I just don't understand religion
By snowcat46
@snowcat46 (2322)
United States
March 23, 2009 4:38pm CST
A lady I know just lost her husband. She is a Roman Catholic, he isn't. She has went to church all her life. When her husband died, the Church said he couldn't be buried in their graveyard. He wasn't a member. She can, he can't. Even though he's given donations, he never joined, so he can't rest beside her. Isn't that just the most idiotic thing? Talk about segregation!! Sheesh!
The funeral home that is handling it spoke to the Church. The funeral guy left her home and about 20 minutes later, the Church called and said her hubs could be buried there as long as she was going to be buried beside him. I think funeral directors or the people who work for them are some serious unsung heroes! He took that worry off her mind and a lot more. These guys are a great help in dark times.
What are your views? Have you had this happen to you or anyone near you? Did the funeral home help you through the rough time?
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9 responses
@ranjan21 (8)
• India
24 Mar 09
ok u said that a ladfy lost her husband and the priest dint allow the lady to bury her hausband.but do u know what is the fault of the god.he dint told the priest that not to allow her husband there. it wasthe dicision of the priest that not to allow her husband bcoz she was aroman woman. ok so dont blame on god that he dint allow the person to give rest beside him.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Oh. One more thing. If God commanded something and anybody took it to mean something completely judgemental, offensive, harmful, and capable of causing fracturing of relationships, sadness, war, and segregation, he meant it THE OTHER WAY.
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@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I said nothing about God. I talked about religion. Religion is the worship of God by man. Religion is the process man uses to worship.
@PrarieStyle (2486)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Well, there lies the difference between "religion" and a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I have accepted him in my heart, I take him wherever I go. I can and do pry anytime, anywhere. I can and do worship him anytime, anywhere. I don't go to church though I feel I should for the fellowship. But I know he still loves me and will never forsake me. When I die, my children know my body will be donated to Science, I won't need it anymore.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Thank you for your clarity and sincerity and genuineness. If other people were like you it would be easier to understand different viewpoints as far as religion. I feel a sense of peace from you, as well as no attempt to wish ill or convert anybody who disagrees. I appreciate it.
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Well said and well thought out. I applaud your honesty. And your wisdom.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Well, I for one do not understand all the judgement and segregation and other stuff that goes on within religion, but that's okay, I don't have to understand it because I don't take part in that mess. It certainly hurts a lot of people needlessly.
I think it is extremely silly to have to prove yourself to a group of PEOPLE by looking down on other people who believe differently, aren't part of 'your group', or just because a higher-up in your organization decides they don't like somebody. However, I wouldn't want any part of a group that didn't accept some people for a stupid reason anyway. If someone is married, they should have companion rights, regardless of whether they are a member or not, and regardless of what they believe too.
This has never happened to me but I see situations like this happen and I really can't think LOW enough of people who would treat another HUMAN BEING this way.
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@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Agreed. I won't belong to a group that shuns someone just for being different. This same church allowed them to be married, I don't see them having the right to deny burial now. Just cause he didn't convert, like they were banking on, isn't an excuse.
@worldbestwriter2008 (1633)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
hi! Religion is easy to understand if you have religion in your own..Have you not find yourself a member of any fellowship which aims an honor like worship and faith to God..In your case here..since you are a catholic bring your husband in a catholic cemetery and let him burry there..it's their responsibility to accept man of the same faith..your husband is welcome to catholic since you are a catholic..
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Not me!! I'm not a Catholic! They tried to force me into it, saying they wouldn't marry us if I didn't convert. But that didn't work, and I NEVER agreed to join. They still married us (probably with the firm hope I'd convert).
Worshipping God is one thing, segregating a graveyard is another. A man and wife should have the right to be buried next to each other, no matter what their faith. All the religions worship God, they just have different ideas on how.
@Interdistibution1 (166)
• Canada
23 Mar 09
As we can see the priests are using their own judgement and not God's. No where in the bible does it say you have to be a member of a church to be buried besides your spouse and no where it says you can't be cremated either.
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@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
23 Mar 09
The Catholic religion has a bunch of rules that are like that, and you are right it is man's judgments and not God's word. But this lady knew that her church felt this way. I assure you that even though it is wrong and sad, everyone at that church that is a member knows that that is just how it works.
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@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
24 Mar 09
That's one of the reasons that that church frowns on people reading the Bible for themselves! A lot of the older ladies there own a family Bible, it has the family tree in it, but they've never read a word in it! Their priest tells them what it says. I disagree with that wholeheartedly!
I doubt she'd ever thought about it. All of the previous generation had only married inside their faith. Most of her siblings had married within the faith as well. So the thought had never come up. The few that did marry outside it, their partners eventually joined.
@raoulandrei (25)
• Romania
24 Mar 09
I am orthodox and belive me,the religion is not hard to be understand. Is a extraordinary thing to go to the church,to pray,to be devote to your God. The recompense is great!
But honestly... I don't agree the protestants and the neo-protestants cults! They have incorrect ideas about the christianism! They are away from Jesus...
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@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Most religions worship God, they just use different names for him. Allah, God, Yahweh, whatever, it all means God. They're all worshipping the same Being, each just chooses different ways. Just like people all choose to live in different type houses, work at different jobs, read different books.
Protestants worship Jesus too. Separating a couple's bodies because they're not the same faith is ridiculous though. God made the ground and the Earth, not man.
@ulalume (713)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I don't think it would be appropriate to segregate a graveyard. They do it a lot where I live, and it is somewhat disturbing. People believe in religion because of its afterlife (primarily). The graveyard is a place where all people of all races, cultures, and religions go when they die. It is unavoidable. A body is a body. A cemetery is no more holy if a Roman Catholic is buried in it than an Atheist.
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@elly_biz (65)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 09
I think something wrong with the church, just because the husband not a member of that church then cannot buried in the graveyard, what the hell is that opinion. i really don't agree to that church who make a difference to people who are the member or not. i understand maybe the church's graveyard is the property of the church and their member who always give donation to them, but its just like the church only concern to the donation from their member.
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Exactly!! The family went there every Sunday, he gave donations every time. I dislike a church that only cares about their donations. That graveyard holds all her relations, to deny it to her husband was uncalled for.
@rosa_pearl (70)
• China
24 Mar 09
how can i say,different peole own different ider,maybe she thought that god will protect herand she was so sad because of loing the husband,maybe losing the confidence of life.she believe god can help her.
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
24 Mar 09
This was about the Church, not about the lady. She had nothing to do with the church's decision.
