when will you say "I DO"

Hi becnh83, i think arrange marriages by parents is terrible and greedy for money, money is not important as LOVE and HAPPENIESS COUNTS, after all its for life so if you marry someone for securitey and wealth you will have to be so very unhappy also wht if the man beats you daily? would your parents stand by you or just let you suffer in silence because of money, I would disown my parents and may end up doimg something that is not in my nature. Hugs. Tamara

maybe i'll say "i do" when i know i am ready for it. i'll go for love. but love alone is not really enough for a marriage nowadays. and because of the economic crisis. couple should really get ready for better living. i do not really need a very wealthy person. what i just need is someone who is responsible enough and who is capable of providing me and our future family all of our needs. anyway, if you really wanna get married in this era you should really think about it hundred times and be sure of all the consequences thereafter. happy mylotting.

I think there is nothing better than a happy marriage.. unfortunately some think this just happens.. or not, when what it takes is some amount of skill. And marrying someone kind in the first place of course. Never think someone will 'change'! If they want someone to change they should marry someone else! I tied the knot 29 years ago, after going together for six years.

When I lost my fiance almost 19 years ago when our house burnt to the ground, I told my dad that I had given up on love because it hurt too much and that I was going to marry for money/security instead because it didn't hurt like love does. Then I met my husband, fell in love and married him 6 months later. Now I joke about it and say, I have to love him because he sure doesn't have any money! LMBO!! We've been married for 17 years now.

There are a lot of things to consider here, marriage is a contract that is both social an economic. Love is emotion and can come and go. Security is very important for raising a family.

The love of course! I have never been married yet and I will not get married until I know for sure we are compatable enough to spend the rest of our lives together. I do not ever want a divorce if I say the words I DO. I was asked once to get married and I said yes. But the whole time I wasn't excited about it I had the feeling I was doing the wrong thing. I told him this and he turned into a real A*#hole. I knew right there that we could not spend our lives together. I gave him his ring back and we have never been together since. I still think to this day I did the right thing and I don't even miss him at all. I am very happy with someone right now. We have been together over two years. not so long ago we almost seperated but held it together and things have been going even stronger since! I feel we are compatable and hope things continue in this path. If so he will be the one I say I DO too.