Step Parents or Step Grandparents
@DonnaLove1976 (67)
United States
March 23, 2009 1:18pm CST
My question is do all step parents or step grandparents treat their spouse's kids or family badly. Why is this why do they think they or they'er family comes first it should be equal. I grew with up a stepdad that seemed too hate us and treat us like we were the worst kids ever,when actually we were good compared to the ones today.My stepdad hates when my mom spends time with us. He rather for her to let strangers to borrow money from her then her own kids.And I have an evil step grandmother that hates my mom and us grankids she acts like we will take everything from her and her kids and we can't ask him for help because she'll raise all kinds mess.Are you a bad stepparent or you the stepchild being treated like this. This is why when I am in a relationship I try to treat the stepchild as I should have been treated only when they get ugly do I get ugly because I am not going to let someone run over me.So let me know your opinion on this.
2 responses
@corona1234 (467)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I have a stedad he is great and he probably treats me better then his own kids.My mom has been married to him for the last 18 years,since i was 24.He treats my kids just like they were his own grandkids and we treat his daughters kids just like were from our ownbllod.My mom has custady of my step nephew and he is treted just like my kids are if not better.
@pentaluda0878 (118)
• United States
23 Mar 09
You know at times the reverse of this can be true as well. And sometimes the best of intentions can blow up in your face. When my new DH and I got together he had 2 kids, him and both kids moved in with me and mine. There was certainly a parenting gap, I'm very organized and scheduled and that sort of thing, he was a single dad who spent more time with his computer than his young (4 and 2) kids. It was rough at first, and I'm sure they hated me but they were treated JUST like my kids, over time things were great, until Grandma showed up. and we found out DSS wasn't even DH's son, so he went to his moms to live. all to soon things go really nasty. bio mom and grandma hated that the kids loved me and talked about me all the time and called me their "other" mom, that I went to their activities an volunteered in their school, my kids went to this school to, same grade even. and worse yet that DH asked me before making choices about the kids. We were a family. All to soon bio mom had DSD telling me she didn't have to listen to me cause I wasn't mom and that she wasn't aloud to call me her other mom, and that things like, not giving her a snack made me mean. So yeah, I'm sure there are bad step parents out there but sometimes the bio parents don't give the step parents the chance to actually be a good one.
