How is your school handling issues about bullying?

Philippines
March 23, 2009 8:59am CST
Are they dealing with this problem at all? Or are they still in denial that it is happening among their students? Has your child been a victim of a bully? How did you handle the situation? Did the teacher try to defend the bully instead of punishing him? Thank you in advance for sharing your insight on this.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
23 Mar 09
i hate a bully but they have been around since i was in school a longgggg time ago & before that i'm sure. there are always going to be bullies in the world looks like. i always tried to teach my sons how to deal w.\/them & they never has a whole lot of trouble w.then.if i had to get involved i sure did jump in their w/both feet. sometimes they are the teacher's pet because teacher knows their parents well or whatver. i dread my grandson starting to school. they thought i was bad when i was a mom wait till they see bobo as he calls me. lol
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I'm with you on this, Jo. Parents should be involved if ever their child gets in trouble with a bully...and yes, there are times when teachers get to be on the bully's side for some reason. Thanks so much for sharing and have a great day.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
23 Mar 09
thanks, u to.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Apr 09
thanks for the best response. happy days to you.
@Darkwing (21583)
26 Mar 09
I only live in a small village and there is one primary school with not many pupils really. There are only four classes there, one for each group, from Nursery to Junior leaving age, i.e. 41/2 yrs to 11 yrs. There are only about a hundred pupils there and to be perfectly honest, even when I worked there as caretaker, I never heard of any bullying going on. So, to be honest, I think they must have it well under control at the school. Brightest Blessings.
@Darkwing (21583)
27 Mar 09
Yes and there are only a few of them from outlying villages, so most of them have been brought up together, so that probably reduces the risk of bullying as well.
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
That's great, Darkwing. Not having too many students make it easier for the school to monitor and guide them. Thanks so much for your response. Take care.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi elmolovesu! My nieces go to private schools and there have not been any single reported case of bullying happening within the school. My brother always asks his children if there is any incident that they were being hurt or harassed in any way, and that if ever something like that happens, they should always report it to the school authorities and to him especially. I also asked my nieces and nephews regularly about bullying and they always say that nobody is harming them in any way. I do know that bullying is very common in schools and I really hope that the school authorities will be vigilant about this. Take care and blessings to you. lovelots..faith
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi dear friend! Yes, I do think that happens and of course the schools will never want any issues against these high and mighty families. That is really sad. I hope that on day they will get what they deserve. lovelots..faith
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi faith. Your nieces are very lucky to be in that school. Some of the parents I know have told me about bullying cases in their children's schools..and these are exclusive schools. Most of the bullies even come from affluent families. The sad part is that sometimes, school authorities choose not to deal with the issue because they are intimidated by the families (some have political connections). Thanks for sharing. God bless.
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@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
23 Mar 09
When I was in high school bullying was taken very seriously at my highschool. They had a no nonsense rule. They also had a starfish program that came up with ways to prevent bullying. Then they had a peer to peer counseling program. I actually did an indepth report on bullying for my senior project. Bullying is not right at all. I was never bullied, but I have seen kids be bullied, and were to afraid to stand up for themselves. I think the district were I am deals very well with the issues of bullying.
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi tlb. I'm happy that it's being handled very well in your area. Coming up with the program/project you have mentioned is a very good way to make everyone aware of this. Thanks so much for your post. Have a great day!
• United States
24 Mar 09
This is such a tough issue because we're still not to the point of finding out what is fully going on. My oldest went through some brief bullying and I finally told her to do what she needed. So, she told the kid that her mom was a witch and if she didn't stop that I'd put a spell on her. Needless to say, it worked. The kid didn't do anything more. I don't defend bullies in my classroom, I deal with them pretty directly. I hope you have good luck with your child. Bullying is not right. Namaste -Anora
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi Anora. I'm glad to know that you handle this issue directly and not tend to look the other way. I admire you for being a good teacher. Sadly, there are still some who won't even try to investigate things and would just give the run around. Your child handled it very well, by the way. Thanks so much for your response. Have a great day!
• United States
23 Mar 09
there is nothing like bullying in the school i attended... if you try it, you are expelled.. so if you like that, try it
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
That's good. I'm happy that there are no bullies in your school. Thanks, billgatexp. Happy mylotting!
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Hi, elmolovesu! As far as the school that my son goes to, they are allowing the kids to wear navy, lightblue, khaki colors for their school's uniform. They claimed that this would decrease the bulliness. But, I don't see how, the kids still tease other kids regardless of the clothing that they are wearing. My child has been a victim of another student. He said that the boy in his class hit him in the face, and he was crying... When he came home that afternoon, he had a swollen mark that had a dark bruise on the side of his eye. The boy in his class had to have hit him really hard to leave that kind of bruise. This is the first time that this has ever happened to my son.. So, the teacher sent him home like this without telling me anything.. I don't think that we ever followed up on this incident.. So, he eventually got transferred from this school to another one.. But, the next time that this happens, you better bet the back of my shoes, that I will tell the teacher and principal about any bullying against any of my children!
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Hi cream. I'm so sad to hear about your son being a victim. I'm also mad at that boy who bullied him and that teacher who didn't even do anything about it. Yes, you should talk to the teacher and principal in case something like this happens again. Thank you so much for sharing your experience on this. Take care!
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@anjel016 (329)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Bullying is not really that much issue here in our country. There would only be few students who would do so. But most likely if it did happen, if the victim asked for helped, the school is very much active in aiding the child. Bullying should never be tolerated.
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I agree with you, anjel..it should never be tolerated. The students in your area are lucky as they don't have to deal with this problem. I'm from the Philippines and I know some parents who actually have to deal with their kids being bullied. Thank you for taking the time to respond. Happy mylotting!