Would you ever hurt your child emotionally?

Some people don't deserve children. When I think of all the women and men out there who for some reason or another can't have kids and want them desperately, and then you hear of a situation like this, it makes me so sad. My partner and I really want kids, but we have no money and my health is really poor, so we can't right now. We keep hoping for things to get better, but they aren't at the moment and I'm really broody and sad. This woman has had a huge blessing and she's thrown it away. It does make me upset.

OMG!! I would never do something like that to my baby boy. I love my son more than life and itself, and i could never ever hurt my son. Infact, i don't think i can live away from him! I feel sorry for your step-daughter. Well i think you did a good job by confronting her mom. But she sounds pathetic. Well you can just try and take her mind off it, make her indulge in more activities and stuff. Well thats the most any1 can do, after all cant break the girls heart by telling the truth.

For whatever reason, she apparently just can't be there for her. Rather than judging her, maybe you could do something to help her overcome her "lame excuses". Would I ever hurt my child emotinally? I think every parent hurts there child at some point. Most of the time it's unintentional. Sometimes we don't even realize we're hurting them. I know I felt hurt by some of the things my parents did. Some of those things they were not even aware of. Did that make them bad people? No. If these things had been pointed out to them, would they have done thing differently? Who knows! Maybe yes, maybe no. Is it worth dwelling on? Not really. Do I feel bad for your stepdaugther? yes. Is your judging her mother, helping her? I don't think so. It's good that you tried to get her mom to visit with her, but it didn't work out, for whatever reason. Judging her is not very productive. Make you can think of some more productive things to do.

That is completely unfair for your step-daughter. She should still be watching over her kids and visiting her even if her and her ex-husband are separated. She should not just make her kid sad, cry every night, get her out of her life, etc. She is her daughter and that is horrible parenting. Especially the fact that she doesn't buy anything and she says she does so she looks innocent. I think you and your husband need to go to her house and just have a conversation about it in her face. I do not know what I would do if my parents got divorced especially if I never got to see one of them.

My daughter is the light of my world. I would never in a million years would I hurt my child like that. I never want to spend one moment without my daughter. Some people shouldn't be parents. It is so sad that she doens't want anything to do with her daughter. Why people hurt there children that way is beyond my understanding. I would suggest maybe getting the girl into counseling. She might feel that "there is something wrong with her" that her mother doesn't want to be with her. It is more then likely having a very harsh mental impact on her. Hope things get better.

It's difficult to be the child of a divorce. My parents were divorced and there were times I wish I had lived with my father, as my own mother was not the best mother. My first marriage was not a good one and I divorced. My children eventually went to live with their father and it was a very difficult decision to know they could get a better life with him than with me. I don't see them as the cost of airfare for four children is more then I can afford not working right now. I'm currently a stay at home mom, and when I was employed there was always something, "They have this or that this summer", etc. My children honestly are so busy they don't have time to travel to see me. And I don't feel bad about that at all. They are doing things that are going to pack their college apps and that is just fine with me. There are times where they will say they miss me, or so forth but they are actually really well adjusted children. Sometimes it just takes time, and to be honest the love of a biological mother never really leaves. I'm sure all step mothers have some sort of thought about the natural mother. I personally don't think my husband's ex is worth spit. I think she's a very poor parent. However, that is the way things are right now. I think the best thing you can do is to provide opportunities, if this woman lives in the same state, for the daughter to see her mother. Even if it is just day visits. And, perhaps try to arrange phone times. I know I get very frustrated when calling my own children if they are not home and I don't know a good time to call and chat. They are older so we can do things through email as well. The other thing to accept, is that if this mother truly doesn't want anything more to do with her child that you'll need to help your step daughter understand this. Acknowledge her pain, help her to express it, and then continue to do what you've been doing-being her mother. I hope this helps a bit. Namaste-Anora

I know of a similar situation where the mother tried everything to get the father more involved (invited him to parent teacher interviews, set up all kinds of opportunities for him to see his child at school, at home, or anywhere else) and the father moaned because he didn't want to be in the same building with the mother. then he tried to whine to a judge that the mother did everything to keep him AWAY from the child... hahahaha the lady gave the evidence of what she tried to do for the father, and the judge understood. I can't understand any parent who would do that to their child.

I know of a similar situation where the mother tried everything to get the father more involved (invited him to parent teacher interviews, set up all kinds of opportunities for him to see his child at school, at home, or anywhere else) and the father moaned because he didn't want to be in the same building with the mother. then he tried to whine to a judge that the mother did everything to keep him AWAY from the child... hahahaha the lady gave the evidence of what she tried to do for the father, and the judge understood. I can't understand any parent who would do that to their child.

Some mothers are not meant to be mothers. I have seen a few mothers who are emotionally abusive to their kids as well as physically. You can see the fear in these kids eyes and it's heart breaking. Kicking them, hitting them, not feeding them, yellinng at then and not paying any attention to them. One actually came right out and said she hated the kids. The kids will suffer for a long time due to this type of abuse. Self mothers are sad but just wrapped up in them selves and think only they matter. I feel sad for this child. You could call Childrens Services but you would need hard proof anything is being done even if it is emotional abuse. I'm on the fence about reporting someone for abuse against their kids. It kills me knowing they are not wanted. In front of others it's made to feel like they are loved but in reality and verification they aren't. They are just in the way. I don't understand how mothers can pretend to love a child to get what they want. In the end it will be a sad ending and the kids are and will suffer. I hope things work out for your step daughter.

This is awful... I wouldn't dare do that to my own child... This is quite a situation you have and I admire your courage and love... Am a father to my dearest and only daughter I and her mom brings every attention selfless love and care to our daughter... Love her as your own... She needs a mother like you now more than anything... Only time will tell my dear...

When i married my husband he had a son. His sons Mom was never there. She had several children and left them all behind with there fathers and family members. Her party habits where more inportant. She showed up after years when He was grown and he talks to her but He has told her that she wasn't ever a Mom to him and that I was more of a Mom than she ever was. At least he said his feelings. She said he had a right to feel that way. Yes some people arent meant to be Mothers. You aren't going to be able to make her get involved. Just do your best to be there for the little girl. Because of the time I gave my step-son I dont even call him Step anymore. He is my son just like my 4 kids are my sons and daughters. good luck.