Have you understood your life partner completely?

I know that each person is an island and a separate entity. A human mind is so complex that one cannot be sure that he has understood himself completely. When a man comes out and proclaims that he has found the way to know one's inner self he becomes the instant Swamiji with thousands of restless minds expecting some miracle from him. So the best possible thing is to pull on without damaging the existing peace and harmony in life .Trying to understand a human mind completely whether it is your own or your wife is a futility.

Oh yes and i am surprised to look that those (most) tricksters who take advantage of this. Its indeed a futile endeavor to try to know anyone and when it comes to partners things are little better. I have observed that couples living together for more 30-40 years tend to develop the same facial expressions, same accents and same way of thinking! they can mime each other most dexterously and even before one think it the other say it aloud. these are ofcourse matches made in heaven!

That is a point I always discuss with my wife Mimpi.We always talk about the people who think ,talk and express the same and using the same style and words too.Is it a bliss or curse of losing one's own identity?

I can see that each and every word you have written has come out of a great experience.I just enjoyed reading it.

Now, that doesn't sound good for me, lol Someone's playing me at my own game:P

I just cannot differ with your son's remark of the strong antenna.Must be a smart guy. And I have seen and responded to your comment in Mimpi's library discussion.Thanks.

Thank you Bala for those nice words and there is of course no doubt about the fact that he is a smart guy .Not a usual mother's remark[if you have heard of the famous quotation'There is one perfect child on the earth and every mother has it', but his achievements [God's grace] are proof of it. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1966260.aspx--I have mentioned his in this discussion.Mine is a long one ;you can skip it and will have to scroll down to see his.

Bala I have left a comment for you in Mimpi's library discussion.

Every thing is always going to be fine in your life Kala as you know what you are doing.

My pleasure.

Thank you so much for the BR.

On the serious side Bala. I don't think people get to know everything about thier partners. After the human mind is so complex,whether it be man or woman, there will always be something more to learn about.And the learning too makes life interesting.

That is very true.Learning anything at any age is always interesting.

A man walking along a California beach was deep in prayer. All of a sudden he said out loud, "Lord, grant me one wish." Suddenly the sky clouded above his head, and in a booming voice the Lord said, "Because you have TRIED to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish." The man said, "Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can drive over anytime I want to." The Lord said, "Your request is very materialistic. Think of the logistics of that kind of undertaking. The supports required to reach the bottom of the Pacific! The concrete and steel it would take! I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of another wish, a wish you think would honor and glorify me." The man thought about it for a long time. Finally he said, "Lord, I wish that I could understand women. I want to know how they feel inside, what they are thinking when they give me the silent treatment, why they cry, what they mean when they say 'nothing,' and how I can make a woman truly happy." After a few minutes God said, "You want two or four lanes on that bridge?"

Right friend.There should be something left to our imagination always.

Yes, lol, it kind of keeps you coming back until you find out the mysteries!

Well I can understand what you are trying to say with your experience Ikbooi. I like the way you have written that you were able to know your partner but could not understand him. Very thoughtful of you. Yes as you mentions each and every person is an island and it is utterly a waste of time and pain to try to understand him/her completely. As long as the life goes peacefully and happily and as long as the wife and husband know their particular parts and responsibilities in the married life everything is fine and bliss.

my dear lkbooi, This is the thing which i like you the most always. I still keep on reading your every comments and i am always happy and satisfied with your saying.I can never say a "no" inside my mind, reading any of your comment.Always i can see positive and highly matured comments. You always deserve that 10 star rating. Happy Posting!

The things are not happening the way they are supposed to be in many people's life.The responses here are may be the reflections of their personal life. The ones who really understand each other and lead a peaceful and happy life are really blessed.And I wish you a very very happy , wonderful and successful married life.

Right.The charm is gone as there is no mystery element left.

Why is it so difficult Lynnchua?

Maybe I'm someone blur and I find it difficult for me to really understand someone and I'm also trying not to understand too much of them.

Fine Dasari.Could you please start using the full stops too.It will be easier for me to communicate with you after understanding.Please.

I would have been surprised if it is the other way.I think that what you cace is the very normal thing.

I think that it itself is a bliss as you are very normal like all of us. Understanding the self and the spouse too, sounds so outlandish.Isn't it?

You said it right.

Who else does dear?

Yes it is a very hard and complicated task Jen this understanding.

Sounds so interesting friend.

Nice to know that.My blessing to both of you.