they just broke up....

very familiar situation.my youngest bro wanted to marry his long time gf but when she found out that my bro has kid to other girl but she knows it and basta oongs tory.anywy if the girl did not carry on means they are not meant to each other diba?

Hello checapricorn, My two nieces just broke up with their boyfriend. I pity one of them as she just get engaged last December. They were only engaged for a month and the guy asked to break the engagement. As for your friend, I don't see any problems of having a kid. At least, he told her the fact. Maybe they are not meant for each other.

Hi che, it is rather sad and pity as well to learn that the relationship of the couple who are your good friends broke up. It is still 6 months to go before the wedding ceremony. From your description, it seems that the guy still loves his gf very much. Since the guy hadn’t hidden the story about his 4 years old kid earlier why your former roommate still couldn’t accept the fact which never be changed anymore. Or might be the gal feels jealous and dislikes seeing her boyfriend always takes good care of the kid as well as to treat the little kid intimately though that is totally parental love. If she really loves her boyfriend she has to love the kid as well. I believe there must be a way to solve the problem if they really love each other. If they really couldn’t get together anymore, it is still considered to be lucky that this happens before the marriage. Happy posting and have a nice day.

It is sad indeed.But it is their life and they are best ones to decide. It is also very touchy and sensitive matter. we should not indulge much into others' relation.

I remember that discussion... and i was quite happy because it was like a fairy tale love affair... it is just sad that it did not end up with a happy ending... but who knows... maybe this is just a trial on their part... and that there is still hope of them getting back together... If they already thought of getting married... then the feelings they have for each other must be for real...

hi che..it so sad to hear about your 2 friends ..so far my relatives are doing good as well as my friend too..how about you?..have a nice day

No, no breakups happening here but I am equally sad too! I remember that discussion of yours distinctly and was so happy for them for meeting and finding love after so many years. Somehow I am not liking this girl now, the child is only 4yrs old, he can definitely be molded according to her likings and dislikings. She can of course become a mother to him and then have her own children too! Anyway (sigh) each to his/her own

that is certainly sad, these things should have been worked out before they decided to get married. There is only one person at this point that I know, it is my son's friend, who has never been married but wants to be with a woman that has a child He doesn't know what to do, is he supposed to be a father, is he supposed to just let the woman make all the decisions about the child, is he supposed to sit back and let the child's father come around and dictate what goes on in the house.

Well,Not in my family.Nor anyome I know right now. Things happend alot when you least expect them... If he really is a good man then mabey shell come to her sences and relize what she has done and for what reason is just silly...goodluck to them

Hi Che, Oh!! that is a sad news. Yes, there are people who can not accept a partner who has a kid. If the mother of the kid is not yet married, this might be the real cause of the girl's decision for break up. The fact couldn't be denied that the guy and the mother of the kid has their communication this time because of the kid and that might bother your friend although there is no existing relationship with the man the the mother of the kid but your friend still think that it is not healthy for their relationship. It is bothersome.

I don't htink that the child is the issue but the child is being made the scapegoat. Ther has to be other reasons thna the man having a child. she should love this child because it is her husband's and make sure that he does provide for his son and see him regularly. There must be another reason. Yes, I do have young friends that are breaking up and my son who is in the U.K. seems to be breaking up with his girlfreind and this is such a pity as she is a lovely young lady.

I feel so sorry to hear about that!but,If I were the girl,I would accept the child.Cause the child is inculpable.they should not leave the child alone.what dou you think about?