How is your relationship with your mother-in-law?

Philippines
March 24, 2009 4:35am CST
I have been married for almost eight years now. I don't have any problem dealing with my other in-laws except for my mother-in-law (MIL). I know it is really hard to deal with MILs. I have heard stories of how MILs and daughter-in-laws clashing on a lot of things. I, for instance, have always felt that she does not want me for his son. Until now, she always tries to grab his son's attention especially if it is our birthmonth (unluckily our birthdays are on the same month). There was even one time that she insisted on us having the same kind of present. How about you? How is your relationship with your mother-in-laws? How do you deal with it?
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Mar 09
I have a very healthy relationship with my mother-in-law and I respect her like my own mother. However, my better half's perception might be different about her own mother-in-law, which I cannot change........LOL!
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
24 Mar 09
OH! Your hubby and I have similar nature.
@rsa101 (38148)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
I started my marriage living with my MIL unfortunately she passed away sometime ago. Well during her stay with us she seem nice to me and somehow we got along pretty well that is in terms of tolerating each other. What really was the proiblem is the constant friction that happens with her daughter (my wife). I think they have this on/off relationship and they have been this way since then. But when they are in conflict I am just lucky that my MIL would as much as avoid having discussion with me. I do not join in the conflict they have but I always show that I support my wife in any situation they are in.
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
A lot actually says that MILs are better with their son-in-laws than with daughter-in-laws. Your lucky enough that your MIL is not trying to avoid you in cases that she is in conflict with her daughter. And I think she loved you more because she sees that you are always on your wife's side. Thanks for responding!
@rsa101 (38148)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
I guess I was just lucky that I didn't have a very controlling MIL. Although I can feel there are attempts to become nosy on things but it did not escalate into a large scale conflict during her stay with us.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Hello wickedlysexy! I always heard a lot of things about having a hard time dealing with mother - in - laws. I just got married but sad to say, I haven't got a chance to meet my mother - in - law because they are both in Heaven now. I really can't say how would our relationship with my in - laws but I think we will be ok.