for women age 25_ 30 to give birth.I hope I could have my first baby before 30.

I understand what you're saying, that parenthood is always tough, but I suppose I'm coming from a different place and have a different way of looking at things. I'm the type who likes to plan, but I don't fall apart when things don't go according to what I had envisioned. I had my first (and only thus far) baby when I was about to turn thirty and I think it was a good time to do that. My husband and I had planned to have another one around this time so there would be a 3-year difference between our children, but with the economy as it is and myself (I'm a WAH, planning-to-homeschool mom with no nanny/house help) so exhausted already, we've had to regroup and toss out that plan for a second child (just the plan, not the desire; we could just make a different plan). The thing is, children are always a blessing when they come, imo anyway, and parents just have to make the best of their situation.

It's exactly right.there have been not a right time for me.i never have been saving enough money.most of money have been spent on my children.

I have a daughter who will be 6 in July. And I just had a son. He is 3 months old. The "right" time is when they get here. No one is ever fully prepared no matter what age you are for all the ways things change. Money? Unless you are independently wealthy no, never enough. You just have to get creative. Every one has their idea of the "right time" It is a myth. All you can do is try and make the most of the time you get with the kids.

Knowing what you will expect in a pregnancy will at least prepare you for some things so you will not be totally freak out. I think the right time is when you are ready. Raising a family is not that easy, you have to be prepared financially, emotionally. But it's good to know that you have worked it out. I think since you started early you never really got to enjoy being single. No offense meant though. What I mean is that at 17 and 18, you were both young then and as you said, it wasn't the right time yet. Being parents at that early age, well, sort of forced you to become responsible and mature.

I was pregnant with my third at your age. It might have never been the right time but I'm now a SAHM and working on number 4, and very happily married. It's life, it all works out in the end, and you seem to be better off than a lot of people your age.