in laws

It depends really on the situation, who is the breadwinner? Is it you? or is it your partner? If it's me who's the breadwinner of the family, and she doesn't like me, well, she can't do anything about it because I have the authority over her. Yes, I would allow her to live with me, but she should know she should respect me because I earn for all of us. On the other hand, if it's my husband who's the breadwinner and I don't have a job or an earning capacity, I don't think I would be comfortable staying at home with her looking over my shoulder for my mistakes. It would be a lot uncomfortable. But am willing to say 'yes' if my husband could justify her stay with us. Provided, he knows how I feel about it. My mom actually was in that situation before. She wasn't openly hated, but she wasn't openly accepted either. It was because her mother-in-law wanted my dad to marry someone else of rank because they were wealthy way back then. So, the brothers and the sisters weren't really happy about my dad marrying her (they weren't event invited by my dad). So, when they were married, they stayed with my mother's family home (it was a huge house and all her siblings - all single then - were there. They were requested by my mom's mother to stay there (my dad was close to his mother-in-law) because my grandmother asked my mom to look after her siblings since my grandmother wasn't often in the area due to business. To make the long story short, my parents soon got enough money to build a house of their own, in contrast, my mom's mother-in-law's family lost all their money. At her old age, the mother-in-law was forced to stay with my mom and dad in their new house. They were civil but not really close. As an advice, my mom would tell me that the best thing to do in these situations is to never get overly close to the in-laws. Civility is the key. Too much closeness often harbors a lot of conflicts in the end. Just learn to keep your distance and everything would be well. So, I tell you, it really depends. If you have work and can leave the house and not stay all the time in front of her, then probably that's a good way. But if you are a stay-at-home mom, that would be stressful, I assure you. But anything goes, you just simply need to pass the bridge when you get there. Good luck!

If there was no other way but her moving then I would. My mother-in-law drives me crazy sometimes. She always tries to get in our business. I have three children and I am going to school so it would be a great help to have someone here but I know it would end in me and my husbands divorce. My husband says my mother loves you like her daughter and im like....yeah right. This is a very sensitive subject. Your husband feels the need to help his mom but you want to live alone and in peace (at least I do). I would tell him to get her an apartment near by and work a second job to pay for it...lol.

well on first year of my married life we lived with my in laws, but I have not encountered any problems in my in laws, because they are so kind and helpful, they always help us in any problem and guide us us in our married life, they also help us in taking care of my son, and also help us in terms of financial problem, my mother in law love me as she love my husband, and now we live separately with my in laws,she always visited

no .. i wont allow any relatives in my house! i sounds mean but i want my house for my kids and husband only. i just dont like kiosk in my home!

I have been with my husband for 13 years and my mother in law always had a problem with me. Now that we are married she makes our life a little better but still causes trouble here or there. Regardless how I feel about her she is still my husbands mother.. If we had no other choice but to let her live with us I would for him but I would make it clear to him that it could mean divorce for us. Because we would probably do nothing but fight over her. She is a tough cookie and I hope that we are never in that situation

I am very lucky that my mother-in-law is so kind unlike others. She was so supportive to me especially during my childbirths, an exact opposite of my father-in-law. My husband asked me a favor about this, because it is very hard for them to earn for living because my father and mother in-laws are now too old to go for work. My husband is the only one who has a good and stable job. He knows that his father is opposite of my mother-in-law. He understand that it might be hard for me to live with him but I understand the situation. Just imagine if you are already old, who will take care of you and your husband? Who will give you support? Who will look for you especially when you are sick? Would you like to be send in home for the aged just because your daughter/son in-law don't want to live with you? Those are the question I answered too and thought of the situation in my own shoes. Thus, I ok my husband to live them with us.

although i don't have issues with my future mother-in-law, i don't think i can allow her to live in with us. i will not be comfortable with that situation. besides, i don't like being watched. its better if we live separate from her. so that we can avoid issues also.

I was one of the favorites of my inlaw, for whatever reason I don't know, maybe because I respected and loved them like my real parents are. It has been our choice as couples that we have to build our own home outside any of our parents for that we would be able to be independent and be mature enough outside the mandates of both our parents. But given, if my inlaw would like to live with us, that would be fine with me, I love the thought that they would help a lot in home chores especially to both of us our busy during the day with each of our own job.

If your mother-in-law didn't like you, why would she ask to live with you? It would seem to me that this is the last thing in the world she would want.