Once you have a child, your own needs come second?

Yes, i agree with you very much. Personally, even if i have spare money that i can spend for my needs, i will just buy toys for my kid. maybe not all mothers are like that. but i do love my kid so much that i won't mind not being able to buy a new pair of jeans even my jeans doesn't fit me anymore.

Hi, zabawaus! Yes, when you have a child your needs does come second. I have three kids and my need comes second after all of them. Believe me they do! Th life that you used to have in the past no longer exists. If a woman cares about her kids she will not leave them on others just to go out and party and get drunk. She should enjoy her life without taking risks. She can still have fun but she should do so in a respectable manner for herself and her child. When a woman becomes a mother she has responsibilities to another human being that can't just be placed on the back burner! I am glad that your mindset is there. When you do decide to have kids, you will be ready to handle being a new mother.

I agree with you. I think everything has a change after having a child. My child will be the most important for me. For example, I pay attention to his birthday rather than mine. I tend to buy more for him rather than myself. I love China